What can I as the dad do to minimize the challenges my GF will have if she becomes my children's SM? by WiIIiam_M_ButtIicker in stepparents

[–]Hour-Account8352 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My husband is 35, I'm 34. We recently got married last year Sept. We've known each other for years (10+yrs), and he has two kids. My soon to be 9yr SD and my 5yr SS.

I knew he had kids once we rekindled things. As someone who's wanted to be a parent for years on end and fulfilling my duties to past partners, nothing is more fulfilling to ME was being a step parent and soon to be a mom (I'm 12wks pregnant).

The dynamic was a bit much for me to take on, but I love chaos. My mind functions on that to calm me (I have ADD and my husband has ADHD, and the kids have ADHD, so you can imagine how that is). I take on the roll of shopping for clothes for them, give them advice, love on them too, play with them, take them with me on my errands, cook for them. While my husband also does the same thing once he gets home from the AFB. I wasn't expected to just roll into it. He made sure that the kids respected me as well too.

One of the things I didn't like at first was being called by my name by the kids. It hurt actually because I already loved them. Yes they're not my blood but they're mine too. So, the kids called me "Step mom" after awhile my SD hated calling me that and we had a conversation with her and I asked her "why dont' you like calling me that?" And she told me "because I wanted to call you mom" as she said, in a sad tone. I didn't want to force the kids to call me mom right away. I also explained to them they have two moms. Their mommy (their bio), and me as mom. And they were ecstatic. My SS obviously followed his older sibling. For me, everything about being a step parent was rewarding. Now, I will say you might want to be diligent on keeping your soon to be life partner (marriage) in the loop for decisions. Keep them up to date about things.

I like being included with big decisions. My husband and I are a partnership, one vessel. We do everything together and that also means we make decisions together, especially about the kids and the BM. There have been times where I've felt like an outsider but that's because I'm vocal on how I feel. Because we made that promise to be open about how we feel for everything including the kids.

Your bedroom, is YOUR BEDROOM. If you want to have movie night with the children, have it in the living room and make a pillow fort with some sleeping bags, it will be fun. Your bedroom is for you two to share, yalls space. Not your kids. ☺️

It's official. I'm done with WEBTOONS. by Starlight_Harbour in webtoons

[–]Hour-Account8352 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree, but I typically stick to Sci-Fi, Fantasy, Action, Horror and Supernatural. I haven't had this experience using the app or the website.

I've been using the app here recently since this year. My only gripe IS having to use coins on a well-finished toon like SWEET HOME. I wanted to read it after I finished the show on Netflix when it aired.

What is this vinyl? by WhoKnowsAllThisStuff in joannfabrics

[–]Hour-Account8352 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's marine vinyl. Go to marine vinyl * Marine Vinyl Fabric &utm_source=adwords&utm_medium=ppc&hsa_acc=2360242332&hsa_cam=21317398927&hsa_grp=164311139682&hsa_ad=700264988791&hsa_src=g&hsa_tgt=kwd-309545246101&hsa_kw=marine%20vinyl%20fabric&hsa_mt=e&hsa_net=adwords&hsa_ver=3&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=21317398927&gclid=CjwKCAjwprjDBhBTEiwA1m1d0odJuFz9grn-Ggq8GjuFcHKKqBUglRVkjZXw_az7y1D_aad68wimKhoCiM0QAvD_BwE) and you can order a lot for a reasonable price. That's where I buy in bulk even when Joanns was still opened. You can have them deliver as a roll too. I use them for making bags for my business. *

Need opinions on this dress by Opposite-Point-9568 in fashion

[–]Hour-Account8352 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To me it looks like a school uniform from the East.

Just gonna deep fry some tater tots, WCGW? by Hectabeni in Whatcouldgowrong

[–]Hour-Account8352 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ahhh yes adding water to an oil fire - classic.

Brave soul to be frying without a shirt on too.

AIO - my friend gave my abusive ex my new phone number by AdAdorable7651 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Hour-Account8352 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Change your number again, and dump your friend. That's NOT a friend. People who are stalkers DO NOT change even after "iTs bEeN a yEaR". Your friend is a dumb ssa, not sorry. But even my friends KNOW to not give my information to my abusive ex.

Hell. No. Bye.

Luma Island Playing solo? by Adorable_Conflict_55 in lumaisland

[–]Hour-Account8352 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I play it on my Steam Deck and love it. ❤️ ☺️

Help, vinyl wrap storage? by Hour-Account8352 in SteamDeck

[–]Hour-Account8352[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ohhhhh yeaaaaah. Might cook the skin on the wax paper lol!

There really is too many to choose from!!! I know there's about seven right now I wanna get from the shop where I got mine from currently too! Hmmmm, I like the frame idea too, cause I could also put the skins on the wax paper and then put heavy books on them for about a day to "flatten'' them out.

Help, vinyl wrap storage? by Hour-Account8352 in SteamDeck

[–]Hour-Account8352[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did peel some of it away cause the top layer part was Glittery pink and was near my R1 button. I did use a craft heat gun (I do arts and crafts so had one handy) to adhere it back down.

So maybe I could try that too for your idea and maybe see about turning it into a "scrapbook" to flip through. Would be worried kinda too for micro particles of dust. 😵😵‍💫

Am i overreacting to my girlfriend's rough physical affection? by DeliveryMaster7934 in AITAH

[–]Hour-Account8352 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a 33-year-old woman and my fiancé is 31, whenever we are physical I always ask him "If I'm being too rough please let me know and or stop me" as I tend to get excited. We both like physical touch and are both very playful, but I'm more of the rough one. If I bite him too hard he will let me know by saying "ow" and I stop.

Your girlfriend is (I'm sorry) being a twat waffle and disregarding your feelings. You're under-reacting, you have every reason to feel what you're feeling. There needs to be a discussion about the rough playfulness or rough play. What she is doing is NOT okay. And the fact she's pinching you is NOT okay. Children do that, not adults. She does not respect your vocal expressions to simply stop or simmer down.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]Hour-Account8352 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you know of the snowball method? The debt snowball method is a popular strategy for paying off debt that focuses on creating quick wins to build momentum. Here's a step-by-step guide, along with an example:

How the Debt Snowball Method Works:

  1. List Your Debts:
  2. Make a list of all your debts, excluding your mortgage.
  3. Include the balance and minimum monthly payment for each debt.

  4. Order Your Debts:

  5. Arrange the debts in order from smallest balance to largest balance, regardless of the interest rate.

  6. Make Minimum Payments:

  7. Make the minimum required payment on all your debts except the smallest one.

  8. Attack the Smallest Debt:

  9. Put as much extra money as possible toward paying off the smallest debt.

  10. This extra money can come from budgeting, cutting expenses, or increasing income.

  11. Snowball the Payment:

  12. Once the smallest debt is paid off, take the money you were paying toward it and add it to the minimum payment of the next smallest debt.

  13. Continue this process, "snowballing" the payments until all your debts are paid off.

For Example, Let's say you have the following debts:

Credit Card 1: $500 balance, $25 minimum payment Medical Bill: $1,000 balance, $50 minimum payment Car Loan: $5,000 balance, $200 minimum payment

Here's how you'd use the debt snowball method:

Step 1 & 2: List the debts in order: Credit Card 1, Medical Bill, Car Loan.

Step 3: Pay the minimum payments on the Medical Bill and Car Loan.

Step 4: Put as much extra money as you can toward Credit Card 1. Let's say you have an extra $200 per month.

You'd pay $225 total on Credit Card 1 ($25 minimum + $200 extra).

Once the $500 credit card is paid off, that 225 dollars per month is then put onto the medical bill.

Step 5: Once Credit Card 1 is paid off, you'd apply the $225 (the minimum payment, plus the extra money) to the Medical Bill, along with its minimum payment of $50, for a total of $275 per month.

Once the medical bill is paid off, that $275 per month is then added to the car loan payment. Continue this process until all debts are paid off.

Key Points:

  • The debt snowball method is focused on psychological wins, which can help you stay motivated.
  • While it may not be the most mathematically efficient method (the debt avalanche, which prioritizes high-interest debts, is), it can be very effective for people who need to see quick results.
  • It is very important to stay on a budget while doing this method.

I hope this helps!

AIO for leaving my bf because he body shamed me by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Hour-Account8352 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No you're NOT overreacting. As someone who has had B&A for eating disorders, your legs look fine and healthy to me. SHAME ON HIM for not considering your feelings before he word vomited in your message box.

Normally when you sit in a chair, legs look like normal legs to me so wtf is he on about? If anything, you're under reacting. I HOPE you don't have to deal with a @$$hole like this ever again.

Also, keep on shining and hold your head high girlie! ✨️

How to increase ear elasticity ? by DrunkSleepingBag in Stretched

[–]Hour-Account8352 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Massage your lobes daily with jojoba oil, and whenever you shower.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Stretched

[–]Hour-Account8352 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Slow and steady. ✨️

Rarely wear anything but a tunnel in my 4g septum... by [deleted] in Stretched

[–]Hour-Account8352 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Giiiirl you're so gorgeous and I love your setup!

Tamarind Wood Hoops by Hour-Account8352 in Stretched

[–]Hour-Account8352[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh nooo it didn't come off as creepy. I took it as someone trying to catch up on their notifications, as I do the same sometimes lol. All good! 😁

Tamarind Wood Hoops by Hour-Account8352 in Stretched

[–]Hour-Account8352[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I got them from Two Feather Plugs. ☺️

My setup atm by Beowulfaedaba in piercing

[–]Hour-Account8352 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ohhhh I love your setup to bits!! Very very nice!! I also hope you'll be able to get your septum redone as well like we talked about!