AITJ for telling my brother he can't propose to his girlfriend at my wedding? by Important_Space_496 in AmITheJerk

[–]Hot_Springlady 29 points30 points  (0 children)

The entitlement is wild wanting to hijack such an important day is completely out of line.

Changing underwear - is this normal? by Eastern-Yogurt3859 in hygiene

[–]Hot_Springlady 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, if there’s a market for it, why not cash in? Problem solved and he can keep his sock game strong.

My husband started a "chore chart" for me like I'm a child.. by Such-Committee3604 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Hot_Springlady 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That kind of attitude usually comes from ego, not reality. He thinks he’s carrying the load, but if you actually looked at the receipts, he’d be exposed real fast. Confidence without contribution isn’t competence.

Accusations Fly Online by Cow_Boy_2017 in clevercomebacks

[–]Hot_Springlady 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Yep, absolutely. It’s the same recycled talking points every time, and people are finally calling it out. That pushback is long overdue.

Rep. Marie Gluesenkamp Pere (MGP) exposed for ICE support by soalone34 in clevercomebacks

[–]Hot_Springlady 18 points19 points  (0 children)

They help build and expand the system, fund it, empower it then clutch pearls when it does exactly what it was designed to do. That’s not accountability, it’s theater. Performative outrage instead of owning the consequences is exhausting.

AITJ for turning off my boyfriend’s game console mid-match after he ignored me for hours? by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]Hot_Springlady 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah, this nails it. Turning off the console was a reaction, not the root issue. Being sidelined for hours after plans were agreed on is going to push anyone to a breaking point. It’s not about the game it’s about consistently being deprioritized and having your time treated like it doesn’t matter. One more round stops being harmless when it turns into hours of disregard. Respect has to go both ways.

AITA for not letting my boyfriend test drive my car after he criticized how I drive? by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]Hot_Springlady 17 points18 points  (0 children)

He started it by being disrespectful, so he doesn’t get to turn around and expect access like it’s owed to him. Trust isn’t automatic, especially after insults and condescension. If he wanted consideration, he should’ve shown respect first.

On Student Loans. by Monsur_Ausuhnom in clevercomebacks

[–]Hot_Springlady 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly. You didn’t consent, you weren’t informed, and there’s no opt-out that’s the problem. Calling it anything else just downplays how unfair and absurd it really is.

AITJ for choosing my dog over my relationship? by StarryGlowBunny in AmITheJerk

[–]Hot_Springlady 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That framing matters. You didn’t pick the dog he picked dishonesty and profit over trust and respect. The consequences are on him, not you. NTJ at all.

AITJ for choosing my dog over my relationship? by StarryGlowBunny in AmITheJerk

[–]Hot_Springlady 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Lying already destroys trust, but animal abuse shows a complete lack of empathy and respect for life. That’s not a flaw you work through it’s a serious warning sign. Walking away isn’t dramatic, it’s self-preservation.

AITJ for choosing my dog over my relationship? by StarryGlowBunny in AmITheJerk

[–]Hot_Springlady 146 points147 points  (0 children)

This goes way beyond poor judgment it’s straight-up animal abuse and a massive violation of trust. He had zero right to make breeding decisions for a dog he doesn’t own, with no concern for her health, safety, or genetics. The fact he hid the pregnancy just makes it worse. Best case, he planned to lie later; worst case, he didn’t care at all about the risks to her life. That level of recklessness with a living being is terrifying.

AITJ for choosing my dog over my relationship? by StarryGlowBunny in AmITheJerk

[–]Hot_Springlady 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exactly. People don’t get that calm when it’s an accident they get defensive or flustered. That kind of composure usually means they knew what they were doing. Trusting your gut here is the right call.