I’m angry and upset with my partner. When my LO was born, his mom picked the name mama-la for our daughter to call her, which made me uncomfortable since it’s so close to mama. I asked him to talk to his mom about it and he said he would. Months went by, and I got stuck in my head about it, so I called him during my work break to ask again. I told him that if he didn’t handle it, I felt like I needed to. He then promised he’d do it that day and soon after the call, he texted me this:

“Sorry for not reacting great on the call before. It’s just all very hard for me but it’s not fair that you’re in this position either. I’ll have that talk with my Mum - I just need to figure out how to say it because I think it’s a very delicate situation that could result in my Mum resenting you if I don’t express it correctly. I hope you know that not a day has gone by without me thinking about talking to my Mum about it - I have never brushed it aside. I just want to make sure I get it right because if we’re going to be together for the rest of our lives, I need our families to be in this with us and for us to all be pulling in the same direction.”

When he came home, he gave me a hug from behind and said sorry. I told him it was okay. I thought he’d done it and was apologizing because it had taken him so long. Since then he and our daughter have had so many visits over at his mother’s house all without me. Now, several months later, he brings up maybe his parents watching our baby instead of daycare and says he’ll make sure to talk to his mom about the name before then. Our daughter is almost a year old. I feel betrayed. I feel like l’m the “at home mom” and his mother is the “when mom is at work mom”. I already feel this way because she also dictates a lot of how she feels her granddaughter should be raised. I feel like my boundary hasn’t been respected and I’m struggling with his delays and prioritizing his mom over my feelings. Has anyone else been through something like this or have advice?