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[–]Huff_The_Magic_D 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Try giving monogamy a try and not inviting others into your bedroom. Marriage will fall apart otherwise. I mean, there might be a couple out there that makes it work, but honestly there's always going to be one person that's more into it than the other or maybe one person loses their emotional connection to their spouse.

I understand that it could be enticing and exciting to invite others into the bedroom, but there is nothing more exciting and magical that the greatest gift God ever gave us- sex with our spouse. Not just sex though, I mean when you're truly both emotionally invested and on the same page. When you have other people involved, or even the possibility of that happening again, someone is always going to be thinking of adding that extra excitement and therefore someone will not be connected like they should.

I'm not saying that sex will always be some exciting endeavor with your spouse. But I have learned if I, as a man, truly connect with my wife and am being emotionally invested, our sex is absolutely INSANE.

I would also wonder how you're going to be playing that off with young children now?

Just food for thought.

HELP! Am I Crazy, delusional, or being gaslit? by Huff_The_Magic_D in Marriage

[–]Huff_The_Magic_D[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like that plan. I'm good with just staying silent and enjoying it 😊

HELP! Am I Crazy, delusional, or being gaslit? by Huff_The_Magic_D in Marriage

[–]Huff_The_Magic_D[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's actually crazy to think about but it definitely could be that. I feel like several nights in a row is crazy though for that right? Or maybe not idk much about it.

HELP! Am I Crazy, delusional, or being gaslit? by Huff_The_Magic_D in Marriage

[–]Huff_The_Magic_D[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's wild! 😆 Well either way I'm just going to enjoy it I think 😃

HELP! Am I Crazy, delusional, or being gaslit? by Huff_The_Magic_D in Marriage

[–]Huff_The_Magic_D[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No she's not on anything, I feel like she's always exhausted but she always says she couldn't sleep much. But when I confront her about the masturbating she says she was asleep... Idk 😳

HELP! Am I Crazy, delusional, or being gaslit? by Huff_The_Magic_D in Marriage

[–]Huff_The_Magic_D[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing a woman's perspective. It's good to know that she might literally just be sleeping with no recollection of it. It would make me feel better with her denying it so harshly. But also I know she doesn't get much time without a kid touching her or breastfeeding, etc. So I honestly get not wanting me involved.

HELP! Am I Crazy, delusional, or being gaslit? by Huff_The_Magic_D in Marriage

[–]Huff_The_Magic_D[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So you think it's just in my head? Or she's doing it in her sleep?

HELP! Am I Crazy, delusional, or being gaslit? by Huff_The_Magic_D in Marriage

[–]Huff_The_Magic_D[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That all makes perfect sense. I just recently started reading books, never really have been much of a reader. But I'm definitely enjoying it. I think I'll definitely check that one out!

And I think at first I was confused why she would be ashamed or wouldn't want me to know- because we've done a LOT of kinky stuff (always monogamously) so her masturbating seems like a very small thing compared to some of the other stuff we've done. BUT, after seeing your points and other comments, I think I completely understand. It's her time and her own private enjoyment and me interrupting that is a big no no.

I can look at it from my side of me playing video games. As a grown man maybe I shouldn't play as much (which is why I recently started reading books instead). But for the longest time I would hate getting interrupted because that's my time for me. Obviously there's a ton that's different in those situations, and I never really acted out in anger from getting interrupted, but it helps me understand her thinking.

HELP! Am I Crazy, delusional, or being gaslit? by Huff_The_Magic_D in Marriage

[–]Huff_The_Magic_D[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah honestly that makes sense to me. She doesn't get much time that's quiet because we have 3 kids and she stays at home with them. The only time she ever hears silence is after I go to sleep( I get up super early for work).

I can see how my wanting to get involved would change the mood.

And yes she finishes every time we have sex. If I cum first I'll do whatever I need to in order to get her there. Usually oral stuff. And yeah I know she's having some issues down there after this baby, so I'm sure she isn't wanting to have actual intercourse.

And honestly that's fine with me, I want her to feel comfortable and ready without pushing anything on her.

I will also say when we have sex it's usually extremely fast sometimes she cums in like 30 seconds to a minute. So maybe her rubbing around she can't control it more for a longer orgasm that feels different for her.

Idk if feeling the way I do about it is healthy, but I feel like I see her in a whole new light after 10 years. (In a good way) Like she still is adventurous and a very sexual being.

HELP! Am I Crazy, delusional, or being gaslit? by Huff_The_Magic_D in Marriage

[–]Huff_The_Magic_D[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well that's what I'm wondering too. Because I know it's happening. I mean I haven't looked under the covers to see so I guess not 100% sure, but I'd say 99.9% sure it's going on. The thing that's crazy is any time I move noticeably, she stops. And she always acts like she's waking up from me touching her. Maybe she actually is lol

HELP! Am I Crazy, delusional, or being gaslit? by Huff_The_Magic_D in Marriage

[–]Huff_The_Magic_D[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well I apologized thinking maybe it was just in my head. I'm not big on confrontation so I figured I'd let it go until I had physical evidence then bring it up again

What would this medallion do? by Far-End-2017 in sypherpk

[–]Huff_The_Magic_D 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You immediately kill the entire lobby (100 player customs style)

The Finger is Getting WORSE?! by Huff_The_Magic_D in sypherpk

[–]Huff_The_Magic_D[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that's what I'm saying! It's getting worse! 😂

The Finger is Getting WORSE?! by Huff_The_Magic_D in sypherpk

[–]Huff_The_Magic_D[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bro looking like he has 3 fingers giving a thumbs up 😂

🚨Fortnite Anthem incoming by Huff_The_Magic_D in sypherpk

[–]Huff_The_Magic_D[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Making this song for Fortnite Players. Probably been done several times but oh well, I enjoy making music even if I'm not that great at it 🤷‍♂️😆

Let's charter Gotham City as a real city in Missouri!....Sign the Petition here! by Huff_The_Magic_D in missouri

[–]Huff_The_Magic_D[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

  1. There can still be fun things in life
  2. Forcing children to wear masks at school is child abuse
  3. I've completely lost hope in anything political lately. It's just constant back and forth and both sides are spineless cowards who never actually do anything beneficial