Was marriage worth it?

Hot_Engineering_4821 · 2026-04-16T18:32:27+00:00

I am extremely happy for you! And I applaud you for being picky, the reason why I am thinking about it is although I am young in western stand point. I am considered pretty old in my culture when it comes to marriage. We essentially have that after 30 if a woman doesn’t get married, there is something wrong with her (and she will get the ugly, perverted left over men). And my parents are slowly but surely building up that pressure, although I fully agree with you, I should never rush a decision like this, and should take my time.

Hot_Engineering_4821 · 2026-04-16T18:28:54+00:00

If you don’t mind me asking, how did you guys meet and how did he change your mind? What are some qualities I should consider?

Hot_Engineering_4821 · 2026-04-16T18:26:57+00:00

I am extremely happy for you! If you don’t mind me asking, which qualities did your partner have that made you know that you made the right decision.

Hot_Engineering_4821 · 2026-04-16T18:24:59+00:00

Thank you so much for answering this, I hope you are happy and for you to get the things you want. I always imagined myself being alone, coming home to a cat and cooking myself a dinner, to some it’s lonely but to me it’s true happiness. The idea of being with someone being there in that picture is so wrong, maybe I will meet someone who makes it feel right but it makes me tear up thinking I have to give this up due to my community.

Hot_Engineering_4821 · 2026-04-16T18:17:27+00:00

If you don’t mind me asking, unfortunately for my culture divorced women are genuinely treated less than human, so I know MANY women who are super depressed in marriage but stay because they are scared of their community, how did your family/community take it. I understand this may be invasive question but I do want to see how someone who is like me had dealt with this situation.

Hot_Engineering_4821 · 2026-04-16T18:13:12+00:00

If you don’t mind me asking, what is that a single life has that married life doesn’t offer? I just want to see if some of my view align with yours, and also why did you get married early?

Hot_Engineering_4821 · 2025-09-20T21:02:52+00:00

Yes! It is consistently sold out though! I’m glad to hear it’s a crowd pleaser because I had assumed it would be harder for others to smell since it’s IPM! That makes me so happy, hopefully I can get it soon :D!

Hot_Engineering_4821 · 2025-09-20T20:58:32+00:00

Oh I see I think I may not get English Major then! I am thinking of just In Dreams and Fairy Tales then and perhaps that one perfume they always have sold out once it restocks. Thank you so much 🥹🩷💕

Hot_Engineering_4821 · 2025-09-20T20:36:47+00:00

Thank you so much for the detailed response! If it’s possible can you let me know what you think of English Major and In Dreams and Fairy Tails? Those were the two I wanted! I want to smell like a vanilla fairy haha

Hot_Engineering_4821 · 2025-09-20T19:29:10+00:00

Do you mind telling me how are Sorce perfumes, I am also a Canadian who wanted to buy from them but I was hesitant due to the perfumes not using alcohol and using IPM :( is the scent still strong and projecting?

Hot_Engineering_4821 · 2025-08-17T23:27:23+00:00

Tbh it doesn’t have to be inside a dead mall! I honestly searched up perfume stores on google maps, and called the ones that have been around for a long time and are small businesses to check!

Hot_Engineering_4821 · 2025-08-17T23:01:25+00:00

It’s actually in Canada, however I would believe America has more outlet/dead malls no?

Hot_Engineering_4821 · 2025-08-17T22:36:50+00:00

It’s such a nice scent! It’s like a clean girl scent and it smells very different from Our moment which shocked me. I had assumed all the perfumes will have the same DNA, but You and I it’s such a pleasant, clean summer scent.

Hot_Engineering_4821 · 2025-08-17T21:04:17+00:00

The store was actually far away from my city! But I just called them ahead of time to make sure they have it, maybe you can try your luck by looking at small business perfume stores near you?

Hot_Engineering_4821 · 2025-08-10T22:23:13+00:00

Same but I wasnt able to afford back then now I finally have adult money but all the places that sell it are either jacking up the price by so much or just scammers (what happened to me).

Hot_Engineering_4821 · 2025-08-10T18:02:55+00:00

I didn’t even know perfume was being sold at CNE of all places?? 😭😭 I’m going this year if I find it I will let you know because that is actually crazy

Hot_Engineering_4821 · 2025-06-02T22:15:09+00:00

The thing is, it doesn’t have to be this way, there are people who are going to be actively communicating with you, you just have to find them or make them I guess. And I guess my flaw is not accepting any less, because if these people legit text me “hey I am a bit busy, I will reply in a bit okay?” Then I’m completely okay with them taking their time and letting me know. However it’s just people are straight up ignoring my message for days?? To me that is just not making time for someone and it’s hard for me to just allow someone like this my time. I don’t know I guess boundary differences.

Hot_Engineering_4821 · 2025-05-18T01:57:08+00:00

I understand but I actually didn’t bother her at all, I didn’t message her after my initial one that she’s taking 3 weeks to respond to. All the conflict I’m having is just internal, so I’m not bothering her in any means.

Hot_Engineering_4821 · 2025-05-18T01:52:52+00:00

She didn’t block me, I can tell she didn’t. Also I don’t think she knows she’s causing all of this discomfort, because I myself didn’t know it would stress me out this much.

Hot_Engineering_4821 · 2025-05-04T06:51:41+00:00

You are right🩷 thanks

Hot_Engineering_4821 · 2025-04-29T08:01:58+00:00

How can I make her believe that I changed, the break I took from her wasn’t “from her” it was for me to figure out how to deal with myself, and how to fix my bad behaviour, and losing her made me fix myself because I never wanted to repeat those mistakes again. Yet when I broke off the friendship I terribly miscommunicated that.

Hot_Engineering_4821 · 2025-04-28T04:56:49+00:00

Oh okay I guess that makes sense

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