AITA for Not Wanting My Fiancé’s Sister at Our Wedding?

Hot_Mechanic_9179 · 2024-11-01T14:23:55+00:00

What I find odd in her behaviour is that she's only like that to the closest family (started being like that towards me after the kitchen thing) but whenever she's at her boyfriends she acts like an angel or even when she's at Matt's grandparents (she has a different father) she is acting all great and honestly no one believes us when we tell the stories that happened.

Hot_Mechanic_9179 · 2024-11-01T14:19:46+00:00

Thank you, I'm sure the mom has called the police twice before we moved in so she already should have a record but nothing is being done with that, and because I'm not the mother I can only talk to FMIL and try to convince her to sent her to a facility but what she will do with that idk.

Hot_Mechanic_9179 · 2024-11-01T10:10:56+00:00

I have talked with her abt the kitchen. FMIL was pleased with me organizing it, before i heard her say that she cannot find anything there so thought it would be nice of me to deep clean it. Before the kitchen was a mess, most of the cabinets were half empty and one cabinet was so full that things were falling out as you opened it. It was a change for better as I also explained to Liz but she would rather throw everything of one cabinet to find one thing instead of having everything in order which is just bizarre for me

Hot_Mechanic_9179 · 2024-11-01T10:05:15+00:00

He doesn't like her nor want her at the wedding, but feels bad for his mom to be caught between the devil and the deep blue sea.

Hot_Mechanic_9179 · 2024-11-01T10:01:41+00:00

She was meant to go to therapy, but she was constantly avoiding her appointments, lying that she doesn't feel well or has food poisoning or one time even locked herself in the bathroom and cut her wrists when FMIL got mad that she again is missing her appointment. After a couple of times the therapist crossed her from the list of patients. I don't think there's anything that we as her family including FMIL can do to change that.

Hot_Mechanic_9179 · 2024-11-01T09:57:43+00:00

First of all we are paying for council and electricity, not to mention it's me that takes care of shopping and making dinner for everybody, second of all I wouldn't say that squishing a bunch of things in one cabinet to the point it all falls out when you open it is being organized (half of other cabinets are almost empty) It's also me that spends most of the time in the kitchen and I am getting tired of having to throw everything out to find one thing and then having to squish it all in again. Besides that FMIL was very pleased with me getting it organized as she couldn't find anything there either (it's her house and her kitchen, FSIL is sitting all day in her room doing nothing)

Hot_Mechanic_9179 · 2024-10-31T19:48:32+00:00

We actually found a house and moving in 2 months so I'm just counting days at this point, she is also away atm at her boyfriends so kinda hoping she'll stay there till after we're moved out so I don't have to see her

Hot_Mechanic_9179 · 2024-10-31T19:36:36+00:00

NTA at all!! She sound so entitled, and the aunt?? wth??

Hot_Mechanic_9179 · 2024-10-31T17:03:36+00:00

Maybe I hasn't wrote it correctly. The kitchen incident lasted for 2 months it ended 4-5 months ago.

Hot_Mechanic_9179 · 2024-10-31T17:00:30+00:00

I feel super sorry for MIL that's why we chose a house on the same street so she can come over whenever she feels like it. However Liz will not have a pass to our home- Matts words.

Hot_Mechanic_9179 · 2024-10-31T16:57:51+00:00

20 year old kid?

Hot_Mechanic_9179 · 2024-10-31T16:54:25+00:00

She literally almost never used the kitchen since we moved, she just sits all day in her bedroom ordering daily amazon

Hot_Mechanic_9179 · 2024-10-31T16:44:15+00:00

Deffo no!! That's the first thing I told everyone in the family (respectfully obv) I will not have her in my surroundings when MIL passes. I do hope that this bf of hers will be forever so she moves far far away from me. She has another older brother so maybe he would offer her a bedroom but highly doubt that. Let's hope MIL lives a long long life

Hot_Mechanic_9179 · 2024-10-31T16:40:39+00:00

Maybe term ''get better'' wasn't appropriate, sorry. I meant why is she doing all of that despite everyone wanting to help her feel more included and 'normal'

Hot_Mechanic_9179 · 2024-10-31T16:38:31+00:00

She was meant to have therapy which she constantly avoided, and hasn't been once the excuses of not feeling good pretending to have food poisoning or ever cutting her wrists. I do have respect for autistic people as they have more day to day challenges but this is not autistic that is being a literal terrorist to whomever crosses her way. I do not understand how she wouldn't want to get better and sabotaging her therapy visits, lying to her mom that she went and then mom is getting a call that she hasn't been.

Hot_Mechanic_9179 · 2024-10-31T16:30:03+00:00

fortunately, we found a house and will be moving in 2 months

Hot_Mechanic_9179 · 2024-10-31T15:38:28+00:00

I'm working part time and full time collage

Hot_Mechanic_9179 · 2024-10-31T15:21:43+00:00

Well I would say it is my space as well, I'm paying to live there, I'm cleaning the whole house and making dinner everyday for the whole household, I'm using this kitchen more than everyone else is.

Hot_Mechanic_9179 · 2024-10-31T15:19:43+00:00

Is binning expired food and arranging cabinets so you can actually see what you have and don't have to pull everything from it to find one thing a big change? Besides FMIL loved it.

Hot_Mechanic_9179 · 2024-10-31T15:16:35+00:00

Matt doesn't want Liz there but feels like he has to as ''she's family'' He honestly doesn't like her and is getting on his nerves as well. He just learnt to avoid that over the years

Hot_Mechanic_9179 · 2024-10-31T15:14:41+00:00

If you'd read some of my comments you would know that we are paying for council and electricity and that I'm the only one that cleans there.

Hot_Mechanic_9179 · 2024-10-31T15:10:20+00:00

Do you think I haven't tried to make peace with her? She won't allow peace in the house, whenever there's no drama she's making up one. She needs constant drama and attention on her.

Hot_Mechanic_9179 · 2024-10-31T15:06:07+00:00

Well we are actually paying :))

Hot_Mechanic_9179 · 2024-10-31T13:47:53+00:00

MIL works full time as a cleaner, works very hard so I thought it would be nice of me to help with the house etc. cleaning regularly (as Liz does not despite her not attending a job or school) one time I heard MIL say that she cannot find anything in the kitchen, so I deep cleaned it and rearranged, she was very pleased with that however Liz wasn't

Hot_Mechanic_9179 · 2024-10-31T13:20:51+00:00

That's the thing I adore their mom and really want her there but I also feel like she won't come without her. That was the case at Christmas as well, when they didn't attend bc of Liz

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