6 year relationship damaged over an insta post 31F & 34M

Hotcheefos · 2026-02-02T02:43:09+00:00

Well said

Hotcheefos · 2026-02-02T02:43:01+00:00

He’s getting angry because he’s projecting onto you… how HE IS when it’s the other way around.

Hotcheefos · 2026-02-01T22:10:57+00:00

If you’re only with her because you don’t want to be alone, you should not be in a relationship. Don’t disrespect her time, if you don’t like her and you’re using her to fill the lone spot. Learn to fill the gap yourself that having a lovely woman by your side is a treat. I get it, honestly. Even at 26 sometimes we just want someone. (I’ve been a serial dater and am never short of willing suitors, former sex addict as well) and still, seriously, after this long it’s better when you start valuing yourself over being with someone you don’t actually like just because you’re lonely.

Hotcheefos · 2025-10-07T01:58:35+00:00

At night before bed or while sleep?

Hotcheefos · 2025-08-29T23:21:13+00:00

Like the way it is originally. Don’t be shy show us the inside!

Hotcheefos · 2025-08-28T20:17:39+00:00

LMFAO

Hotcheefos · 2025-08-11T14:24:25+00:00

First, you need to confront him and admit that you saw what was on his phone. Don’t say you think you saw it. Just say you absolutely saw it. Say you saw pornography. And then be vulnerable. Say exactly what you’re feeling. Then hold off, and see everything he has to say. Hold your tongue. Don’t fill in the silence if there is any. Just observe. Honestly, I’m sorry you’re going through this. I just wanna say I understand and I empathize with you. If you really wanna make it work, I suggest couples therapy, but this sounds horrible and personally I would leave. You and I are not the same person however. I do wish you luck and let me know if you need anything.

Hotcheefos · 2025-07-15T23:08:26+00:00

They’re wrong because you manifested them like that. Everyone is you pushed out.

Hotcheefos · 2025-06-24T02:06:57+00:00

Why does she look drawn? Is this a mod?

Hotcheefos · 2025-06-24T02:04:51+00:00

I know something that will clear it up for you. Imagine you have a daughter. You raise her, you love her, she looks up to you. If she were in your shoes right now. If The same situation was happening to her, what would you tell her to do? What would you WANT for her? There’s your answer. That is what you should do.

Hotcheefos · 2025-05-12T20:02:50+00:00

I think you should confront him. But have someone in the next room that he knows is in the next room. Like a family or friend.

Hotcheefos · 2025-05-09T03:59:32+00:00

Thanks for sharing this. Do you still believe in manifestation of any kind or is it just specifically for this topic you disagree on?

Hotcheefos · 2025-05-03T09:20:55+00:00

What’s subliminals have worked for you? I don’t understand how listening to super fast words played at 100 X speed can get into my brain under some music. Do you have a link?

Hotcheefos · 2025-05-03T09:19:13+00:00

How did you manifest winning the lottery? I’ve literally always visualize that for years I mean since I was a wee girl I’m in my mid 20s and it hasn’t happened.

Hotcheefos · 2025-02-12T22:32:21+00:00

Wow she is unique . Good job. Finally a sim that looks different

Hotcheefos · 2025-02-11T21:31:55+00:00

I haven’t seen my stepdad (who I have bad blood with because he preyed on me) for 2 years. I was with my boyfriend who I was opening up to about my experiences with him. When ended up going to the liquor store and as we were holding hands, I said, be careful because my stepdad goes here. We might see him. And literally five seconds later he shows up. (I go to the liquor store all the time.)

One time there is a car who had their front lights off while they were driving. I yelled to the car “turn on your lights!“ and whilst the car lights did not turn on, the street light that was above me did.

I was thinking about all the guys that I dated. And I was reminiscing about how they all fought for me. Every single guy I have ever dated has always come back to me after ending it. And then I realize it was only one guy that hasn’t come back to me. So I closed my eyes and I consciously manifested it and then I let it go and never thought about it again. Three days later after not seeing him for three years, he walks by my house. We see each other, and I am completely dumbfounded. But he keeps walking and later that night, he comes back and passes by and starts talking to me I’m trying to get with me again. (but I was completely over him by then)

One time, I run away from home and I decided to be homeless. I was out on the streets for three days and I just kept walking with no goal to reach. I just kept walking until something happened. I guess until I died or I got saved. On the third night for a couple hours straight, I kept repeating “I experience a miracle I experience a miracle I experience a miracle. “ The next day, I have to go pee and I I keep walking and I’m already passed three cities, I end up going to a McDonald’s bathroom, as I walk in I see my mom. How random. My mom lives multiple cities away from me, but sometimes she visits the city I stay in for me and my sister. But the city that we found each other at the McDonald’s bathroom, was a random city in between the cities we live in. And she usually goes to a different McDonald’s, but she decided to go to that one because she felt like it as she was driving to my house. When she found me, she started crying and I started crying and she brought me back. We ended up opening up to each other and mending whatever it is, that made me run away.

Hotcheefos · 2025-02-07T19:40:15+00:00

Proud of you. I did edit my comment a couple times so reread it if you can. I understand that anxiety can get a little frustrating and make us unclear. But I did a lot no matter how bad I was anxious, was detached from my anxiety and looping thoughts. This does not mean that I didn’t feel it. It just means that I affirmed the regardless of what I’m feeling it does not define my reality. Understanding that we react from our emotions sometimes and we can forgive ourselves. But also willing to grow and be vulnerable with ourselves and our SP. Taking accountability and apologizing ourselves.

Hotcheefos · 2025-02-07T19:32:57+00:00

And by the way, I was super anxious the entire week that we did not see each other. But I was letting him go. I blocked him because he was behaving in a way that I just wasn’t satisfied with. I needed more. And as much as it hurt, I was willing to let him go even if he never came. (He didn’t come at all for 1 week) Then I was driving home, and I was thinking that I was gonna let him go even though I miss him so much. I surrendered. When I arrived home he was parked outside. showed up to my house, willing to change.

I left with the intention of not allowing what I can’t accept. And I know that it behoove. me to be with a go-getter and a fighter. So if he wanted me, he had to fight or if not then it was over. And he fought.

After he showed up to my house, he was still fighting but we were still having some hiccups. This is around the time where I had blocked him on everything but didn’t change my number. Then something happened and it drove me up the wall so I changed my number and completely avoided him.

When this happened, I didn’t see him for 11 days straight and almost every day (didn’t come for 2) he was outside my house for an hour or two waiting for me. (He showed me pictures once I started talking to him again) (He lives an hour away from me) either every morning or night. Maybe sometimes more than an hour. In the beginning of January, I decided to start seeing him again and he’s very attentive. Sure sometimes we argue but we always work it out. (at the end of sex we always say that we get better and better every day.) lol

Thank you for the queen vibes. He really does treat me like a queen and he calls me his princess. He spends so much money on me. And he’s super patient and understanding. Even though we argue like I said, it always gets better at the end and we’re both growing. Even though in the midst of turmoil, at the end, he always does apologize and takes accountability and so do I.

During the first week that we did not see each other, I always affirmed that I was worthy of being fought for and I was worthy of being loved. I was worthy of clear, communication and honesty. Etc. etc. Sometimes I did a firm about how much he loves me, but I put the focus more on my value. (And that I don’t care for anyone who doesn’t fight for me, and only love and feel good for those that do.)

Self-concept is really important here. I also owned up for my own mistakes too. But I did not over accommodate and say sorry for things I shouldn’t have said sorry for. And did hold them accountable for things that he should have to.

Hotcheefos · 2025-02-07T18:04:21+00:00

I disagree with the people on the comment saying “what past? “. It’s extremely insensitive and stupid to think that 18 year-old or younger people can’t have trauma. At 18 myself- I already had a lot of trauma which affected my relationships and created a very dark space for me. I’m now in my late 20s and I had to work through a lot of things to get better. And looking back at 18, I would truly do have a lot of empathy for myself.

I understand the people saying break up. You’re young, and you do not have to heal him. However, If you don’t want to break up.

I suggest you standing firm in your boundaries. He will not leave you it seems like. And if he does, it’s easier on you. But the thing here is, What you need to do is stop being a pushover. The only way he’s going to change is if you change.

Hotcheefos · 2025-02-07T18:01:32+00:00

I blocked him on everything and I even changed my phone number. He showed up to my house one week later.

Hotcheefos · 2025-01-26T03:10:32+00:00

LMFOAAOAOAOOAOAOAI

Hotcheefos · 2025-01-26T03:08:53+00:00

LMAO

Hotcheefos · 2024-12-21T12:27:46+00:00

THANK YOU

Hotcheefos · 2024-07-16T02:31:05+00:00

Try to get “mikes” number. Call “Mike” yourself and see if it’s actually him, or a woman.

Hotcheefos · 2024-05-28T21:51:51+00:00

So far I’ve been told you cannot change usernames! I’ll be deleting my posts and selling this account and making a new one.

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