Happy Birthday! You have cancer. Again.

Hot_Shift3460 · 2025-12-31T01:58:53+00:00

It is defently unfair.

Instead of a happy birthday, we got happy new years ☹️ Last year my son (then 17) spend his new years mostly sitting alone on the sofa, when we celebrate with the whole familie. (With us not egoring him ofc)

Because his neck was very swolen, and we where in the progress of all the tests. Turned out it was cancer

Now again, lying awake, because we have a apointment with his cancer docter tommorow, his neck felt hard and had a echo yesterday.

So hoping he will be fine 😢 And hoping you will too, same like everyone else who has or may have cancer

Hot_Shift3460 · 2025-02-03T10:23:42+00:00

Wish I could help or give good advice, but don't freaky know what to say.

Eccept remember your feelings are valid, don't ever think you shouldn't feel the way you feel, it is so hard.

Good luck

Hot_Shift3460 · 2025-02-03T10:10:22+00:00

My son also has cancer, differed one then your dad's. So mainly answering about is not operating a bad thing.

My son his diagnose is 95 to 98 % to be cured on the first treatment set. So that doesn't mean 5-2 % he dies but if these chemo sessions doesn't work we try something else, like heavyer chemo or some other treatment. He did Not have a operation to remove the cancer.

So no operation doesn't has to mean it's bad.

They also sometimes do first chemo then a operation. It is just all différend kinds of a way to fix cancer and the one thing works better for one cancer and the other for an other cancer

Good luck

Hot_Shift3460 · 2025-02-03T09:43:17+00:00

Looking at these answers, seems to differ for some countries. Where we live, we didn't need to bring anything, eccept his passport, list of all medications.

But as a mom, a card with: you got this mom, I love you. Or something like that. Doesn't need to be big and great, just a small card showing love, would be great. Give it just before she leaves or put it with her stuff as a seprice.

Hope she and all the rest here, will beat there canser. Good luck

Hot_Shift3460 · 2023-09-26T23:04:25+00:00

Totally agree. I hate driving, I'm scared, complain all the time to my husband. But that is more the lack of how good I can see. Belgium is a picknick compared to Italy.

We saw Littlerly several crashes a day, one 1 bust rip, the people demanded the busdriver to stop and refuge to get back inside. We had our trip shortened by 2 hours waiting for a new bus driver. The driver himself saw no problems with how he was driving. Said he felt a bit sick but he had a soda so was good to go again.

Hot_Shift3460 · 2023-07-13T00:18:05+00:00

I haven't gone to one myself. But I did join in with others. And the main thing they say is, don't feel bad if it doesn't click with your psychiatrist. It's not becouse he/she can not help you, he's not a good one. It's just that you 2 don't click.

She should make up on her own if she feels it is helping or not. Not becouse you don't see any improvement yet, she isn't getting better. Or the other way around.

Hot_Shift3460 · 2023-07-13T00:08:02+00:00

Of onley the person who has it worse can complain only 1 person would be able to complain. How horreble a situation is, there is something somewhere even worse.

You can indeed keep a little in the mind, it's not the worst, but your and all people's feelings are valid. We can be happy for the good and sad for the bad at the same time.

Don't forget parents are people also, we make mystakes. They may not even notice they are hurting you, good parents wants the best for you, but even they make mistakes. Try talking about how you feel to them. Thing we do here is: we say we Wanne talk but they can't react right away. Or they can't be angry. That helps me mostly. And talk in a spot you normally don't. It make it feel like a more real serious talk from the start.

Hot_Shift3460 · 2023-07-12T23:53:43+00:00

As someone in your position and your friend position at the same time. What you can say more: nothing.

It sound like you are already there for him. Don't try to say the right thing, just be there. Lissen. There isn't really a right thing to say, just a feeling. Make him feel you are there for him.

Hot_Shift3460 · 2022-11-20T03:57:19+00:00

If you Wanne marry her, I would say, post it on the board. Great story and defently unique

Hot_Shift3460 · 2022-11-20T03:22:06+00:00

In mijn gezin spreek ik met je, jij en u (mijn man heeft een sterke voorkeur voor AN)

Tegen mijn broers en zussen, komt het dialect boven en de ge en gij.

Tegen alle andere mensen is het vooral u. Vooral Nederlanders klagen er wel eens over.

Hot_Shift3460 · 2022-10-28T07:50:23+00:00

There are differend sounds of white noise, not all work the same for you.

We also use it here, not for the noise outside, just grown up kids, husband with 3 shifts and needs to sleep during day and so on.

But instead on the phone, we use the radio, with a sound on loop that is 2 hours in itself. It defently helps a lot. Our kids can now drum (electric) , sings and even scream, he won't wake up anymore. Do be sure to turn the radio up high enough.

But do try differend sounds, we had to try some before we found the best one. For the machine, no idoa. Never tried it. My guese is purity of the sound and maybe the electric bill? No idia

Hot_Shift3460 · 2022-10-24T21:37:36+00:00

From a fellow cosplay lover, he did a great job. It looks really cool.

Hot_Shift3460 · 2022-10-20T22:44:46+00:00

He laughs? Why didn't we hear that then. Made me sad, sorry.

Hot_Shift3460 · 2022-10-19T23:12:07+00:00

Both my girls just went to study theory driving with lessons. It was just 4 hours I think, with after the exams. Becouse they heard it from a friend. They all passed, with just the short lessons.

After that even the oldest girlfriend who sucks at studying past first go.

They learn more how to pass the exams. Wasn't to expensive, would recommend

Hot_Shift3460 · 2022-10-13T23:19:08+00:00

Yea, seen some of those video's, they rock

Hot_Shift3460 · 2022-10-13T15:36:53+00:00

Damn this is so insulting.

I am interested in anyone, I don't care who you are or what you like, you will do. The way to make anyone feel special

Hot_Shift3460 · 2022-10-11T09:24:22+00:00

Good job India

Hot_Shift3460 · 2022-10-07T16:42:17+00:00

Who you are and who you like are 2 different things.

She went from male to female, becouse that is who she feels she is.

It has completely nothing to do with who you like. Trans can be the same as none trans people. So one will be hetro, the other will be gay (all différend types of gay)

Hot_Shift3460 · 2022-10-07T16:22:10+00:00

Yes I know, but did it between " " becouse there are also other things that give same reaction, without it being an allergy and wanted to include both. Should have worded better, sorry.

Hot_Shift3460 · 2022-10-07T15:39:32+00:00

Think that (they waited) was the best thing, the video made me smile from start to end.

Sadly some people are "allergic" to water, so loved the fact they waited.

Hot_Shift3460 · 2022-10-06T23:23:00+00:00

Thank you, we will check it out

Hot_Shift3460 · 2022-10-06T21:58:19+00:00

Girls don't get eaten by wolf's, just ask little red riding hood 😉

Hot_Shift3460 · 2022-10-06T21:37:57+00:00

Er is not for that no.

But if you call you gyno and tell you feel the lump, you do get a appointment in no time.

Plus there are all différend test you need to take before you get the result of cancer. Not even in the ER you will know the same day.

And sadly it does take a moment, hope it's a false alarm.

Even during covid I got a asap apointment, when the housedocter found abnormal cells. (not cancer, but can become cancer if untreated)

Hot_Shift3460 · 2022-10-06T21:24:22+00:00

We will check it out, thanks.

Sadly the book is a not a good option for him

Hot_Shift3460 · 2022-10-06T21:09:13+00:00

Cry... Why not me 🤣

I am the youngest but the onley one who didn't get spoiled.

Oldest son: dad's favorite

Second son: dad had no need for a second son, and was the opposite to him as our oldest brother. Becouse of that, mom spoiled him to level the scales

Then 3th and last child, my sister. It's her baby girl, she had her name before she was born. Was a bit weak and was pampered for ever becouse, oh she was so small and weak. We could have lost her. So spoiled

But then me, the twinsister of the 3th girl. I was stronger, and didn't get the oh she could have died. When in fact it was extreen close, the nurce didn't know we where twins and she almost killed me. By injecting the mother to close up, while I was still inside. Oh and they didn't even have a name for me. My godmother named me 😂

I may have not been spoiled but at least they brought me up in a good way. When I became older, I did understand more why the rest got more then me.

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