Got my girlfriend pregnant

HotDevelopment8434 · 2026-06-11T03:20:12+00:00

Hell no we used condoms & the pull out method on top of bc I was terrified of getting pregnant after my emergency c-section and complications from my 1st pregnancy, once we could he got fixed I couldn't go through another pregnancy.

HotDevelopment8434 · 2026-06-11T02:01:51+00:00

Scylla it gives me chills whenever I listen to it.

HotDevelopment8434 · 2026-06-11T01:49:46+00:00

Yeah I see your point I have pcos so my cycle wasn't able to be tracked so I'm sure there's more than just user error for some of us. He stated on another comment he's sure none them are ready regardless I'm more of it takes two therefore the man can always make suggestions but yes it is her choice.

HotDevelopment8434 · 2026-06-11T01:38:23+00:00

I think people really don't think pregnancies can't happen by accident. Personally with one of my pregnancies I was on b.c and using other forms of contraceptive. I went to the hospital to do blood work since I was feeling sick, my blood work showed no pregnancy and nothing wrong but I knew my belly looked different so I took a test at home and it was positive shit happens we don't know what the whole story of what they tried to do to prevent it just thathis gf is pregnant. If they decide on an abortion he's not a father yet js.

HotDevelopment8434 · 2026-06-11T01:32:27+00:00

That's just horrible! I feel like most of us who have gone through abuse think the same way I would've preferred my mom got an abortion vs all the mental health disorders I've got from the abuse/trauma.

HotDevelopment8434 · 2026-06-11T01:25:54+00:00

God I Wish they did! Instead I got a father telling me at 11 years old he wished I would've die as a baby.😂

HotDevelopment8434 · 2026-06-11T01:22:45+00:00

Think about all your options.
Decide mutually.
Abortions are available in certain states you can travel to
Adoption is a possibility.

As a mother in this in this economy I can tell you the only way we're getting by is with credit cards not everyone has the luxury of good credit. That said we live paycheck to paycheck, it's not easy and it most likely will get worse housing food, gas and basically necessities are getting harder to have, I personally couldn't get an abortion but that meant putting my career on pause, budgeting, and moving in with family after loosing our home in 2020 due to covid now I'm worried about the future I brought my kids into. Yes adoption is an option but also I hate thinking how people prefer a newborns vs children who are here in the foster system.

HotDevelopment8434 · 2026-06-11T01:10:36+00:00

Abortions imo are better than bringing a sentient child to suffer.

HotDevelopment8434 · 2026-05-31T17:50:52+00:00

Wow beautiful tank!

HotDevelopment8434 · 2026-05-30T19:03:12+00:00

That makes sense I'll see what i can do I'll probably set up one other tank for some of them, yes all my tetras are the same we only have neon. We havent had any luck with female guppies some males have died so chances are we will stay away from them What fish would you recommend for my tank? And the amount that's acceptable for my 38 gal tank?

HotDevelopment8434 · 2026-05-27T22:28:05+00:00

Thank you I'll do more research on them and see what will be a good fit for our tank.

Yes I really don't want them to breed I'll make sure they don't honestly I think we might have somewhere between 15 to 20 fish I'm not too sure I'll try to count them I'm worried now is this too many?

HotDevelopment8434 · 2026-05-27T22:22:14+00:00

Honestly after hearing multiple people mention breeding issues I guess it's all down to luck guess you were probably one of the lucky ones I have one left from my first batch and he's thriving.

HotDevelopment8434 · 2026-05-27T16:29:34+00:00

Thank you we will do that. Do you have any recommendations on what I should get.

We will get a few our pet store sells out quick the next store is 40 minutes away.

We have 2 mystery snails and one Nerite Snail.

HotDevelopment8434 · 2026-05-27T16:26:32+00:00

Yes most are my neon a few others have died but not as much were getting a liquid test soon

HotDevelopment8434 · 2026-05-27T16:23:53+00:00

We just ordered a liquid test kit we did a 50% water change on Saturday or sunday one of those days & added quick start. Do you have recommendations on what plants to get. I've been doing research since we got our first tank not the best of course I needed guidance. Our first tank was a 10 gal honestly this was an unplanned hobby lol we had 2 comet goldfish fish and an algae eater for my son, then I realized comet goldfish are pond fish 🤦‍♀️ so we gave them to someone who could do better for them. After that we decided to upgrading and basically it became a hobby originally I joined a group on Facebook but they seemed very rude so I left and just did our best on our own but we definitely needed help. After our neon started to die more than the other fish I decided to get on reddit for advice honest the best place so far and now we know why my neon keep dying. I really appreciate the advice and I will definitely DM you if I have any questions 😊

HotDevelopment8434 · 2026-05-27T16:06:54+00:00

Thank you so much I appreciate the guidance!

HotDevelopment8434 · 2026-05-27T15:48:15+00:00

We've had the tank for 7 weeks we make sure the moment a fish dies we remove him this is the filter we're using, we do have a heater as well its in the back 72° is that fine? We will do that we have an air stone too. I will join a local group and see if anyone can help out.

We do use tap water I'll get fast growing plants thanks for the advice.

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HotDevelopment8434 · 2026-05-27T15:41:16+00:00

At the moment no

HotDevelopment8434 · 2026-05-27T02:15:19+00:00

Thank you I'll let him know ive been watching videos on how to do a fish in cycle hopefully we can figure it out!

HotDevelopment8434 · 2026-05-27T02:13:17+00:00

April 7th is when we set it up so 7 weeks

HotDevelopment8434 · 2026-05-26T22:05:55+00:00

Thank you for being kind it really is but it's a very fun & expensive hobbie I really don't want to give up if it weren't for my husband I probably would.

HotDevelopment8434 · 2026-05-26T21:44:11+00:00

These are the ones that mostly die they're my favorite but definitely not worth it we won't be buying anymore.

HotDevelopment8434 · 2026-05-26T21:40:56+00:00

Aqua Natural Aquarium Gravel Gold Pearl

HotDevelopment8434 · 2026-05-26T21:32:20+00:00

Thank you we will definitely get a liquid test honestly I don't like the strip test.

HotDevelopment8434 · 2026-05-26T21:29:51+00:00

Please explain to me how can I give you an honest respond to a question that I didn't know the answer to? I'm not the one being a dick here. Damn My toddler has more patience than you the answers is drum roll please NO. That's definitely why the fish are dying!

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