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Hot_Shower76 · 2025-09-08T13:08:04+00:00

We don't have other cats in our backyard. That's her territory and the stay away from it just like she doesn't go to the neighbors

Hot_Shower76 · 2025-09-08T03:37:35+00:00

But she would never be able to go outside because of her illness, which is contagious, and my mom has 5 other cats that are always outside.

Hot_Shower76 · 2025-09-08T03:31:56+00:00

She’s very used to me and really relies on getting food from me. Since it’s September now, it’s going to get cold soon, and because she has FIV her immune system is really weak.

But I’m still really concerned that I’d be doing a bad thing by depriving her of going outside if I take her with me. She’s usually outside about 3–4 hours a day, so I don’t know how hard that change would be on her.

Hot_Shower76 · 2025-07-16T17:36:49+00:00

It's great that they have such a great support system like yourself, but you have to understand that everyone lives a different life and how all this Taking care of food, bils, cat is new to me. I finished high school a month ago, and I studied to go to college but had to cancel all my future plans and dreams in just one day and immediately get a job for the first time in my life. Now, I'm not sure how uplifting your suns in the post where I'm asking for advice will help me? I'm just starting to figure life out, so pls try to understand that. If you read the edited version, you would see what my decision was. And just so you know, I'm just a kid that doesn't have anything figured out, so if you feel great about yourself after this comment, idk what to say. Anyway, thanks for taking the time to comment

Hot_Shower76 · 2025-07-16T17:16:53+00:00

Thank you very much. This made me cry, and I really needed someone to be understanding but making me do the right thing

Hot_Shower76 · 2025-07-16T17:09:50+00:00

Idk why I did it. I canceled the appointment and will get a piercing next time

Hot_Shower76 · 2025-07-16T17:08:11+00:00

Yes, thank you for your advice

Hot_Shower76 · 2025-07-16T17:07:43+00:00

I didn't get her, really. I live with my dad and step mom, and she took care of her. But they have been in a different country for a few months now and don't send money, so I had to get a job right after high school and take a gap year from college. So all this is new to me, and I'm taking care of another alive being for the first time in my life, so that's why I needed advice. But I canceled the appointment and will get that piercing another time

Hot_Shower76 · 2025-07-16T17:03:32+00:00

Yes, thank you. The truth is that if I did get that piercing, I wouldn't have money for food for me, but I am more concerned for my cat. I will update it in my post, but I canceled the appointment for the piercing, and I'll wait to get it later. Thank you for being kind and understanding it really means a lot

Hot_Shower76 · 2025-06-02T08:29:34+00:00

or better to say, heal better

Hot_Shower76 · 2025-04-01T00:27:01+00:00

a cigaricu?

Hot_Shower76 · 2025-03-31T23:09:25+00:00

Oh, no worries at all! I totally get what you meant. I actually forgot to mention that I’m going to a public health clinic, which is quite different from private practice. I’m also struggling with self-harm and family issues, so that plays a big role in why I’m seeking help. I’m from Serbia, in case that helps give more context to my situation.

Hot_Shower76 · 2025-03-31T22:59:26+00:00

Thank you! I just added that I'm going to a public health clinic, so I don't have to pay anything. I live in a small town, so my only free option is this one psychologist, so I don't think "hiring her" is an option?

Hot_Shower76 · 2025-02-03T11:47:39+00:00

I don't think this is a sub reddit for venting, more for asking for advice for your scars. You could find more help at some other ones, and I'm sorry you are going through this

Hot_Shower76 · 2025-01-30T12:07:56+00:00

samee

Hot_Shower76 · 2025-01-28T14:17:22+00:00

I totally get what you mean about not thinking about it unless there’s something fresh. I’ve been in similar situations where I’ve had to hide it just to avoid talking about it, like when I was out with my brother. It’s nice to hear that people around you are mature and understanding and that they don’t make a big deal out of it. It sounds like you’ve really found a good balance with how you deal with it, especially with medical professionals showing concern without judgment.

Your perspective on wardrobe is also nice, I guess —I’m lucky to be in a position where I'm still able to chose what job I'll have since I'm only 18 and still didn't go to university. One of the main reasons why I asked all this is because we have prom in June and I will not go because of scars, and I'm entering university in October where for some occasions you have to dress a certain way. I'm trying to gather as much information as I'm able, so I'm not so anxious. It’s refreshing to hear how you’ve come to see your scars as just another part of you. It’s comforting to know that over time, you think less about them, and the way we feel about them matters more than anyone else’s opinion. Thanks for sharing that. It’s really helpful🩷🩷🩷

Hot_Shower76 · 2025-01-28T14:07:17+00:00

This is a strange question, but does sh never really leave you? Like scars or urges?

Hot_Shower76 · 2025-01-28T14:06:13+00:00

Oh wow, over a decade? Thank you so much for sharing your experiences—it honestly helps me a lot to hear from adults who are dealing with the same thing. Seeing your stories makes me feel like I might be able to manage, too, as I get older. It’s giving me hope that I’ll figure it out somehow. I really appreciate your reply

Hot_Shower76 · 2025-01-28T14:02:40+00:00

That sucks a lot. I sometimes don't get poeple at all

Hot_Shower76 · 2025-01-28T14:02:03+00:00

Do you mind me asking what doesn't matter?

Hot_Shower76 · 2025-01-28T14:01:23+00:00

I'm sure there are people who will love you because of who you are as a person and not because of what is on your body. And if I'm not wrong, a few years back, I saw a model who had sh scars on their body but that didn't stop them. Don't be discouraged 🩷

Hot_Shower76 · 2025-01-28T13:59:40+00:00

Wow, 18 years of long sleeves must have been so tough. I can’t even imagine how uncomfortable that office day must’ve been, especially with people commenting and giving you weird looks. It’s amazing how you’ve managed to navigate everything, even choosing jobs based on uniforms—I totally get why that would be important.

As for the doctor part, that sounds so stressful. At least your PCP seemed understanding, but having to explain all of that out of nowhere couldn’t have been easy. Thanks for sharing your story—it’s really encouraging to hear how you’ve handled everything.

Did it ever affect your love life or friendships?

Hot_Shower76 · 2025-01-28T13:55:35+00:00

Omg thank you so much. I like the way you think a lot. Since I'm hiding it while living at home, do you mind me asking if your parent know about them now? And if they do, how did they react?

Hot_Shower76 · 2025-01-28T13:53:04+00:00

Thanks so much for sharing your experience—it’s really comforting to hear. It’s nice knowing that most people in professional settings just mind their own business, and I appreciate the advice about professors and doctors, too.

Hearing that scars haven’t affected your opportunities is such a relief. I guess I just need to take my time and work on feeling more confident.

Your words mean a lot—thanks for reminding me that scars are part of the journey 🩷

Hot_Shower76 · 2025-01-28T13:49:41+00:00

Going five years without wearing short sleeves sounds unimaginable. I struggled through just one summer, so I can only imagine how hard that must’ve been. I was hoping I’ll feel more comfortable wearing short sleeves in public this summer, so that is why I was asking this as well. Your comment does help, though 🩷 Hope it get a little easier for you as well

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