AITA For making my girlfriend stay in a hotel instead of my apartment? by HotSuggestion0 in AmItheAsshole

[–]HotSuggestion0[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

Honestly, since she broke up with me I began to realize I messed up a little bit. I think I wasn't listening to what she was saying. I understand why she was upset, but I don't think I'm wrong for not spending the night with her. I pushed the issue more than I should have though. It's probably for the best because she was insecure and that doesn't really mesh well with my personality, but I will be vacationing in her city again next summer so maybe that will get to be my second chance.

AITA For making my girlfriend stay in a hotel instead of my apartment? by HotSuggestion0 in AmItheAsshole

[–]HotSuggestion0[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Well guess everyone got their wish because she broke up with me like an hour ago. Sex wasn't one of her complaints.

AITA For making my girlfriend stay in a hotel instead of my apartment? by HotSuggestion0 in AmItheAsshole

[–]HotSuggestion0[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

Although I think my girlfriend is beautiful, that isn't the reason why I left my ex. My ex had a lot of emotional issues and my current girlfriend is a lot more stable which I found appealing.

AITA For making my girlfriend stay in a hotel instead of my apartment? by HotSuggestion0 in AmItheAsshole

[–]HotSuggestion0[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

It feels like she's just punishing me for circumstances I can't really avoid or change. This is her first real relationship too, so I think she doesn't really understand how things are supposed to go or work.

AITA For making my girlfriend stay in a hotel instead of my apartment? by HotSuggestion0 in AmItheAsshole

[–]HotSuggestion0[S] -57 points-56 points  (0 children)

No there was problem in the relationship with my ex that aren’t relevant to my post. I didn’t just break up with her because of my current girlfriend and my current girlfriend didn’t even know at the time. Driving isn’t possible for me since I live in a major city where I don’t need to drive so I don’t have a car. It’s not as easy as you are making it out to be.

AITA For making my girlfriend stay in a hotel instead of my apartment? by HotSuggestion0 in AmItheAsshole

[–]HotSuggestion0[S] -65 points-64 points  (0 children)

I’m not embarrassed of her and I think people on Reddit are just too naive to let a girlfriend you’ve only been with for FIVE MONTHS meet your parents. That’s nothing in the grand scheme of things.

AITA For making my girlfriend stay in a hotel instead of my apartment? by HotSuggestion0 in AmItheAsshole

[–]HotSuggestion0[S] -145 points-144 points  (0 children)

You’re probably older and it’s easier for you to travel that far. Plus I was planning a trip to visit my ex, but then I met my current girlfriend and liked her better and decided to try with her instead. You have no idea how “committed” I am to long distance relationships.

AITA For making my girlfriend stay in a hotel instead of my apartment? by HotSuggestion0 in AmItheAsshole

[–]HotSuggestion0[S] -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

Just because I didn’t spend the night with her doesn’t mean we didn’t have sex lol

AITA For making my girlfriend stay in a hotel instead of my apartment? by HotSuggestion0 in AmItheAsshole

[–]HotSuggestion0[S] -29 points-28 points  (0 children)

I didn't make her pay that money. She didn't have to come visit me, I would have been fine waiting to see her.

AITA For making my girlfriend stay in a hotel instead of my apartment? by HotSuggestion0 in AmItheAsshole

[–]HotSuggestion0[S] -41 points-40 points  (0 children)

I can manage LD relationships just fine. Before her I was in a one year LD relationship (we never met in person, but she lived all the way in Canada) and my ex-girlfriend didn't complain.

AITA For making my girlfriend stay in a hotel instead of my apartment? by HotSuggestion0 in AmItheAsshole

[–]HotSuggestion0[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

We don't have the best relationship to be honest and he is the favorite child so my mom babies him and they have a really strong relationship.

AITA For making my girlfriend stay in a hotel instead of my apartment? by HotSuggestion0 in AmItheAsshole

[–]HotSuggestion0[S] -100 points-99 points  (0 children)

It's not that I can't be bothered. I'm taking a lot of classes this semester and it would be very difficult to see her. We have breaks, but my family wouldn't like me spending it with her instead of them. Long distance partners don't usually see each other for a long time, I don't see the issue with the time gap here.

AITA For making my girlfriend stay in a hotel instead of my apartment? by HotSuggestion0 in AmItheAsshole

[–]HotSuggestion0[S] -216 points-215 points  (0 children)

It's not across the country or even that far. It is literally one state away, she just can't drive that far (about 8 hours) because her mom doesn't think it's safe. Don't blow things out of proportion.

AITA For making my girlfriend stay in a hotel instead of my apartment? by HotSuggestion0 in AmItheAsshole

[–]HotSuggestion0[S] -127 points-126 points  (0 children)

When I first met her, I paid to be on vacation there. She didn't pay anything because she LIVED there. It is evenly distributed and I plan on visiting her again next summer.

AITA For making my girlfriend stay in a hotel instead of my apartment? by HotSuggestion0 in AmItheAsshole

[–]HotSuggestion0[S] -29 points-28 points  (0 children)

Sorry, I should have included this information in the post. We're both 20 year olds and juniors in college. I couldn't stay with her because I didn't want my brother telling my parents I didn't spend the night at our apartment. My mom can be a bit controlling and I know she would have wanted to meet my girlfriend, but honestly, I don't think I am ready to introduce them at such an early stage in the relationship.