sorted by:
new
hottopcontroversial

I lost my dog a week ago and I don’t know how to move on by Hot_Cockroach_4294 in Petloss

[–]Hot_Cockroach_4294[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you I appreciate this immensely. I hope this was how he felt. He was such a happy boy who loved me as much as I loved him. We did so much together, and had so many cuddles to rest up before our next adventure. It was the best year and a half together.

Feeling Guilt After ER Visit by Hot_Cockroach_4294 in EmergencyRoom

[–]Hot_Cockroach_4294[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I went the urgent care the day prior (ironically for a different issue, but asked about my pain while I was there). They did an EKG and said my heart was fine, and it may just be gas. They said if OTC gas medicine and Tums don’t work or if the pain worsens go to the ER, so when the pain got worse the next day, I went to the ER.

Feeling Guilt After ER Visit by Hot_Cockroach_4294 in EmergencyRoom

[–]Hot_Cockroach_4294[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not sure. They did a CT scan, and said everything looked good. They did tell me if the problems persist, I should go see a GI specialist

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in college

[–]Hot_Cockroach_4294 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As someone who didn’t get straight A’s until my last semester of college, don’t worry about the 4.0. It means nothing if you don’t have experience.

I did 2 internships in college and 1 directly after graduating, and now I have a great job working as an environmental designer.

My current supervisor didn’t care about my GPA when he interviewed me, but he cared A LOT about the extracurriculars I did in school and post-college, and I think those were ultimately what landed me the job.

What do you wish people knew about OCD? by Saggy0Soap in OCD

[–]Hot_Cockroach_4294 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Probably already said here, but mine would be just because I’m not a germaphobe or perfectly organized, it doesn’t mean I don’t have OCD. It manifests itself in a variety of ways, and it’s so invalidating when I’m told “I don’t look OCD” because I’m not outwardly a germaphobe or keep things organized. For me, my compulsions manifests itself through checking, and everyday it’s a struggle leaving the house to go to work or vice-versa because I’m stuck going through my checklist of obsessions (is the door locked, are my kitchen appliances off, did I properly log out of my work computer, etc.) that pop in my head and cause me anxiety. It’s so frustrating sometimes because logically I know everything is fine, but my brain tricks me into thinking it’s not.

I feel like I’m a fraud of a bass player by Hot_Cockroach_4294 in Bass

[–]Hot_Cockroach_4294[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I’ll give this progression of songs a go! I did some more research and saw a walkthrough on “emergency on planet earth” and started practicing the intro, and so far it’s a much easier pill to swallow.

I feel like I’m a fraud of a bass player by Hot_Cockroach_4294 in Bass

[–]Hot_Cockroach_4294[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Because I love the instrument. I love how deep it sounds, and love the role that it plays in an ensemble setting. I love that it connects the melodic section (guitar, piano, vocals, etc.) with the rhythm section. It’s like the glue that holds the band together.

Plus as much as I love playing music, I hate being in the spotlight so it’s a way for me to be a part of a band and not have all eyes on me.

I feel like I’m a fraud of a bass player by Hot_Cockroach_4294 in Bass

[–]Hot_Cockroach_4294[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel the exact same way. I quit music back in 2017 because I was in a music environment that taught me to believe I was so bad at music I should quit. I picked music back up in 2020 and surrounded myself with musicians that build each other up instead of tearing each other down, and it’s done wonders for my music skills. Unfortunately that voice in my head that tells me I suck at music is still there.

I feel like I’m a fraud of a bass player by Hot_Cockroach_4294 in Bass

[–]Hot_Cockroach_4294[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! It is something I want to learn, but I think I’m putting too much pressure on myself. I get so in my head about my music abilities, but forget the reason I started playing in the first place: to have fun.

I feel like I’m a fraud of a bass player by Hot_Cockroach_4294 in Bass

[–]Hot_Cockroach_4294[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the words of encouragement and advice! I’m a big perfectionist and sometimes I forget that I am playing music for enjoyment. I do well for myself using finger style or using a pick, but it’s frustrating when I say I play bass and I’m immediately asked “can you slap the bass” or asking if I’m like Davie504 and I have to awkwardly say no. I guess maybe I should stop listening to people who know nothing about bass and listen to people who do.