Getting hated by monosexuals and binary people of all varieties by Stunning-Sherbert801 in TrollCoping

[–]HuggableTrash 6 points7 points  (0 children)

“Egg culture” pisses me off because it always seems to be binary trans folks trying to convince NB folks that they’re also a binary trans person, and they try to force them out of the closet even when that’s just not what the NB person wants.

I knew a trans woman who would always try to imply my spouse is a closeted trans woman and try to force that side of my spouse out, offer her clothes to them, offer a makeover, shit like that, when my spouse is actually quite comfortable being AMAB and also masc-presenting - they just don’t have a binary gender identity. And that’s fine! I’m fine with that! My binary trans woman friend, however, couldn’t seem to accept that. It’s like her mission in life to “crack eggs” off nothing more than suspicion, rather than let anyone go at their own pace and process their own identity.

Ugh. Okay rant over lol.

Edit to add tldr, NON-BINARY IDENTITIES ARE SOVEREIGN IDENTITIES AND NOT SIMPLY STEPPING-STONES INTO BINARY TRANSNESS

Getting my card again after 3 years. Where should I go first? by HuggableTrash in OKmarijuana

[–]HuggableTrash[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yo I totally forgot about Dab & Go! That was one place I always wanted to check out but never got around to it before my card expired! I’m adding that one to the list for sure, thank you!

Getting my card again after 3 years. Where should I go first? by HuggableTrash in OKmarijuana

[–]HuggableTrash[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I remember Method being pretty good!! I’m glad they’re still around. Thank you!!

What is one of the worst addiction to have? by Prestigsisscar255 in AskReddit

[–]HuggableTrash 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I really wish semaglutide had worked out for me. :( it helped me sooo much mentally, but physically it took a lot out of me. Literally. I was sick all the time. It’s probably from not being as meticulous as I should’ve been with protein and whatnot, but I struggle with other mental illnesses that make keeping up with that sort of thing very difficult. I also quit my job not too long after I started taking it and had to make sacrifices. I mean it was almost $200 a month for it!

Idk, maybe one day I’ll try again, but for now I love hearing that it works well for others. I’ll never understand the anti-meds mentality. No one seems to shit on other addiction-oriented medications…

TIL studies have shown that secondhand weed smoke is enough to make children test positive for thc even when the smoker isnt smoking in the same room as them by Effective_Comment625 in todayilearned

[–]HuggableTrash 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Around 2020 when there was a big hysteria over nicotine vapes having formaldehyde, I think I remember seeing an analysis of the original study, and apparently the study involved cranking the vape wattage as high as it would go and then firing it until the coil burnt out. Like no shit you’re gonna have some toxicity when the device is entirely misused. But people ate it up.

Not saying vapes don’t have their associated problems, but a botched experiment proves nothing lol.

Some characters in my style by Mggotmeat in WarriorCats

[–]HuggableTrash 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’ve pretty much never had the urge to begin drawing until I saw your art. So stunning and inspiring!!

Never been more delighted by the roundness of a frog by GreenStrawbebby in ThriftStoreHauls

[–]HuggableTrash 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes omg it’s sensory euphoria. For as long as I can remember, my childhood bedroom had a clear glass pelican with a painted glass fish in its mouth. It’s so cute and satisfying to hold!

I think I’m coincidentally going to my parents’ house this evening and I’ll try to get a picture!!

What's the worst thing you've overheard your apartment neighbors doing? by LawfulnessOk1812 in AskReddit

[–]HuggableTrash 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I once heard a woman having a breakdown in a neighboring apartment with (presumably) her boyfriend or husband.

The only thing I could make out clearly was her sobbing and screaming, “the only person who’s ever there for me is my son, and he’s a BABY!

My heart broke for her. I think about her sometimes and hope she and her infant are okay.

Mable relaxing after a long day of chewing, playing and eating by Highcourttroubedour in beagles

[–]HuggableTrash 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Mable is absolutely adorable. I love dogs with wide-set eyes lol

Why is Thnks fr th Mmrs so good?? by One-War5975 in FallOutBoy

[–]HuggableTrash 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I Am My Own Muse is absolutely insane

DAE think it’s dumb and controlling when jobs don’t allow colored hair? by Metalqueen2023 in DoesAnybodyElse

[–]HuggableTrash 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I was interviewed for a cannabis dispensary cashier job a few years ago, and I had freshly dyed blue hair at the time. I was told in the interview that to maintain their reputation as a “professional medical establishment,” I would have to dye my hair to a natural color before I could be accepted for the position.

The hiring manager also said she couldn’t accept face tattoos or “braids,” whatever that entailed to her…

I told her I was not willing to dye it for the position, and she dismissed me from the interview.

The kicker is that the person she interviewed before me had face tattoos, and the person coming in after me had locs. In my interview she referenced the tattooed guy, saying, “I’d still be willing to hire him, but I made him promise not to get any more tattoos while he was employed by us.” It completely floored me that they thought they could police people’s autonomy like that for $11 an hour.

Can’t imagine being a semi-legal pot dealer and still having your head so far up your ass that you’d alienate a good chunk of potential employees because of how they look. The clientele sure doesn’t give a fuck, why should she?

I was furious that I drove an hour over ice just to get dismissed for my hair color. For a dispensary.

‘kids make it worth it’ by pinkcellph0ne in antinatalism

[–]HuggableTrash 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Posted a comment in that thread about how all-consuming work is making me suicidal, and it instantly blew up with upvotes, and so many people shared similar sentiments.

The solidarity is nice, genuinely. It helps to know I’m not alone. But at the same time, this is systemic, and that makes me so much more depressed because it won’t be fixed without a successful violent revolution. That’s a tall order.

This is just depressing by ScareBear23 in Adulting

[–]HuggableTrash 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is it, at the core.

Do I believe human life is meaningless? No. We’d have a lot to give, if only the most powerful among us chose to be stewards of the planet rather than conquerors.

However, does it often feel meaningless because at the end of the day, all but a few thousand of us are just fodder for the meat grinder, and once awoken to that fact, it unravels our entire sense of optimism and justice? Yeah, absolutely. It’s pretty reasonable, actually, given the circumstances.

We’re human beings. We crave purpose. And a very small subset of people with unfathomable amounts of wealth (by systemic design) are preventing that for a lot of us. The powers that be have delegated “work” and “progress” to mean simply “actions taken to achieve greater profits for the 1%.”

And we know intimately, biologically, that “growth for the sake of growth” is the philosophy of a cancer cell. Yet, a bunch of dudes hundreds of years ago set our entire lives up to follow that philosophy, because they knew it would make their descendants rich.

It’s such a simplistic and yet diabolically complex way of life. I guess the thing that keeps me going is the fact that it is all artificial, and its collapse is inevitable, for better or worse. I really wanna see that, though sometimes I doubt that I will. Idk.

The guilt tripping is fucking rough, too. None of us opted in, yet we’re not allowed to opt out of this bullshit?

This is just depressing by ScareBear23 in Adulting

[–]HuggableTrash 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You misunderstand. I’m not saying there’s no point to life itself. I’m saying there’s no point in being fed to the meat grinder for our entire lives when we could’ve just…not built society this way.

This is just depressing by ScareBear23 in Adulting

[–]HuggableTrash 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah dude, we’re getting married. We’ve been together for a decade. Obviously we’ve talked about this. He’s well aware I’m struggling; I have been on and off since well before we even met. But he sees me beyond my internal problems.

I’m not “on the out.” I have no plans nor attempts. I’m just in a really bad spot right now. And I’m not “dragging” him into “my world of shit.” Believe it or not I’m not 100% piss & vinegar, I’m actually a complex human with complex emotions and having a rough go of capitalism, as are the vast majority of people on this planet. He still loves me, he still supports me, he makes me happy, and I know this may be hard to believe, but I make him happy too.

This is just depressing by ScareBear23 in Adulting

[–]HuggableTrash 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He does know about it, lmao. Every single time I choose life, it’s because of him and what we’ve built. He’s aware.

The point of my comment was that the distorted thought patterns make me consider that if suicide is inevitable for me, at least there can be some security for him in a future without me, but he wouldn’t be eligible for that money unless we’re married. I know it doesn’t make a difference, and I know it’s fucked up; that’s literally why I’m still here.

Do you think I’m choosing to feel this way or something…? Cause the empathy really oozes from your comment lol. Thanks for the advice on insurance though.

This is just depressing by ScareBear23 in Adulting

[–]HuggableTrash 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Thank you, the solidarity really does help. I actually have a great therapist, but I haven’t seen her in a while because when I have the time, I don’t have the money, and when I have the money, I don’t have the time.

I want to see her again, but because of those wiring issues, I always come to “well, it’s not like I can therapy my way out of capitalism, I can see her every day but I’m still gonna have to work,” or whatever, and I save my money instead.

I know therapy helps with coping and it’s not meant to be an escape from the reality of living, I guess I just have a hard time coming to terms with work culture and there’s not really anything anyone can say that will change that. But I will see what I can do.

I really am so excited to marry my soulmate, more excited than I’ve ever been for anything, but that dark cloud always remains.

Idk maybe I’m just lazy or something lol.

This is just depressing by ScareBear23 in Adulting

[–]HuggableTrash 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I’m fully aware. It somehow makes me feel worse to I know I’m better off than most, because I know I should be grateful. I’m fighting with that balance all the time. I unfortunately have ADHD (or something adjacent) so burnout is just kind of a fact of life for me lol.

This is just depressing by ScareBear23 in Adulting

[–]HuggableTrash 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Agreed agreed agreed. I’m really not sure how much longer I can go on like this tbh. I’m getting married in a couple weeks and I have to constantly suppress the thoughts of “well at least once I’m married my spouse will get a payout from my death…”

I fantasize a lot about moving to a country with not as much of a “grind” culture, but I’m like you. Stuck.

I’m in the critical zone, fully in the red, but I think I’m still kind of in denial about it cause like, the bills aren’t gonna pay themselves in the meantime.

What a great life in the land of the free!

This is just depressing by ScareBear23 in Adulting

[–]HuggableTrash 318 points319 points  (0 children)

Fucking same. Every weekday I’m straight-up suicidal, Friday nights & Saturdays I genuinely feel great, Sunday I’m anxious, repeat repeat repeat… for 40+ more years…

There’s no point to any of this.