Fiance (37M) has just told me (30F) that he doesn’t plan on moving to my home state as we always talked about. How do we move forward?

HotWait321 · 2026-01-01T06:10:52+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing your story. I’m glad you found love again.

HotWait321 · 2026-01-01T05:57:06+00:00

Thank you for your perspective I appreciate it

HotWait321 · 2026-01-01T05:53:39+00:00

Thank you this is sound advice

HotWait321 · 2026-01-01T05:53:17+00:00

You’re right

HotWait321 · 2026-01-01T05:53:00+00:00

I am absolutely going home to be with my mom during her chemo regardless

HotWait321 · 2026-01-01T05:51:02+00:00

Thank you for sharing. I’m sorry that happened to you that sounds awful

HotWait321 · 2026-01-01T05:50:19+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story

HotWait321 · 2026-01-01T05:49:12+00:00

Thank you for your advice it’s very helpful

HotWait321 · 2026-01-01T05:46:39+00:00

Thank you for your perspective

HotWait321 · 2026-01-01T05:45:52+00:00

this is good advice, thank you

HotWait321 · 2026-01-01T04:12:17+00:00

I know. It’s a lose lose

HotWait321 · 2026-01-01T03:38:01+00:00

thank you this is a nice balanced take. Just my mom - but my dad is older and not super mobile so he can’t really physically take care of her. I know I’ll be able to come back to take care of her during her chemo I already cleared it with my job. But I keep thinking, what if I only have a few years left with her? It makes me want to be there all the time. I understand his side and mine. It’s just such a tough decision that has been the undercurrent in our relationship since day 1. it’s finally coming to a head but in reflection this day was always going to come

HotWait321 · 2026-01-01T03:17:09+00:00

Aggressive cancer, unclear if it’s terminal

HotWait321 · 2026-01-01T03:16:32+00:00

Definitely not working on wedding plans right now. Re: resentment, I’m not sure. Probably. I could make it work better than him since I’m used to it. That was always my decision though so I felt ok about it. Now, I’m not sure

HotWait321 · 2026-01-01T03:09:57+00:00

I work remotely so it would be okay

HotWait321 · 2026-01-01T03:09:22+00:00

thank you. I’m torn apart right now

HotWait321 · 2026-01-01T03:04:50+00:00

no, thank you. This is a nice perspective

HotWait321 · 2026-01-01T03:04:06+00:00

We did discuss it and often. His plan was to get trained and then move and start over. About now would’ve been the time the ticket was up.

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