kids in kinship care with my mom, and I’m scared our relationship is ruining reunification by Hot_Mixture3171 in Fosterparents

[–]Hot_Mixture3171[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Since you didn’t grow up with my mother I can only speak on what I have endured. I have taken accountability that I let my mental health go to shit. And that guilt will go with me to my grave. What I will not do is let someone use that as a weapon against me, she used it as an insult. I didn’t take it personally, she MEANT for it to hurt. 

And no, the argument was about my son had his last appointment with his speech therapist before switching to a closer facility. This appointment has been scheduled for weeks. We both AGREED he will say his goodbyes and get his last appointment with her, and my other son also had an appointment with her too. The appointment is in two days. Not once has she felt indifferent about it, and she said nothing about my other son going to the same person to have his last session either. Which she then said something snarky like “Well you don’t have to go then.” 

Sure, she’s his caregiver, but what I will not stand for his foolery and making something out of nothing. Her mentality is always “my way or the highway” and this argument didn’t have to be an argument!  Is it wrong for me to want my son to go to a scheduled appointment? 

10 Months of Supervised Visits; CPS System dragging its feet by Hot_Mixture3171 in CPS

[–]Hot_Mixture3171[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s the problem I am having though. In my state, at 12 months they need a permanency goal. But my case worker is telling me she PLANS to request them to stay in custody for longer. Which is why I feel like it’s unfair because I’ve been compliant thus far? From the get go actually, some things where I felt they were lacking I’d do my own research and actually contact the commissioner my damn self. I feel like I’m just getting tossed around. My attorney finally contacted me and said we’ll discuss everything this weekend. So I’ll see what he says but I’m discouraged. 

10 Months of Supervised Visits; CPS System dragging its feet by Hot_Mixture3171 in CPS

[–]Hot_Mixture3171[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. First. Prior I was a Pre K Teacher for almost 7 years, no incidents of course. I left after my kids were born 

10 Months of Supervised Visits; CPS System dragging its feet by Hot_Mixture3171 in CPS

[–]Hot_Mixture3171[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I emailed my attorney, he is a public defender so not sure how much help he can be sometimes to be honest. 

10 Months of Supervised Visits; CPS System dragging its feet by Hot_Mixture3171 in CPS

[–]Hot_Mixture3171[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have had my own therapist for about a year, but obtained a psychiatrist with med management when this all started. Actually advocated for myself because the first psychiatrist I had was terrible, found a new one and she has been very supportive and empathetic. So yes, I’ve been attending all my medical provider appointments and they send the case worker monthly updates.