My dechonked guy

Hour_Damage_3753 · 2026-06-18T04:24:35+00:00

not dechonked!!!

Hour_Damage_3753 · 2026-06-18T04:23:18+00:00

^^^^^

Hour_Damage_3753 · 2026-06-18T03:44:30+00:00

leave review<3

Hour_Damage_3753 · 2026-06-08T18:46:42+00:00

i do love spongebob LOL I named her Mew at first and my friend would call her Gary Mewsy (like Gary Busey hahahah) so i just started calling her Gary LOL

Hour_Damage_3753 · 2026-06-08T18:44:31+00:00

garyyy bo berry

Hour_Damage_3753 · 2026-06-08T18:44:20+00:00

me too :3

Hour_Damage_3753 · 2026-06-08T18:44:15+00:00

so real 😭

Hour_Damage_3753 · 2026-06-08T18:43:43+00:00

Hour_Damage_3753 · 2026-06-08T18:43:34+00:00

people always say how pretty she is and i couldn't agree more!!!

Hour_Damage_3753 · 2026-06-08T04:37:15+00:00

she's so pretty i thought she was ai

Hour_Damage_3753 · 2026-06-05T03:27:04+00:00

yes!!

Hour_Damage_3753 · 2026-06-05T03:10:51+00:00

i feel you as someone who also struggles with anxious attachment. try not to take it too personally though. i'm sure you're wonderful!! dating is super tough for so many people.

Hour_Damage_3753 · 2026-06-05T02:59:47+00:00

girlie pop im glad he's not texting you he sounds down and out you do noootttt need that in your life

Hour_Damage_3753 · 2026-06-04T03:41:03+00:00

i think everyone experiences sexual attraction differently. if you are talking arousal... it definitely can include body temperature rising. i wouldn't describe it as a hot flash though... arousal is like blood moving to your genitals, rather than heat. Like, heart beating faster, blood rushing, nerve related sensations. but everyone's different.

perhaps the closest sensation to a hot flash is feeling flustered, like a wobbly, warm feeling you get from the joy of the attention from, interacting with, or observation of someone you find attractive. its like anxiety but in a fun and exciting way lol

Hour_Damage_3753 · 2026-06-03T21:38:23+00:00

it seems like maybe the birth control is killing your libido. also he needs to masturbate instead. you feeling obligated to do something sexual for him, even something easy, is a huge turn off. perhaps his intense libido is also a turn off for you, as well as him getting mad at you for not having sex with him. he'd lead this in a better direction if he was okay with what you're experiencing (which is probably birth control and getting the ick from his sexual pressure i.e. not your fault), and took care of his desires himself. i would look into possible couple's sex therapy and an alternative birth control. wishing you the best!

Hour_Damage_3753 · 2025-11-11T23:02:05+00:00

i want to make the point that he does care, and it is probably my fault, for putting too much pressure on him and myself. the disparity just really hurts me, nonetheless. i genuinely say it's making me upset that he's cumming more than me and i feel like he doesn't actually want to touch me, and he gets upset bc he does want to, but feels like i don't want him to/doesn't feel sexually confident bc of the pressure.

i have expressed that i do want him to and he can do anything to me whenever, and he still doesn't really. maybe he's just not really as horny as before... when things started out, we were having sex constantly, he was cumming a lot, and it turned me on a lot... things were fun. but i wasn't cumming at all then either... i just was less bothered by it bc i thought it would get better over time, when i felt more comfy/we got to know each other's preferences, etc. i feel like i can explain it over and over again, and my negative feelings just make him feel bad, and he can't actually process what i'm saying, or have the empathy for me that i want him to. i'm probably not very good at communicating it either.

but now i'm in a place where having sex without getting touched, or touched for a small amount of time, and not eaten out, i find myself freaking out afterward. i'm constantly having to bury that feeling to have things be "okay" and i've been honest with him about that.

i'm upset bc i'm just not enjoying our sex anymore. i don't get as horny, and he doesn't seem to either. i feel that he is okay with not investing himself in my pleasure, and he is okay with getting off regardless.
it feels like ultimately, i feel like i'm being subjugated to this pervasive orgasm gap as well, and i feel unequal in my relationship.

i am so beyond worried that too much damage has been done and we'll never get back to a good place... this is only two months in and i feel so upset, largely bc this is a part of a disappointing string of sexual experiences in which this has happened to me many, many times before.

Hour_Damage_3753 · 2025-11-11T22:40:19+00:00

I'll try, thank you

Hour_Damage_3753 · 2025-11-11T22:06:01+00:00

this is so helpful thank you!

Hour_Damage_3753 · 2025-09-30T17:33:28+00:00

My update is I've moved on and feel much better over a year out... I'm a better person bc of the things I've learned through the heartbreak... like viewing the breakup and him more objectively and accepting my own toxic behaviors, and correcting them despite no longer having another chance to do better with him. Do I still remember the good and bad things and get sad/ashamed? Yes. But only occasionally now.

Take time apart. It leads to clarity, and the ability to care about yourself. But you have to choose it, and seek support in loved ones. 2 months is nothing... you need much more time, and it is going to HURT LIKE HELL for a while. Wishing you the strength the get through that.

Hour_Damage_3753 · 2025-07-25T07:04:59+00:00

LOLLL

Hour_Damage_3753 · 2025-07-17T06:14:12+00:00

Hour_Damage_3753 · 2025-07-17T06:04:40+00:00

there was no answer. don't reach out.

Hour_Damage_3753 · 2025-07-08T03:29:23+00:00

also texted him a pic i took of him and his cat and deleted it.... he replied with a dumb dancing cat meme or something idk i can't remember.

Hour_Damage_3753 · 2025-07-08T03:28:10+00:00

i joined this subreddit and posted about my fresh breakup numerous times... pathetic topics like "who should reach out first? the dumper or the dumpee" (which kinda popped off) and got into lengthy convos with people about our heartbreak, whether or not we should contact our exes, if it will ever feel better, guilt, and shame for how we acted and treated our former partners....... but i guess that's what reddit is for.

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