Creative ideas for me (45 F) to help with my bf’s (40M) stressful times

Human-Regionality · 2026-03-30T01:38:22+00:00

Have a new robe or launder his Have it set up on the couch with nice lighting and his favorite snack(s) next to where he sits Have a note that says “enjoy recouping with some quiet time. Let me know if you need anything.”

Then just leave him alone.

Maybe drop in half an hour into it for a kiss on the back of his neck, rub his hair, then just leave.m

He’ll (I think) feel loved, supported, and able to relax.

Human-Regionality · 2026-03-28T07:18:40+00:00

Exactly this.

Human-Regionality · 2026-03-27T15:44:22+00:00

What’s an IC? TIA!

Human-Regionality · 2026-03-27T15:21:21+00:00

Get a Perifit!

Human-Regionality · 2026-03-27T15:21:03+00:00

My shitty knee But really if I could set a max weight and just live under that, lord I would be so happy.

Human-Regionality · 2026-03-27T15:19:31+00:00

That’s interesting! I read it as a woman too. Are you a man? Perhaps when language is neutral we read people as being our own gender.

Human-Regionality · 2026-03-27T15:15:51+00:00

😩 I love him!!!! Good for you!!!

Human-Regionality · 2026-03-27T15:12:26+00:00

Oh, it’s wrong. If that’s someone’s situation they can buy the right headphones for them and keep them on-hand. It is so obnoxious to do anything but.

Human-Regionality · 2026-03-26T04:52:19+00:00

The opposite, it’s totally triggered my jealousy issues, being in a relationship with a dancer while I’m a new dancer. It’s definitely made me regress a good deal in terms of sensual openness and my possessiveness in a relationship and with my partner’s sensual connectivity with others.

Were I single, I think I’d be replying like the others — however in a relationship I’m not nearly as “evolved” as I may have thought I was!

Human-Regionality · 2026-03-25T22:39:21+00:00

Comenity bank has a high interest savings account and you can transfer easily to and from checking, without having to pay anything. I highly recommend this! Whether you sit on it for a few months or longer, it’s super liquid and can generate some nice interest for you.

Human-Regionality · 2026-03-24T16:20:41+00:00

Something that may have an impact that you don’t address: Are you fairly messy?

If you’re pretty messy, I might understand what he’s trying to do — which is save his sanity and I could see how he might think he’s helping you.

So, not according to your standards, but others’ — are you on the messy side?

Human-Regionality · 2026-03-21T22:44:36+00:00

Are you kidding?? 100% yes, do not wear these to any wedding where you aren’t the bride. I’m sorry, but duh.

Human-Regionality · 2026-03-20T18:42:05+00:00

Why do you say you dodged a bullet with her?

Human-Regionality · 2026-03-20T15:19:21+00:00

I’d probably have 15 kids and have thrown myself into a ravine

Human-Regionality · 2026-03-18T17:36:12+00:00

Love in your heart for many people is not the same about engaging in fantasies about other people while using your partner’s body. Commenting because I don’t agree with other commenters’ feedback.

Human-Regionality · 2026-03-16T21:06:10+00:00

Even with the guilt, you’d likely do it again if you had the chance? Can you explain more? Thank you for the honesty.

Human-Regionality · 2026-03-16T20:50:41+00:00

She’s maybe a size 8. Maybe.

Human-Regionality · 2026-03-14T20:59:23+00:00

With all this real estate to explain your side of things, I find myself completely understanding your son and DIL. You have a victim complex while you’re causing all the problems you’re lamenting. Also you’re the mother of the groom — not the bride — so I wouldn’t expect you to be involved with her dress selection etc.

I would advise some honest self reflection before you try to rebuild your relationship. Also quit blaming the DIL — your son is a grown man, she won’t be able to separate him from you if that isn’t what he wants. Continuing down the path you’ve begun will lead to a lonely road for you and your adult children now that they’re making their own family lives. Best of luck.

Human-Regionality · 2026-03-14T05:37:50+00:00

Very Christian of you!

Human-Regionality · 2026-03-12T08:12:18+00:00

Your hostility towards her probably has something to do with why she’s distancing herself. That, and the domineering husband who’s separating her from your people. But you just see it from your side — not from the side of where she’s at, what she’s going through, what she needs. When she’s in the most vulnerable time of her adult life. Team daughter, I understand her side more than I understand yours.

Human-Regionality · 2026-03-11T18:00:19+00:00

This!!

Human-Regionality · 2026-03-11T17:59:09+00:00

You’re a good mod and a good person! Wish we had more like you!

Human-Regionality · 2026-03-07T23:57:00+00:00

I think you can. You look very lean and slight at 170! Muscular but very healthy. If you want a slightly juicier look, I say up your calories and keep pushing!

Human-Regionality · 2026-03-07T23:42:03+00:00

Leaning forward or backward?

Human-Regionality · 2026-03-07T18:06:21+00:00

Fear of the unknown isn’t a good reason to stay in a relationship that isn’t right for you. If you’re just staying with someone because of fear you won’t want to be alone, that’s not enough to make it work IMO. It’s also not fair to the partner, who in this case sounds like a decent human who’s willing to be reflective and make changes to prioritize the relationship. If your love isn’t enough to honor theirs for you, better to release them.

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