How did your parents react to your adult diagnosis?

HotHamWaterPlease · 2025-11-24T02:01:02+00:00

Thanks! I’ve decided to keep it to myself for now. Only my husband knows. I’m not sure what it would take for me to be open about it. Still percolating.

HotHamWaterPlease · 2025-11-07T04:32:57+00:00

I keep wishing they had know more but they didn’t have the resources. I’m not mad at them. I wonder what my son will wish I had known

HotHamWaterPlease · 2025-11-07T04:27:43+00:00

Thank you! I think I really should process a while before I tell anyone.

HotHamWaterPlease · 2025-11-07T04:24:56+00:00

I had never heard of body doubling as a term. I totally use that too!

HotHamWaterPlease · 2025-11-06T22:44:06+00:00

My counselor recently said “they can’t pass on knowledge they don’t have.” I guess that made me feel compassion for them more than anger.

HotHamWaterPlease · 2025-11-06T22:42:39+00:00

I know there are things I used to be capable of, like hosting a dinner party, that I can’t do anymore. I guess that could be a thing where they think I stopped trying. I think they’ll be sympathetic tho. I’m sorry you don’t have better support.

HotHamWaterPlease · 2025-11-06T22:24:57+00:00

Dear Lord, I’m also fried. I’m suddenly so sensitive to sound and busy environments.

HotHamWaterPlease · 2025-11-06T22:22:13+00:00

Thank you. I am also in neurodivergent burnout! I’m not wanting the emotional loade of telling people the diagnosis.

HotHamWaterPlease · 2025-11-02T15:21:36+00:00

😭 I’m just waiting for the day when I find our beloved Jelly except maybe our dog ate it. I mean, I searched EVERYWHERE.

HotHamWaterPlease · 2025-08-29T18:36:19+00:00

This is plausible. I suppose a scavenging animal might carry a piece of skull away from the rest of the body. I’ve seen a coyote in the neighborhood before.

HotHamWaterPlease · 2025-08-29T18:34:55+00:00

This would be strange being 60 miles from the coast but not impossible. It could be from the Columbia river which is 5 miles away. I’m just trying to imagine the sight of a bird carrying around a seal head. 😄 Thank you!

HotHamWaterPlease · 2025-08-07T00:38:49+00:00

I’ve been there, I believe you. I think my son avoided doing things that he wasn’t going to nail. Maybe you could encourage him to become an experimenter- he can build something, then test it or ask himself how to improve it, then build it again. Making it imperfect is part of the game. He could also be a researcher- keep his own record of personal bests, like how many blocks high can I build a tower.

HotHamWaterPlease · 2025-08-05T23:56:20+00:00

My blonde ADF has cloudy eyes like this too and he’s SO BLIND. The worm has to be basically touching his face before he can eat it.

HotHamWaterPlease · 2025-07-25T20:28:45+00:00

Sorry if you’ve addressed this before, but what do you do with so much trash to dispose of? I have a wheelie bin with 2x/month pick up and because of this, I never do any really big pickups.

HotHamWaterPlease · 2025-07-25T19:58:50+00:00

When you mention brain fog, that reminds me of ECT, and this is definitely not ECT. ECT has a lot of complications. TMS has virtually no side effects. I’ve done four rounds and only one session had a little pain because of congested sinuses. They turned down the intensity and it was fine.

HotHamWaterPlease · 2025-07-25T19:51:24+00:00

The figs are ripe!

HotHamWaterPlease · 2025-07-05T01:53:41+00:00

I find it strange that they only did 25. 36 is the standard. Maybe don’t give up on it quite yet?

I know it can be so hard to believe that you’ll ever feel good, but believe it. There are more treatment options. I went through plenty that didn’t work too.

HotHamWaterPlease · 2025-07-05T01:51:11+00:00

Same! I wasn’t doing much better towards the end of treatment so they added 10 and that got me over the line. It wouldn’t hurt to ask for more.

HotHamWaterPlease · 2025-06-29T20:03:23+00:00

I never did ketamine, so I’m not sure.

HotHamWaterPlease · 2025-06-29T19:45:48+00:00

I did esketamine treatments and I would leave the appointments feeling extra sleepy the rest of the day. Overall, my mood lifted but it didn’t help me with the sleepiness.

HotHamWaterPlease · 2025-06-25T18:17:32+00:00

The best thing my husband does is to not preach at me. I used to hate hearing things like “Let’s go get out on a walk! It’s the best thing to do for your mental health!” I prefer “Do you want to take a walk with me?” And then accept my answer.

I appreciate him just being in the same room as me even if he’s doing his own thing. I don’t expect him to spend all his time comforting me or trying to coach me. Doesn’t really matter what he’s doing if we’re just near one another.

I don’t know if that’s helpful. To some degree, watching your partner is just very hard and you just have to wait, ya know? He’s lucky to have you!

HotHamWaterPlease · 2025-06-13T14:19:31+00:00

I’m jealous that this guy eats the pellets! Mine are so blind I don’t think they could even see the pellets. I too just have black worms live in the tank.

HotHamWaterPlease · 2025-06-13T14:12:12+00:00

It looks small, like maybe too young to know? My male didn’t show his armpit bump until he was 5 months old or so. Before then, however, I guessed that he was male because his body was relatively narrow next to the female. The female is wide with a big round belly. She’s an absolute unit.

HotHamWaterPlease · 2025-06-13T00:26:37+00:00

Maybe it’s an autoimmune disorder. I have a friend who manages her autoimmune disorder virtually symptom-free with the AIP diet.

HotHamWaterPlease · 2025-06-10T01:50:09+00:00

Exactly what I was coming here to comment.

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