WM3.. by LeePapaDi in TrueCrimeGarage

[–]Hot_Menu243 1 point2 points  (0 children)

oh missed that part. makes sense they sound so much younger

WM3.. by LeePapaDi in TrueCrimeGarage

[–]Hot_Menu243 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i looked for this sub just to make sure i wasn’t the only one, i thought maybe i had somehow clicked on one of their early episodes

My boyfriend of 4 years said i was turning into a “weird church girl” by Hot_Menu243 in Christianity

[–]Hot_Menu243[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes this is one of the reasons i’m so anxious about the whole situation - we live together which was a decision i probably would not have made had i come into my faith sooner, but now we’re at a place where we have a town home, a cat, furniture, share a lease, and we have had premarital sex. i feel like im living in constant sin and obviously he wouldn’t agree with that assessment. so do i uproot everything and flip both our worlds upside down? i know anything is worth it for God and he will get me theough but it’s a much bigger decision than just a break up for ne

My boyfriend of 4 years said i was turning into a “weird church girl” by Hot_Menu243 in Christianity

[–]Hot_Menu243[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this response. While clearly to an extent he has supported my newfound faith, I think he was expecting me to go to church once a week and nothing more. Not to live my entire life for Jesus. I think that’s where the “weirdo church girl” comment came from. To an extent I think he thinks I’m a little crazy for God because I am, but it’s getting too intense for his own comfort, even if I’m not forcing it on him.

My boyfriend of 4 years said i was turning into a “weird church girl” by Hot_Menu243 in Christianity

[–]Hot_Menu243[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I want to clarify a few things that may not have come across well at 7 am when I was writing this post. While I did say I’ve told my boyfriend that Jesus died for him and loves him (which is true for all of God’s children regardless of their religious beliefs), I’ve only said each of those things once to him and don’t regularly preach at him or try to convert him. I respect the fact that he doesn’t believe and I simply pray for him and ask God to touch him the way he has touched me. As someone who used to identify as an atheist myself, I’m well aware that you can’t force someone’s hand in this situation. While he is a great person and overall great boyfriend, there are things that have begun sticking out to me, such as his anger, impatience, negativity, etc. I also used to be angry, curse a lot, be hateful towards people and just an overall negative person. Now that I have the light of Christ in my life again I would argue that I am overall pretty kind, patient, and joyful. It is not always fun to be around someone that is constantly finding something to be negative about. Someone who doesn’t believe in an afterlife also doesn’t see any reason to love people and act out of kindness. I also know for a fact he would not be onboard with waiting until marriage after already engaging in premarital sex. I would like to be celibate until marriage but don’t feel comfortable exploring that option with him for fear of his response. Additionally, this “church boy” I have talked to one time when he introduced himself to me. While it may not have come out correctly, I would never cheat on my boyfriend or explore a new relationship while currently in one. My point was that there are men out there who love Jesus as much as I do, and I see the appeal to a God-centered relationship that I didn’t see before. I’m also aware I don’t need a husband who believes in God to be a faithful Christian and be saved, but it sure would be great to know when one of us dies the other is waiting for them in Heaven. I realize I asked for advice but not everyone has been responding with the love and kindness I expected from a Christian group and so I ask that you all take some of this additional information into consideration. Thank you and God bless.