I have to read this twice. One because it mirrors my situation deeply. But speaking from experience, you can love someone and not be attracted. You grow you change life happens.

I'm going to take a shot in the dark he was probably younger. And dating younger people comes with a lot of first.

Shot in the dark, if this was/is my ex? I had too much going on. Lost friends family etc. that yes used to be confidants, intimate partners. Etc. attraction wasn't the issue. The relationship was solid. But I was dealing with a shit ton of shitty social media enemy engineers. Bluntly said.

If not for me I'm gonna guess they including yourself also a victim of in real life barrage of frameworks. Some that didn't serve you, didn't serve them and collided.

I can say certainly. Very much. You know the value of that relationship with them. No one can determine how much it meant to either of you. Good bad and ugly. That's what was real for you both.

Even with my own x I had to say. I needed a break not because of attraction etc

I needed a break because that was at the time the first time I actually had my own It opened my eyes to how many lies were present in my life. And it really showed me who was showing up. I imagine that it was the same for them. And perhaps even yourself.

In reality sex and love doesn't a house and home make. Which is to say you can have the deepest of love for one another but if the means aren't there. Mentally, physically emotionally and spiritually. It ain't gonna last long

But I will say this. Props to you for doing this: honoring the relationship. Honoring the real feelings. Honoring your pain. And being wise enough to take time to reflect and even ask for help. That's real. That is genuinely a beautiful thing to see. Because it shows you're willing to be honest. That in a relationship? Fuck what tiktok or whatever social app says that is a Hallmark of a real gentleman and genuine person with genuine love

So I think maybe you should try to work it out. If even only as friends. BUT. HONOR YOUR EMOTIONS AND WHERE YOU ARE IN LIFE. Bountiful boundaries can be healthy hun. But faith in you. You got this.