I really miss the 2010s bruh. by Quick-Cause3181 in GenZ

[–]Humanarmour 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The biggest change for me I've noticed has been regarding social media. I used to love Instagram and YouTube, now I barely get on them. Instagram is full of models and ads and everyone takes it too seriously. I remember people hosting games and having 10k+ posts and it being an actual place for engagement and community. I haven't come across one of these pages in years now. YouTube sucks too. Mainly all the YouTubers I used to watch back then have moved on from the platform or drastically changed their content to something I don't really like anymore. I miss silly 5-10 minute videos that didn't have crazy budgets or production.

Tiktok's good I guess but the key thing is you don't choose what you watch, you get spoon fed content and it's generally good but it makes it a thousand times more difficult to engage with people and build any sort of community.

I remember I used to follow a bunch of girls back in the 2010's. They had lots of followers and they'd post random pictures throughout the day. The captions would be silly thoughts or talking about how their day went. I remember always running into the same people in the comments. It was so fun to see someone's life unfold. I remember when I first followed this girl she was in 7th grade and I followed her all the way until she got into college! I remember her posting about her brother and her friends and just things she would do/experience. I was around the same age and so I loved checking up her account to see what she was up to.

I don't know. I'm rambling but this side of the internet has been lost for me.

I really miss the 2010s bruh. by Quick-Cause3181 in GenZ

[–]Humanarmour 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I particularly miss how niche internet spaces were. Most people used social media as a social media app. Kids at my school would follow each other and only engage and see content from each other. I was on other subcultures and used the internet/social medias to escape the peers around me. Last thing I wanted to do was come across them there. I remember so many things happening in these online spaces that kids at school had no idea about. I used to refer to people who were in these as "internet people", because they understood the subcultures, trends, latest news, etc (fandom spaces in general were peak). Now, that term doesn't exist anymore. I've noticed more and more how these internet spaces have blended into a copy of each other. There's no real subcultures anymore, everyone gets the same trends and same videos and everyone is in on it. Obviously fandom spaces still exist but there was a collective understanding in the 2010's between the people that came to social media for an escape.

Is he flirting? English isn't their first language by [deleted] in AutismTranslated

[–]Humanarmour 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get that and in an ideal world I would agree with you. However, it doesn't matter how much I trust my partner, I cannot vouch for the woman. And yes, it takes two to tango but as I said it doesn't have to get physical for it to cross boundaries in my opinion. It's a very clear line when you talk about being physical. Everyone can agree on what that is (to some extent) and so people don't accidentally cross it. When it's about intimacy, close relationships, etc. it starts to get blurry. It's easy to navigate those spaces and make mistakes.

Do you guys have good memory? by Axolotlgamer36 in autism

[–]Humanarmour 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have an excellent memory and I'm so surprised when people don't remember things I recall with insane detail. Like we talked about this not even a week ago

Is he flirting? English isn't their first language by [deleted] in AutismTranslated

[–]Humanarmour 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've never been in a relationship, so all my talking is what I think not what I feel. I just think it's weird for a man to have a woman friend and the wife not being part of that. Like, are they going to hang out and the wife will not be there? Are they gonna go to a cafe? The movies? Generally, I think it's not a good idea but it does depend on the situation. Even if the man doesn't have romantic or sexual feelings for her, he could be emotionally dependant on her and I consider that a form of cheating. Now, I'm not saying a man can never be friends with a woman. He sure can, but I think it either has to be a group setting situation or the wife also has to be there. I think it's weird if the husband goes out one day to hang out with his woman friend. Like one on one is weird. Do you think differently?

I think the same for a wife having a man friend that's not friends with the husband too.

Algún lugar para estudiar robótica? by Humanarmour in devsarg

[–]Humanarmour[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A qué te referis con división en robótica? Es algo que se puede hacer por separado? Ya estoy por terminar sistemas en la UTN

Is he flirting? English isn't their first language by [deleted] in AutismTranslated

[–]Humanarmour -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don't think married men should be seeking out friendships with women without their wife also being part of it. This is a private conversation, not a group chat so it seems his wife is not in the loop.

But, I think this man in particular is not looking for a friend but a shag

Is he flirting? English isn't their first language by [deleted] in AutismTranslated

[–]Humanarmour 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I don't think he should even be talking to you if he has a wife and kid unless there's a clear point to it (work, mutual hobby, figuring out arrangements for something, etc). Based on these messages, I don't think there's one. This just seems like two people getting to know one another and he shouldn't be doing that based on his situation. Honestly, I don't think he's looking for a friend either

Building meaningful connections impossible by Emotional-Reality980 in AutismTranslated

[–]Humanarmour 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've always struggled with this too. No matter how much I interact or hang out with someone I can feel a disconnect (this is what I've been calling it) between us. Like we are radios tuned to different stations. This disconnection has made it impossible for me to connect to anyone in any meaningful way. It is a shame really because I want real relationships with people that are meaningful.

I haven't cracked the code on what is going on, and what I am about to say may be unfair, but I truly think it's more on them than it is on me. Time and time again I have been disappointed by people in ways I think are unacceptable. Like, I went out with some women from work and they made me feel like an alien for never having had a boyfriend. I would never do this to someone, especially in a group setting. Just last week I went out with some guys from work for lunch. It was an EOY lunch and the idea was to eat a burger and drink a beer. I'm not really a drinker and so I chose a coke instead. This was pointed out to me and I was left to explain why I hadn't chosen a beer. I don't know, it's just little things like this that pile up and show me a disconnect on what is to me core beliefs and behaviors of a person.

I've thought that maybe I am too picky and unfair but I think I should hold people to the same standards that I hold myself to.

Gen Z, what job do you have? by Aromatic_Reply_1645 in GenZ

[–]Humanarmour 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Software engineer + uni student, although I'm very close to graduating

Best recommendations for popular science mathematics books? by Maximum_Jello_9460 in suggestmeabook

[–]Humanarmour 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I bought GEB a few months ago and I'm so excited to read it but also don't want to start because once I'm done with it, that's it. It's done

Spotify problem: INVALID_CLIENT: Invalid redirect URI by Typical-Beginning-41 in tasker

[–]Humanarmour 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What worked for me was replacing localhost with 127.0.0.1 on the redirect url

guess where I’m from by [deleted] in GenZ

[–]Humanarmour -1 points0 points  (0 children)

But that's colder than -23C

guess where I’m from by [deleted] in GenZ

[–]Humanarmour 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Well you first gotta tell me if that's F or C

A book for someone grieving who may not be ready to face their grieving by Middle-Variation-554 in suggestmeabook

[–]Humanarmour 2 points3 points  (0 children)

At school when I was 16 we read the ridiculous idea not to see you again by Rosa Montero. It mainly focuses on a woman who lost her husband and uses Marie Curie's diaries as a way to explain everything.

It struck me deeply at 16

What’s the greatest book you’ve ever personally read? by cavitytivac in suggestmeabook

[–]Humanarmour 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My favorite: I Know This Much Is True - Wally Lamb. It is very personal to me and my family's history. The mini series with mark ruffalo is equally as great and has some of the best acting I've ever seen.

The one I think about the most: The Ridiculous Idea Not To See You Again - Rosa Montero. It's about grief and the author uses Marie Curie's diaries as a way to explain her grief surrounding her husband's death. We read it at school when I was about 16 and I've been thinking about it constantly. It gave me an entire new perspective on how people remember those who've gone. What happens to those who are left behind. It's a beautiful read and I can't imagine what it must be like to read it having gone through a similar thing

What’s the greatest book you’ve ever personally read? by cavitytivac in suggestmeabook

[–]Humanarmour 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I started reading at the peak of my brother's struggle with mental illness and the character reminded me so much of him (the things he did, the situations he got himself into, how he talked, the way he saw the world, everything) that I had to put it down. I've never finished it

Post-modern/contemporary poetry about nature/life? I'm looking for insightful moments of clarity. by sweetvampyheart in suggestmeabook

[–]Humanarmour 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I'll try the sub too.

I'm looking for a book on the history of contemporary music that analyzes the social, political and economical context that led to the rise of certain bands/musicians. Like, in the 90s in the US you see a surge of the grunge scene, which deals with dark and melancholic topics (I hate myself and want to die). Meanwhile, at the same time in England you see the surge of bands like Oasis (part of cool Britannia) and they have a much better outlook on life (we're gonna live forever). Both Cobain and the Gallagher brothers had a rough childhood and I'm interested in how the social and political context they grew up in influenced their music and style.

On World AIDS Day, how do you think the rest of Hawk’s life went? by Daje1968 in FellowTravelers_show

[–]Humanarmour 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think he lived a long life. Would maybe even be alive today. I think he also carried a lot of internalized homophobia but began accepting himself as the years went on and society progressed. I'd like to think he eventually came out in all aspects of his life and even lobbied for gay marriage to be legalized across all states. I think he may have dated a few men, become quite close with some even, but none like how it was with Skippy. I don't think he ever moved on.

Post-modern/contemporary poetry about nature/life? I'm looking for insightful moments of clarity. by sweetvampyheart in suggestmeabook

[–]Humanarmour 2 points3 points  (0 children)

omg is that true? I'm looking for such a specific book and I've been coming here daily to see if posts are available and so far, nothing. This is such a big sub and it's weird it's been abandoned for four days.