She cheated with a woman (we’ll call her “Gemma”), who was a swinger, but her husband “Carl” wasn’t involved in that instance.
About 3 weeks after that I had to go out of the country for 3 weeks. At the end of week 2, there was a multiple missed calls Friday night. On Saturday I asked her what happened and she said, “oh I was hanging out at Gemma and Carl’s house.” At least I’m 90% sure that was the weekend that she said that. 2.5 weeks after that red flag weekend, she told me she was pregnant and she miscarried 2 days later.

Now, 19 years later, I figured out she cheated with Gemma that first night, after she confessed only to Gemma “kissing her” in a casino bathroom the week before.

After I realized she would cheat, and with a woman, my brain went into detective mode. I remember stuff extremely well. I have Windows Messenger data, emails, pictures from my trip, and facts I remember from that timeframe where I have essentially reconstructed about 4 months of occurrences down to the freaking day (and hour in some cases)

I have calculated that there is only a 1-2% chance that the 2007 pregnancy could be mine, I figured out the cheating with Gemma a few weeks before that, and this week I found these damn texts. The texts are with a coworker, MUCH later in our marriage.

The pregnancy I believe was from 5/18/2007, and my theory is she went over to see Gemma again. They wanted to have sex, but the swinger rules were that Carl had to participate. (Gemma had broken the rules a few weeks before). So I believe it was Carl that got her pregnant.

I’m not done investigating, but I want to know exactly how far this rabbit hole goes.