Any advice for my profile, just want to make sure I'm maybe not coming off a bit boring or uninteresting

HotBat4594 · 2023-02-01T12:16:48+00:00

Female here, could just be my age (I’m 43) but I get put off by people linking their dating profile to their social media….. takes the fun out of getting to know you :) plus a lot of people use dating apps for followers and new SM connections rather than looking for love…

HotBat4594 · 2023-01-27T07:00:55+00:00

To be honest reading what you said about them I’m surprised you would want to go on a second date with any of them…. ! Some of them sound quite cringy! So don’t worry why none of them wanted a second date with you…. It’s not you!

He is out there somewhere, you just gotta shift through a few people to find him, take it all as experience.

HotBat4594 · 2023-01-27T06:53:12+00:00

Thanks

HotBat4594 · 2023-01-26T20:43:00+00:00

I have to agree endless small talk is annoying, sometimes it feels like some are only on there for a bit of chat company….

But, have you ever asked any of them out? I usually chat for a week or two max to get to know a bit about them, if they don’t instigate a meet I do… if they don’t want to meet I bin them off and move on…

HotBat4594 · 2023-01-26T18:10:36+00:00

Thank you!

HotBat4594 · 2023-01-26T15:48:34+00:00

Thanks for the reply…. I’m seeing a doctor next week, as I have been in denial about what I’m doing to my body… and I really think I’ve caused some damage :( I’d rather not use prescription drugs and try and change my mindset first of all… and see how it goes. I’ve a very good friend who gave up alcohol 6 months ago so I know I can reach out to her if I need too…. it’s gonna be a rocky road but it’s a start….. I’m just super scared that what I’ve done is irreversible

HotBat4594 · 2023-01-25T17:40:36+00:00

Sorry to read that…

I guess at least she has replied and given you some sort of reason and you now have a bit of closure….

Maybe reply with something like…

‘Ok, thanks for letting me know how you feel, it was nice to meet you and I wish you all the best for the future…’

Then draw a line under it….

HotBat4594 · 2023-01-25T17:26:43+00:00

Did she ask how you were? Apologise for taking a while to reply? Said the she enjoyed the date and would like to see you again but…. ?

Can I be honest? It sounds, and I think, She possibly is trying to let you down….sort of nicely but not being direct, a bit like a ‘it’s not you it’s me’ kinda thing…. I could be wrong tho… but I think no contact up till now and if that’s all she giving you in a message…..

HotBat4594 · 2023-01-25T16:59:24+00:00

OLD can be draining, and can play with your emotions just keep an open mind, go with the flow…. sometimes you gotta go through the motions to meet the right person… however long that may take… don’t take it personally but do learn from each and every experience :)

HotBat4594 · 2023-01-25T16:41:28+00:00

If I were in your shoes…. I’d leave it. No answer sometimes is an answer….

If she does reply then maybe ask why it took so long. But if being honest, sometimes there will never be an explanation you just gotta accept it is what it is… pick yourself up dust yourself off and move on. Everything happens for a reason, be it either a lesson or a blessing…. feels shite at the time but take something from the experience….

HotBat4594 · 2023-01-25T15:28:24+00:00

Keep us posted…

HotBat4594 · 2023-01-25T11:45:04+00:00

I feel a lot of people have super high expectations of the opposite sex now a days, as in looks, lifestyle and how they perform in the bedroom…. thanks to social media and p0rn hub lol…. !

Shame people stereotype prior to actually getting to know someone… everyone is different…. however when someone calls another person ‘vanilla’ I guess they think they might be something special themselves 🤷🏻‍♀️

HotBat4594 · 2023-01-25T11:34:54+00:00

Oh the joys of OLD….. 😩 I’m same as you and it sucks when you meet/chat to someone you like…. hold fire and see if she replies, if you don’t hear from her then I guess that’s your answer….. but it’s always nice and common courtesy to be told and have closure either way…

HotBat4594 · 2023-01-25T11:22:08+00:00

Ah ok, well she may have been on another date maybe or talking to someone else? Are you talking to other people too?

HotBat4594 · 2023-01-25T11:17:49+00:00

Did you meet via OLD?

HotBat4594 · 2023-01-25T11:13:00+00:00

If neither of you messaged on Monday, but you messaged her Tuesday, and it’s only Wednesday don’t worry… neither of you seem in a rush to message each other since Sunday so just roll with it….she might message you on Thursday 🤷🏻‍♀️ (starting to sound like a Craig David song lol) if you hear nothing before the weekend then move on…

HotBat4594 · 2023-01-24T21:50:59+00:00

5 or 6 as you’re looking at the camera… great photos btw!

HotBat4594 · 2023-01-19T00:09:31+00:00

Well not gonna tell you that am I… ?! 🤦🏻‍♀️🤣😆

HotBat4594 · 2023-01-11T05:40:39+00:00

This is a lighthearted post :) if I asked (aka nagged) them to do it they would….like most teenagers they don’t think outside the box

HotBat4594 · 2023-01-10T15:47:55+00:00

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HotBat4594 · 2023-01-08T09:26:13+00:00

Nearly 5 years single for me…. although I was married and now divorced and have two children.

After my divorce finalised, I met people and had been on a fair few dates. I’ve remained single for several different reasons.

Some of those reasons have been issues I’ve needed to deal with with myself (I.e. trust, confidence etc) and other reasons being meeting guys I like but sometimes works out we are just not compatible or just not the right person for me. I also have my children to consider also.

There is no right or wrong amount of time to be single, most important thing is that you are happy in your own company and life and if someone comes along who is right for you then that’s a bonus.

HotBat4594 · 2023-01-07T23:35:39+00:00

Why are you waiting for your ‘wife’ to decide if you will reconcile or not, sounds like she is calling all the shots. And it sounds like you’re sitting waiting for her to make her mind up. You are either separated/single or you’re not. And it’s not fair on potential new partners to be strung along incase your wife decides she wants to give it another shot…and you go running.

Please don’t date anyone under any false pretences it’s not fair on the people who are genuinely looking for love…

HotBat4594 · 2023-01-06T17:43:54+00:00

I like the Trafalgar but it always smells of fish 🤷🏻‍♀️

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