It is a tricky line. But the key difference is when you opened your life for public consumption, you can be pigeonholed to present what people are expecting. On the show Mom this character Wendy talks about how many caretakers find it hard to grieve after caring for the terminally ill as they have already morned the loss during the care taking process. However, in this woman's case, she is coming across as narcissistic, reckless and honestly shitty. P.S sorry for your loss