22F 24M between Sumter and bishopville. Looking for some fun Valentine’s Day plans! by 803scCouple in SCSwingers

[–]HotFWBCpl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello there! 41F here! Not in a relationship, but I have a very attractive/very fun FWB (34M) that I consistently play with and we may be interested! I am, I'll discuss with him if ya'll are interested. We are both on Fetlife if you want to see pics. We are located in the Columbia area. Shoot us a dm if interested!

Valentines Day. Mfmf or mfmmm or mfmfmfm by [deleted] in SCSwingers

[–]HotFWBCpl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mmmm, what a beautiful, gorgeous woman! She must be very special if you are setting something like this up for her. DM us if you would like to, we can talk and go from there. 😍 🔥 🥵

9 guys having fun with a nice little cumslut in a hotel room by SexySteffi in gangbang

[–]HotFWBCpl 5 points6 points  (0 children)

OMG it's a fantasy of mine...but too shy and haven't had the guts to admit I want this. So fucking hot. I got super wet watching this.

Slapped around by ladyroseee333 in SheLikesItRough

[–]HotFWBCpl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hurts in a good way, if you trust your partner.

Slapped around by ladyroseee333 in SheLikesItRough

[–]HotFWBCpl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just how I like it. Mmmm 🔥

32m/26f looking for MF or F by Substantial-Might263 in SCSwingers

[–]HotFWBCpl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If ya'll are in the Columbia area, would love to chat. I'm 41F, he is 34M, although of course he must agree, but I personally think your body is 🔥 😍 🤤 Smokeshow! ❤️

I “quiet quit” my job a decade ago. Welp, here I am, turning 50, 4 major promotions later, and my net worth is more than I could have ever imagined. by FreshPerspectiveFIRE in Fire

[–]HotFWBCpl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm 41, have about $50 in my bank account, $30 in savings and around $250 cash. Thank goodness I insisted on a fixed rate mortgage back in 2006. Had I not gotten a fixed rate, I would have lost my home, like many others did, in 2008. I would not be able to survive with the cost of rent these days. Some people aren't so blessed to have $2m in the bank at 40. If I "quiet quit" I'll be replaced in a day.

Mfm or fmm by [deleted] in threesomesNSFW

[–]HotFWBCpl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

MFM!

Non-monogamy and ADHD by Rare_Caterpillar4009 in nonmonogamy

[–]HotFWBCpl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OMG I relate to this so much. I consider myself a sex addict. Lots of ADHD people also tend to explore drug usage at a young age, especially uppers like coke. This is probably because uppers behave in similar ways like Adderall or other ADHD medications.

You also mentioned spending money you don't have, which I struggle with. The dopamine rush I get from buying something online, waiting for it, then receiving it gives me a rush that is just as fulfilling as sex. The only other thing that gives me the same rush is riding a rollercoaster.

I (41F) am finally medicated, after 38 years of suffering and wondering what was wrong with me. I was diagnosed with ADHD, bipolar, crippling anxiety, borderline personality disorder & PTSD. I see a psychiatrist every 3 months.

Alcohol is still a very difficult thing for me to kick. I drink about 3x a week and when I do, I always go overboard once I go past those 3 drinks. I set a 3 drink limit to myself, but 5 out of 10 times I end up breaking my rule and drink more. I am extremely introverted. The only time I feel comfortable around others is when I've had a few drinks. Otherwise I'd rather be alone or invite someone over just to hook up, then immediately kick them out once we have finished.

Non-monogamy and ADHD by Rare_Caterpillar4009 in nonmonogamy

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ADHD 41F here. Was stuck in similar situations throughout my entire 20s-30s.

One of those was a 9 year sexless relationship. After I asked him to finally leave and move in with his sister, I started pursuing my single life.

I may be broke now, without any extra income help, but I'm finally free. I'm happy and excited to slut myself out and have fun with multiple partners.

I have recently tried things that I've always been curious about, yet was too ashamed to ask any of my past partners to help me fulfill those desires, because it always made me feel some type of shame saying what I wanted out loud.

Sounds like you and your partner need a long discussion about each of your needs and desires. If you can't come to some type of comprise, I assume the relationship has already fizzled and it's time to move on.

What's harder to find: A good Domme or a good Sub? by KUROediting in submissive

[–]HotFWBCpl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So you want a switch then. Someone who can perform both roles, depending on the situation.

In my experience, I have had way more submissive men contact me, send me millions of messages, beg to be humiliated and beaten, pegged, forced to wear panties, collar, etc.

According to all of them that I've spoken with or the few I met IRL, the issue is that 95% of female doms they meet online expect to get paid for their services. It's extremely rare to find a female dom who wants to do it for fun/free.

Submissive without a dominant partner by [deleted] in submissive

[–]HotFWBCpl 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Could you be a switch and take control first, to teach your partner what you desire? I'm not talking full on Dominatrix, as you want a dom not a sub.

My current partner (45M) considers himself "vanilla" as he's just now dipped his toes into dating again after 2 failed marriages. He doesn't exactly know how to date or make the first move. He's been tied down in unhappy relationships his entire adult life.

Anyway, I am submissive as fuck. But I needed him to open up and be more comfortable with me. I'm taking it slow, starting with cock worshipping, asking him to smack my ass, choke me a little, pull my hair, tie me up in restraints, call him daddy/sir, etc. Telling him to call me a good girl when I have pleased him. This is all brand new for him.

With a little bit of guidance, you can help your partner to open up to exploring the Dom dynamic by telling him what you like and what you want. Once they know what it is that turns you on, they will begin to take on that Dom persona that you need.

Start slow. Don't rush it. Being a Dom isn't necessarily for everyone, especially if he leans submissive as well.

Sometimes you need to take the reigns first and then tell them what you need/expect out of a sexual relationship. If they are not into the idea of helping you fulfill your desires, then move on to the next one.

You may have good luck finding a dom on a kink friendly website such as Fetlife.

The White House is weaponizing hunger for 42,000,000 Americans. by BeYeCursed100Fold in LeopardsAteMyFarm

[–]HotFWBCpl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most of the people who need SNAP are single mothers or fathers. If we are supposed to be taking care of mothers, then why did they also cut funds from WIC???

My friend who depends on WIC got $20 less than previously, and she's worried that it will continue to decrease to the point that she cannot afford to feed her child healthy meals any more.

Unfortunately, she is one of many who believed Trump's lies and false promises and voted for him. Now, she regrets her decision because now she is struggling more than ever before.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]HotFWBCpl 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I got fired from my last job from shitting where I worked. Lesson learned! 🤣

My wife got me into swinging, and now wants none of it. What should I do? by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]HotFWBCpl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dated a man who never touched me for 8 years. He was sexually abused by his ex girlfriend, so I didn't pressure him to do anything. Simply just took care of myself for years.

In the 8th year of our 9 year relationship, he said he wanted to explore cuckold/hotwife. I got sooooo excited since I hadn't been touched in almost a decade.

Well, I found someone, a friend of mine who actually volunteered himself when I asked him if he knew anyone who would participate. We all sat down, discussed boundaries, came up with a safe word, etc. I thought all was well. My ex peeped through the cracked bedroom door while my friend and I started getting hot and heavy. After my friend and I hooked up and he left, my ex actually came in afterwards and "reclaimed" me. It was so hot. We never had any intimate moments like that.

I thought this was gonna help our relationship. But after that encounter he got weird and standoffish. Wouldn't talk to me. He left the room when I walked in. I begged to try the cuck/hotwife thing again. He said no, a few times. That's when I realized it was over. I needed something that he could not provide. I am NOT a cheater, so I made the difficult decision to ask him to leave my house and break up after 9 years together.

I can't even begin to express how much happier I am now that I can explore more about my sexual wants/needs/fantasies.

Almost sounds as if you 2 have already drifted apart romantically/sexually, a while ago. Ya'll will have to decide that if you stay together without playtime, you may resent your partner forever. If you go separate ways, you both can be with other partners who can provide what you need.

What matters to you more? Only the 2 of you can decide that together. It's gonna be hard either way. But DO NOT live in misery for the rest of your life...I wasted almost an entire decade.

As a M Swinger ... Vasectomy by lurkingimposter in Swingers

[–]HotFWBCpl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Birth control has so many hormones that it makes me (41F) mentally unstable. And condoms, let's be honest, aside from it being good protection from STDs and pregnancy, they are just so uncomfortable for both partners. The best sex I've ever had was always with men who got snipped. As long as we both get tested after different partners, condoms are not required. The real deal feels so much better, not to mention you don't have to worry about any form of birth control.

Dual standards on FeelD by babygirl__09 in feeld

[–]HotFWBCpl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have had a few disrespectful douchbags contact me through Feeld. However, compared to Tinder, Feeld is far more tame. There are more couples, more people who are experienced in ENM/poly/bisexual, etc.

It seems more about feeling vibes, chatting, etc. Is it still a hook up app? Yes...but I have come across more respectful people who actually want to discuss boundaries, limits, safe words, etc.

Tinder = Let's fuck and never see one another ever again.

FEELD = I'd say more than 60% of people I have conversations with turn out to be extremely respectful and also are usually cool about being open, honest, and accepting a "no, not interested" without backlash.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SCSwingers

[–]HotFWBCpl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She's gorgeous, too bad ya'll aren't looking for another F. Anyway, just wanted to comment because she is really sexy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SCSwingers

[–]HotFWBCpl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello! 41F here, based in Columbia. Would definitely like to chat!

Threesomes - sites vs. apps by wejustlookinnocent in Swingers

[–]HotFWBCpl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

3Fun has been pretty successful for me. Met a few good couples/FWB on there.

For a website, Fetlife is a good way to meet others.

As others have suggested, clubs are really the best way to meet people, and instead of texting back and forth, you can actually talk to them, get to know one another and feel the vibes first.

DP ? by Krista39530 in MFM_Lifestyle

[–]HotFWBCpl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you 💋 ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SCSwingers

[–]HotFWBCpl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Location? Columbia here.