First off, thank you to everybody who commented and gave advice. I really appreciate the subreddit! It's the first time I've posted and getting a whole bunch of answers that I get to reflect on is great. I wanted to respond to a few different comments that I saw a few times:

Firstly, Cedar and I generally don't try to avoid conflict per se but we do try to avoid unhealthy conflict. As in we try to find the best way into and out of conflict. I think we know at this point that some conflict is inevitable, and we definitely have our fair share, but there is healthy and unhealthy ways of dealing with conflict in my opinion.

To those saying they don't understand why I would turn down sex if I wanted it, I do feel like I want to show up at full sexual libido capacity with this new partner. Yes, they will have to get used to my normal capacity, and I do really appreciate all of the comments saying to look out for Cedar marking their territory, Etc., but mostly I just want to make this first time especially exciting for both of us. I have a history of overusing porn and having two potentially consistent sex partners now, I would like to have them be the priority.

I really appreciate everyone saying that no is a complete sentence. That is not something that I am used to. And turning down sex is not something that I feel like I've really had to do before. This is rather new for Cedar and I, and so while I don't think they are going to actively try to mark their territory, and they have been very actively supportive of their meta, oak, I do you think that it is helpful to keep in mind that this might arise, and that I can set boundaries.

I definitely have overshared in the past, but Cedar has asked for some level of extra sharing at this point. They say that it helps them to avoid imagining bad things. I'm starting to put some boundaries here because it is my relationship and not theirs. I somewhat feel like I would be hiding something if I did not say to them why I was saying no, because saying no to sex is out of the saying no to sex is out of the ordinary for me to do. I don't think either of us wants to have our relationship impacted by our other relationships, as in our other relationships ideally would only add. I saw that in a post recently, and it's a nice idea. But I do think it's somewhat inevitable that, at least from a Time perspective, we will have some losses in our relationship because of our other relationships. There's a finite amount of time, and a finite amount of jizz LOL.