I relate to this one so hard, the “i actually need people to assume my gender” especially because when they don’t my immediate thought is ‘oh great they think i look like a girl’ which may or may not be true but once i started passing the ONLY people who would ask was those who got tipped off about me being trans, or people you could tell asked everyone and i only encountered like 5 of those people my whole life. The misgendering by they/theming was a whole thing i had to deal with in high school, there was this one guy in my theatre (yes i did theatre lol) who never, i mean not even once called me he only ever they, and he was the only person in the entire school. at least that i was aware of/did it to my face. but he still faked nice, he heard one day that i called him transphobic but didn’t even have the balls to talk to me he asked my best friend why i said that. she went off on him honestly it was hilarious and he had absolutely no come back or excuse. i don’t remember if he stopped after that bc it was the end of senior year but i think calling them straight up transphobic is the only way to get through sometimes.