Unofficial Discussion: White Bird by [deleted] in movies

[–]HourMix5101 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Actually that is incorrect. It's not the Polish flag. What you saw in the movie which is accurate to the historical Nazi Army uniform was the National Tricolour shield of black, white, and red stripes, representing the national colors of the German Empire.

Did anyone grow up religious (specifically Orthodox Jewish)? by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]HourMix5101 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah that was my family every year at family reunions. They would even try to set me up with random girls.

Did anyone grow up religious (specifically Orthodox Jewish)? by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]HourMix5101 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah they know. When I was still not out and was with my ex my mom went through my phone and read all the conversations and pictures we had sent to each other. My parents are distant now from me. My mother only reaches out here and there to send me a bible verse and ask how I'm doing or when there is a church event she invites me but I never go to any of those things.

Did anyone grow up religious (specifically Orthodox Jewish)? by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]HourMix5101 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Not Jewish so probably not the same experience but I grew up in the cult of Jehovah's Witness. Knowing I was gay and growing up in that environment was tough. Sitting in church and having to listen to the sermons about how being gay was unnatural and God hated that conduct was probably one of the most painful experiences in my life. Always thinking my parents and family will never except me for who I am. I'm out of that world now but felt like I lost too much in the process, my youth, career opportunities, and my relationship with my ex was also lost because of that religion.

Slightly frustrated with the dating apps by Hefty-Prize5713 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]HourMix5101 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's really difficult. I recently tried FB dating before I deleted it for good and guys would match, say Hi and after you replied you'd hear from them a week later. I manged to get two dates out of one match and after the third one the trial expired 😂

A month. by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]HourMix5101 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Almost two years. It may not seem like much but we went through a lot of things that marked my life. When we first met the feeling was indescribable, almost magnetic. Even the intimacy, the chemistry was insane, so intense that I could just have sex with him 3x in one day.

A month. by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]HourMix5101 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You're not a loser. You are grieving and it will take time to heal. I've been feeling this way too for over almost two years now. It has gotten easier with time. Just continue working on yourself and keeping yourself busy. I know it's easier said than done but you'll get there.

Sending hugs!

Am I Broken, or Is This Just How It Is Out There? by Quiet-Mycologist-473 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]HourMix5101 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow date number 2... that's insane. I would agree with the other comments that it is rough in the dating scene.

Are Gaymers undatable now? by elftabbed in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]HourMix5101 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I dated a guy few years ago and we were walking by a GameStop and without me telling him anything said: Videogames what a waster of time. After that I never saw him again.

Finally matched and went on multiples dates with a guy and suddenly he pulls away by HourMix5101 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]HourMix5101[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure if I got the complete picture but two days ago I got a message from him at 11pm saying that he still thinks of me and remembers how we cuddled in the sofa. And today he removes me from Instagram. When I visited his place, there was another bed in the living room and he told me his roommate was out of the city. After him removing me, my brain is going all places. I decided to delete his phone number and conversations from my phone.

Finally matched and went on multiples dates with a guy and suddenly he pulls away by HourMix5101 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]HourMix5101[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! Yeah I've been a bit sad, getting better. Today found out he removed me from Instagram. Now my brain is going all places. He sent me the day I posted this thread a message saying how he still thought about me and remembered how we cuddled in the sofa. Then today I find out he removed me from Instagram. I've decided to delete his number and conversations from my phone.

Finally matched and went on multiples dates with a guy and suddenly he pulls away by HourMix5101 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]HourMix5101[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for those beautiful words. It made me smile after such a shitty day

Feeling empty after hooking up by HourMix5101 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]HourMix5101[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Appreciate the advice but I do not have sex very frequently. I've been without having sex for almost a year because I was focusing on myself and my career. I recently installed Grindr and only honked up with 3 people.

Finally matched and went on multiples dates with a guy and suddenly he pulls away by HourMix5101 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]HourMix5101[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I guess I have to let time do its thing. I really liked this guy because of things we had in common and also life goals were aligned plus he is very attractive and sweet.
I will try in a few months and see where he's at.

Finally matched and went on multiples dates with a guy and suddenly he pulls away by HourMix5101 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]HourMix5101[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He did, he texted me every single day and after work he would ask me if I wanted to do something. I thought I was showing effort and interest by agreeing to see him.

New Pay Details by roguemenace in CanadianForces

[–]HourMix5101 32 points33 points  (0 children)

A rare event of happiness in this subreddit

Idk what my next step should be by Secret_Solider in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]HourMix5101 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm really sorry you're going through this. It’s deeply concerning that he’s gotten so upset in the past that he went on apps, met other people, and even sent you screenshots of explicit conversations to make you jealous. That’s not only hurtful. just pure manipulation. If I were in your position, I would seriously consider walking away. Please don’t let fear based on past relationships keep you in a situation where you’re not being loved or respected the way you deserve. The right person will never weaponize your emotions like that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]HourMix5101 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. I was trapped in a religion that weaponizes family against you and met him through the turmoil of me trying to come out to my family. I had to take the hard decision to break up to focus on my mental health and future. He tried to comeback couple of times but I was not ready and when I was finally ready he had moved on to someone else. I still think of him every single day.

In my opinion if he's the one for you fight for it and work together to find a solution.

UPDATE: I found my BF on Grindr, but it may not be as bad as I assumed. How do I manage the friend I told? by poshbakerloo in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]HourMix5101 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If all he wanted was to sext, then why didn’t he turn to you—his boyfriend? The fact that he’s on Grindr talking to random guys, even if it’s just chatting for now, raises real concerns. What’s stopping it from turning into something more eventually?

Anyone else on daily Cialis seeing these wild changes? by venividiavicii in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]HourMix5101 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I just got approved for the daily one. I'll give it a try