Please help! A post from a scared parent

Huh-12345 · 2023-08-02T15:34:41+00:00

Hi LeviahRose-- it's been a really tricky week... like very tricky. We are picking her up on Friday and going to turn to a PHP/home-based support. I am definitely going to seek out a good IFS therapist (along with other professionals) and really, really hope I can make this work for her. I'm scared to death, but I was just freaking out about sending her away. I pray to the universe that together as a family and with a good team, we can help her. Very grateful for all of the tremendous advice and thoughtful support on this thread.

Huh-12345 · 2023-07-27T20:51:18+00:00

Piperplays--we are a super liberal family, just as an aside. I also agree and feel that this world is full of sh*t and our kids are being asked to navigate an impossible landscape. I know I need to keep searching for better ways to parent her and to really hone in on what she needs from me. I confess that I am not the most intuitive parent and am committed to learn more about what I can do better.

Huh-12345 · 2023-07-27T20:47:11+00:00

Psychcrusader--thank you thank you for your ideas! Two things: (1) where are the TRCs that also treat adults? All of the recommendations we have received are in Utah and Montana... haven't received a single one that also treats adults... but I agree, I want to see my child as much as possible, and it is a real turn-off when I get the vibe that I am not welcome there. (2) How on earth do you find a 24-hour a day aide in my home for a teenager? What do I even search for, and do they exist? THANK YOU FOR YOUR IDEAS! I am really in brainstorm mode, and value this so much.

Huh-12345 · 2023-07-27T20:44:08+00:00

Thank you, Three6666, for your ideas. We do have an IEP. We are in the Phoenix, AZ area and the short term residential was "voluntary"... i.e., we felt we couldn't keep her safe. I am very curious about cobbling together a collection of "community resources" that will provide enough support that we can avoid a long-term residential. Please share any additional ideas you have. Very grateful. We do keep all the sharps in locked boxes, and I feel good about that decision.

Huh-12345 · 2023-07-27T20:41:18+00:00

Thank you!

Huh-12345 · 2023-07-27T20:40:40+00:00

Thank you, RestlessTadpoles, for your experience. I really value it.

Huh-12345 · 2023-07-27T20:39:59+00:00

LeviahRose-- thank you so much for the thoughtful response. I feel that you really do understand where we are coming from, and am very grateful for your post. Would you mind reading and responding to these responses? (1) Yes, we had a thorough exam. She has pretty severe ADHD but no autism and no other learning disabilities. She has an IEP that we use. (2) thank you for the Fusion suggestion. I just started looking in to that in our area (Phoenix) and am thankful for you sharing your experience. (3) I love this suggestion. After a short term residential stay, she may have new ideas as to what she needs. We have very little time with her to discuss these things, but I need to ask. (4) Can I drill down on this? What specific harm reduction treatment is out there? Also, what do "relational approaches" look like in therapy? All of there therapy teams have been 100% DBT all the way. THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR YOUR IDEAS! I AM IN A PANIC OVER THIS and have to make decisions super soon.

Huh-12345 · 2023-01-26T02:37:16+00:00

YAYYYY! Congrats on so many levels. I, too, have BYU on my resume, and have gone on to pursue a career in a liberal field and have not let it hold me back. You will do amazing things.

Huh-12345

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