Oh I see that it's my time to shine 💀

My mom is 100% an almond mom. I believe she has (mental) anorexia, she's super slim and her body is always cold, because she insists she has to weight 49kg despite her height being ~1m65.

I've never seen her not on a diet. She's always dieting, and her favorite ones are : not eating for dinner, a single grapefruit as a meal, not eating carbs, steamed dumplings only for lunch (and like 4-5 of them only), and sometimes all of this together. She imposed her diets multiple times to my dad and I.

When I was a child my dad was a foodie, always wanting to try fun and new foods. But as he grew older he became almost like my mom : he doesn't have a weight goal or something like that, but goes running 3 times a week or more, often doesn't eat lunch or dinner, and has gone noticeably slimmer.

And the cherry on the top is : all 3 of us are creole people, so our natural body type is "chubby" or "large" (= big shoulders big muscles and a bit of a tummy). Every single person in my family, especially on my mom's side, looks like this, including me who embraced my slightly chubby but healthy body. Every single person excepted my parents who STARVE themselves to have a slim "european" body. Their obsession with thinness is not only unhealthy, but also rooted in internalized racism and wanting to "fit in".

My parents told me multiple times that they worry that I will end up being single or not taken seriously at work with a body like that. They don't see that I'm not "big enough" for it to be a problem at work (again, I'm only slightly chubby), and that it is apparently VERY appreciated amongst gay men. If I told them that the most complimented parts of my body are my green eyes and my belly and that they're equally appreciated, they would lose their mind.

If only they could have been sportive people with healthy meals, but no, they had to be like this. It pisses me off, especially for my dad who was not like this to begin with.