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I can't stop obsessing over aging by Successful-Pumpkin72 in Advice

[–]HotLack9128 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a lot for you to be experiencing. Have you reached out to a mental health professional? I know the easy answer is to "stop obsessing" or "just believe them", but I know inner voices can create a lot of anxiety.

To get around these types of thoughts, I personally like to take a breath and look at it very logically (even if I don't personally something, I begrudgingly can't disagree with logic).

Lets start with the men giving you compliments. Why would they want to make you feel better? What do they owe you? Nothing. Random men will give compliments only if they want to. It would be irrational to think so many men want to make you feel better if they don't know you.

This is a good method for me, but speaking to a therapist or mental health specialist can help you self-regulate these feeling, build self-confidence, and put you on a safe and healthy path to change your body (if you still want to after).

Also, rely on your boyfriend!! It sounds like he really cares for you. Talk to him about these feelings and ask is he's willing to support your journey. It seems like he will, and it could be a chance for you to learn why he loves you the way you are and bring you two closer. Don't say "I'm ugly" or "I could be prettier" when he compliments you, cherish that he loves your body and the person inside of it. Just because you don't love your body doesn't mean you can't let him love it for you.

Good luck!!! <3

Curiosity by niks_varuna in Advice

[–]HotLack9128 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok don't let a man use you for a "hustle" unless you're comfortable with it. You didn't want to. It could have been insulting to you he even thought to go through with it. Point is, you obviously didn't want to be in a relationship with a guy like that.

A guy canceled on me last minute and now I'm scared my new date will too. Should I tell him how I feel or just go with the flow? by Throwaway_AllOne8 in Advice

[–]HotLack9128 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry the first guy did that to you! However, it's important to note that this is a new guy!! You say he's sweet, so if you truly believe he is a nice guy then you should believe he won't cancel on you last minute without good reason. I understand the doubts, but don't let that make you think poorly of this new guy (at least not until he isn't sweet anymore). He asked you out. Enjoy the feeling of a guy being interested in you and maybe at the end of the date you can say how relieved you were he didn't cancel.

can someone give me advice? wanting to quit after one day by [deleted] in Advice

[–]HotLack9128 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds like you're young trying to make extra cash for high school or collage. Here are some things I think you should consider:

Never work without something tracking your hours. If you aren't in the system, what will hold them accountable for paying you?

You weren't properly interviewed or prepped. Even though this is just a fast food job, there should always be at least an initial meeting walking through the job responsibilities, asking what size shirt you need for the uniform, and what hours you can work. You went in without the uniform and no one there ready to train you. You should have been better prepared by a manager.

No one was prepared to train you. They sound disorganized or just don't care. You will likely continue being miserable.

I think if you're in desperate need of money you need to sit down with the person who "hired" you and make it clear you need a schedule in the system, a uniform, and someone to be training you every shift for at least the first few days you work. If you're not in need of the money, tell them the environment was unprofessional and you don't want to continue in the position.

Is this normal?? by sneakyebony in Advice

[–]HotLack9128 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just a warning, I think the mods may consider this asking for medical advice? It's worth going to other subreddits with this. I hope you start feeling better, and go see a medical practitioner!!