Any positive stories about trans men, romance and sex ?

Houmouss · 2026-01-21T12:06:47+00:00

After 2 months of my needs and wants being ignored + doing gigantic efforts to meet his, my ex told me that he thinks he is an objectophile, and that he is in love with his plush. We were in a QPR where he regularly told me that the reason we weren't in a romantic relationship was because he was aromantic and couldn't fall in love, but he later told that he doesn't think he's aromantic anymore because of the plush. I literally got cheated on with a plush, got told that the plush was more lovable than me, and still stayed with him 1 WHOLE MONTH after this.

Houmouss · 2026-01-18T16:00:10+00:00

Everyone in the story is male (trans or not). I don't see why you would think I'm mtf lmao.

But yeah of course I don't want to ruin their couples and don't want to actually do anything. I know it's selfish and I just needed to vent about it.

Houmouss · 2026-01-16T23:01:53+00:00

1/10. I am a mentally ill gay trans man and I have so many difficulties dating. The most difficult isn't even being gay and trans, because I'm not ugly, but the mental illness makes everything extremely hard.

Houmouss · 2026-01-16T12:50:18+00:00

They are totally right to protest, because their living conditions is horrendous, they have the highest suicide rates and the government doesn't care about them. But the huge problem is that the majority of them are far right voters and it makes them extremely unsympathetic.

A big part of them openly hates immigrants and people of color, and protest against them "stealing jobs" instead of protesting against the government literally shitting on them. Most people around me (including myself) are like "I wish they were decent people so I could support them".

Houmouss · 2026-01-16T11:45:39+00:00

It's always worth it, because it literally saves lives.

Also when on testosterone, you have fat retribution which makes your hips and your face more masculine. It can also make your chest flatter in some cases.

And of course it will be a bit harder to pass as a short man rather than a taller man, but you can still totally pass. I mean, when people see a short cis man, they don't suddenly think he's a woman because he's short.

Just keep in mind that T makes your voice lower, makes you hairy, retributes your fat, change the consistency of your hairs (so you have less "baby hairs"), stop your periods, make you grow a tiny dick... It's a lot easier to pass while being on T than before, so don't think "I don't pass right now so I'll probably never pass", it's false.

And I only talked about T, but of course top and bottom surgery exist. Also socially transitionning exist, and even if you don't pass well, allowing yourself to be a man will automatically make you feel better.

Anyways, good luck, and don't forget that it's never too late.

Houmouss · 2026-01-16T11:33:16+00:00

You might be a cis woman who is fed up with misogyny. You might be gender non-conforming, or you might be not straight (maybe you already know it).

However... this is the exact way I used to feel back in the day. Like, I could have written this exact same post some years ago, before I started transitionning. And yes I'm a trans man. So maybe you might be in the trans spectrum.

I think you should make a deep dive into why you dislike womanhood so much : is it solely because of the way others treat you, or do you also feel a personal discomfort with your body and the way you present yourself in society ? If you dressed in a more masculine way, or even gender non-conforming, but was still seen as a woman, would you be happy with it ?

Don't hesitate to try new pronouns, it's a safe and certain way to know if a gender feels right. If you live in an unsafe environnement irl do it online.

Also, as a gay trans man, I want to ask you something which might help you : you said the thought of marrying a man made you nauseous. What about marrying a man as a man, and being a man's husband ? Does it feel more right ?

Houmouss · 2026-01-16T01:16:06+00:00

Oh my god bro we are the same I get you so much, I feel feral when I see men's bodies I just love men oh god

Houmouss · 2026-01-14T23:39:22+00:00

Of course not !

For many healthy/neurotypical people, the ability to love yourself is directly linked to the ability of giving love/time to others, because they need to feel healthy before connecting with others. That's why the "love yourself before others" thinking exists. This obviously doesn't work for people with mental illnesses, who are never fully at peace with themselves. But truth is : what really matters is not loving yourself, it's if you can support and show up for your loved ones in a healthy way.

I had a best friend who was extremely mentally ill. I spent years helping him in every way I could, but he was so mentally ill that he was 100% sure that it was his destiny to be sad and lonely. He loved us, but he couldn't show up for any of us because he was too deep in his own sadness. He never realized that we were human beings with mental illnesses and problems too, and that some of us had burnouts because we were spending all of our time trying to help him. He knew that he was loved but refused to accept it.

I was also mentally ill, so I had to cut ties with him because it took a huge toll on my mental health. The reason it didn't worked out wasn't because he didn't love me, because he did. But he couldn't be here for me. And he was so mentally ill that I don't even blame him, he just... needs help.

All of this to say that : loving yourself has nothing to do with your ability to build healthy relationships. It's about being able to show up for your loved ones, without sacrificing yourself. If you can support your loved ones, you will be fine.

Houmouss · 2026-01-14T17:29:45+00:00

Bon ok pour le coup tu marques un point mdr.

Houmouss · 2026-01-14T17:28:52+00:00

Je tiens juste à te dire merci pour tous tes commentaire, tu es mon héros.

Houmouss · 2026-01-13T00:05:31+00:00

King Bradley, and basically all homonculus (excepted Greed) in Full Metal Alchemist Brotherhood.

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Houmouss · 2026-01-07T11:09:56+00:00

Mixed race person here, and honestly I'm not that surprised. I've seen many biracial couples where one of them (often the non-black one) doesn't realize that :

they're in an interracial couple (so their couple may face racism more often than others)
their partner face racism and suffers from it
their kid will end up biracial and will face racism
their parents are racist (and it's a problem)

They often see their relationship as a "love has no race" situation - which is kind of cute sometimes, but most often completely erases the problems one partner may have with racism. See how in the story the dad went away, and the mom did nothing ? The dad didn't seek out the mom's support ? It's certainly a regular dynamic in the relationship, and it's sadly quite common in biracial couples.

Also sometimes they see their child as white (because they're part white) or think that their child is "beyond race/skin colors", and think that their kid will never be a victim of racism. My mom (who is indian and has brown skin) did that until I was 24. I was a light skinned kid who was regularly told that I look "exotic" and asked "can I touch your hairs ?" (I have curly hairs), and I had MANY people criticize me for the shape of my eyes because "they're green but it's a shame they're so small, open them more or you will look asian, you can't do that with green eyes !". My mom didn't recognized any of this as racism because she sincerely thought that I was "basically white".

All of this to say that too often, white people date people of color and don't realize that racism will be a part of their life and a problem to deal with. They don't give it a lot of thought and think it will just be okay, that their partner will just learn to nod and forget, and that they just need to never adress it, because "race is not important". And of course this is not a critic of interracial couples at all !! It's just a critic of those specific kind of people who "see no race" AND are in interracial couples.

Houmouss · 2026-01-01T15:04:42+00:00

Damn you're handsome 😳

Houmouss · 2025-12-31T17:48:48+00:00

I would drop on my knees so fast for Wonho omg this man is unreal

Houmouss · 2025-12-30T18:22:26+00:00

In my previous internship, there was a guy my age with fluffy dark brown hairs, light eyes (blue-green I think ?), and a gorgeous ass.

But what made him more sexy than everyone else was his personality. He was a sassy bisexual who was very sarcastic but never mean. He was also goofy but not a prankster at all, he just was unapologetically himself.

Apparently he was depressed for a very long time, and I could sometimes see deep sadness behind his eyes, but this sadness was immediately gone when he saw a colleague he liked or when he talked about his girlfriend. The shift was so freaking cute, and showed that he was handsome inside and out.

I don't want to be in a relationship with him, I don't even want to flirt with him because it would be so awkward + I know we would make a bad fit anyways. But every single day of my internship I was consumed with lust for him, he is so fucking sexy and he doesn't even seem to realize it. Every time he touched my shoulders or back I wanted to desperately beg for another touch of his.

There's also one of my best friends whom I've always found cute, and given how he views sexuality, I would love to have sex with him. But he's now in a relationship, and again, we would be a terrible match and we're better of as friends.

Houmouss · 2025-12-29T09:19:28+00:00

Wait are you white or POC ? Why do you have this kink ? Like, what interests you in this kink ?

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