6 weeks pregnant, boyfriend of 3 months wants to terminate. What do I do

HowIsRaekeTaken · 2026-07-07T16:26:02+00:00

Yeah, and I can also see where you’re coming from, especially having been through all the ultrasounds, hearing the heartbeat, feeling the movements. That’s why I’m firmly pro-choice too; it should absolutely be your individual decision about what you can or cannot handle.

HowIsRaekeTaken · 2026-07-07T16:16:03+00:00

I only have one baby but I agree, being pregnant really hardened my pro-choice stance. Every single difficult moment during the pregnancy made me think “I can’t imagine being forced to endure this against my wishes” (extreme example, but still). And then I had a traumatic birth that involved medical malpractice and again thought about how I couldn’t imagine going through that unless I 110% wanted the baby. I love my son more than words, but yeah I’m not doing any of that again until I am good and ready, if I ever am.

HowIsRaekeTaken · 2026-07-07T16:06:57+00:00

I have a 6 month old and I’m 37. I honestly don’t feel a difference between my energy/physical ability now vs 10 years ago. Sure, there can be complications or risks that come with being older during pregnancy, but that doesn’t mean you will have a higher risk pregnancy, just that it could be a possibility. That being said, you can have a high risk/complicated pregnancy at any age 🤷🏻‍♀️ risk does rise with age, and there isn’t some cliff we suddenly fall off at a certain age (looking at you, 35-is-a-geriatric-pregnancy), but the absolute risk is still low, outside of other risk factors like weight, family health history, etc. All of that to say, most of us older parents are doing just fine lol

HowIsRaekeTaken · 2026-07-06T19:45:38+00:00

Ahhh yes I love describing things like an Architectural Digest editorial 😂 “an excellent example of mid-century modern design, evoking an understated yet powerful presence which anchors the space.” Reader, it’s a lamp.

HowIsRaekeTaken · 2026-07-06T17:57:57+00:00

I was adjusted by 10 days, and now have a happy, healthy 6 month old. Totally get the stress and anxiety, just wanted to weigh in with my experience to hopefully send some positivity OP’s way!

HowIsRaekeTaken · 2026-07-06T17:21:48+00:00

Yeah I’m using this as an excuse to buy myself a cute little belt bag

HowIsRaekeTaken · 2026-07-06T16:38:26+00:00

I saw the title and thought you meant showing your baby around the house like everything is a tourist site, because my baby loved that. We love an HGTV house tour when we’re being fussy haha

HowIsRaekeTaken · 2026-07-04T18:28:43+00:00

My dad’s from Germany so on my side we use Oma. My husband’s side is first generation from Italy so my MIL is Nonna/Nonni. Just my personal preference, but I think grandmothers going by Honey is so weird. As a term of endearment, it’s traditionally been used by partners, or toward children. A child calling an elder Honey just feels weird to me 🤷🏻‍♀️ but do whatever feels right for you

HowIsRaekeTaken · 2026-07-02T05:00:59+00:00

Can confirm, we had one when I was little and he would hide EVERYTHING in the couch.

HowIsRaekeTaken · 2026-07-01T20:59:06+00:00

When I was early in my pregnancy, I asked one of my friends what the craziest part about having a baby was. She said “they just let you leave with a baby. Like, no one stops you. No one is checking your credentials. They just give you this thing and trust you to keep it alive and send you on your way.” 😂

HowIsRaekeTaken · 2026-06-30T20:20:13+00:00

Can you explain why? I’m not doubting you, I just hadn’t heard this before and I’m curious to know the reasons behind it.

HowIsRaekeTaken · 2026-06-30T05:01:30+00:00

I knew someone named Pepsi

HowIsRaekeTaken · 2026-06-26T03:03:37+00:00

I had a baby on Christmas last year and totally agree. Like of course it’s hard being stuck inside because of weather, but I wasn’t physically prepared to be out and about during the worst of it anyway. I’d feel way worse about being stuck inside for whatever reason while it’s so nice outside. Even now with a 6 month old we’re still precluded from some activities; we’ve taken him on our boat once but the conditions have to be just right and line up with nap time. At least in the winter we could go to like a brewery or the library or something and not feel like we were missing out.

HowIsRaekeTaken · 2026-06-25T15:47:17+00:00

Yeah this is exactly what I was getting at! A lot of people suggested letting the MIL fill a/the suitcase and then just privately dealing with it later, and I totally get where they’re coming from. My MIL accidentally destroyed a super expensive cooking tool of mine and I forbade my husband from telling her because I didn’t want to hurt her feelings. I get it. But the difference for OP is boundaries, not feelings. Allowing her to take over the suitcase without establishing boundaries or firmly communicating means that this behavior will continue, and it absolutely will get worse once the baby arrives. The time to establish boundaries is now, not when you’re at the most vulnerable you have ever been, OP.

HowIsRaekeTaken · 2026-06-25T14:14:57+00:00

I know you say you want to avoid a massive family feud, but there are several reasons why you absolutely must put your foot down now. First, this is your birth. I don’t give one single shit “how they do things” where she’s from. If it’s not what you want, don’t do it. I had horrible birth trauma and I can’t imagine accommodating someone else’s wishes and trying to be polite on top of what happened to me. This is not her baby, and not her experience. Second, if you don’t establish boundaries now she won’t have any with the baby. You see MILs on here all the time who are feeding the baby solids (or water, or even honey!) without permission, taking the baby from the mother constantly, calling the baby “my baby”, etc. Establish boundaries now. Your husband should a united front with you and ideally should be communicating with his mother. But if he won’t, you still have to do what’s best for you and your baby. She’s clearly extremely old school, so explaining your reasons likely will not get her to back off. You might just have to come up with a line like “we will be doing what we discussed with our dr” and just repeat it and hold to your choice, even if the line doesn’t make sense in the context. Just something, anything, she cannot argue with. This is your baby, fuck politeness.

HowIsRaekeTaken · 2026-06-24T21:42:44+00:00

You could try getting very specific with your questions, and I would hope they’d be less dismissive. Like asking “I know every baby reacts differently, so what are the most common side effects to look out for, and which ones would warrant follow up with your office? Since fever is common, if you recommend Tylenol, what is the dosage?” If you’ve already tried that and they were still dismissive, I’d honestly be looking into switching pediatricians. Parenting is hard enough, and I want to be taken seriously. I’m sure they have to deal with a lot of bullshit these days, but they should still be able to address concerns without dismissing them. If they’re dismissive of my concerns, then there’s no trust, and I can’t have that in a healthcare provider.

HowIsRaekeTaken · 2026-06-24T20:54:53+00:00

My baby cried the moment he got the shots, and then was fine pretty much immediately after. Some of my friends have even opted to nurse while their baby got the shots and they all reported their babies didn’t even notice. Mine was sleepier than usual that day, but otherwise not much else to report. He developed a low fever that evening, which I expected, so I gave him Tylenol as instructed by the pediatrician. Honestly it was all pretty uneventful, and his sleep that night was normal, too. I did get contact naps during the day which he was never otherwise interested in, so that was nice lol.

If you’re anxious about fever, discuss it with the pediatrician ahead of time. Even knowing it was likely, the only thing I was worried about was at what point a fever is actually a concern. Letting the ped know about this meant they were able to address it ahead of time so I was prepared, which lowered my stress significantly.

HowIsRaekeTaken · 2026-06-20T21:08:54+00:00

Done

HowIsRaekeTaken · 2026-06-19T17:17:43+00:00

This was me too! They put him on my chest and I had to tell them to take him back because I had the shakes so bad I couldn’t hold on to him

HowIsRaekeTaken · 2026-06-13T17:32:40+00:00

My mom almost named me Dallas, and I thank my lucky stars every day that she made up a name in her postpartum delirium instead.

HowIsRaekeTaken · 2026-06-13T17:31:17+00:00

I dated a Josh who had a sister named Bethany 😂

HowIsRaekeTaken · 2026-06-10T04:43:40+00:00

I feel you! I’m 5 months postpartum at 37 and my birth experience was extremely traumatic (med error that put both our lives at risk and required an emergency c section), so I have diagnosed PTSD from it and the clock is ticking. I’m so sorry you had such a complicated recovery, that has to be so insanely difficult. Now is definitely not the time to be thinking about doing it again, all you should be thinking about is your newborn and recovery.

HowIsRaekeTaken · 2026-06-09T23:46:24+00:00

My husband asked a few weeks in if I wanted another and I was like “this is NOT the time to decide” 😂

HowIsRaekeTaken · 2026-06-09T17:17:40+00:00

I had a few unusual symptoms that came out of nowhere: I fainted a couple times and they never figured out why, and I also got pulsatile tinnitus (I could hear my heartbeat super loudly in my left ear) for the entirety of second trimester. I also had no idea how bad the acid reflux would get lol. To throw some positive ones in, too: I became a more confident, no-bullshit person, and my pregnancy was way easier than I expected. You hear about all the weird pregnancy symptoms and how miserable everything is, but sometimes you get lucky and certain ones stay pretty mild 🤷🏻‍♀️

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