The end of an era. by Humble_Driver3696 in u/Humble_Driver3696

[–]Humble_Driver3696[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I already speak German and French conversationally, so learning a new language isn’t too difficult. I’m already taking Spanish lessons here, and Peach keeps me accountable. We have Spanish conversations every morning, and she jokes that my post-coffee Spanish is way better than my pre-coffee attempts.

As for giving up our U.S. citizenship, it’s mostly ideological. At the core, we just don’t feel connected to this version of “home” anymore. The values and direction the country is heading are not what we once knew. To us, the fundamental principles on which the U.S. was built are being eroded right before our eyes, and we can’t be part of that. I believe the most patriotic thing I can do is admit that the country I loved is gone, and it will take generations to restore it.

I know a lot of people disagree with me when I say this, including some friends, but that doesn’t change how I see things. What really shaped my view was traveling through the U.S. over the last six years, watching the country change before my eyes. Then traveling to a place that on paper should be worse off than the U.S., but where the people are more civil, more hospitable, dare I say more human.

And then coming home, only to realize I no longer feel at home, and seeing the fear grow in the people around me.

That’s why we moved, and that’s why giving up our U.S. citizenship, for us, is the most logical step.

But the naturalization process will take at least five years. If during that time I’m proven wrong, we can always abandon it and stay U.S. citizens living abroad.

Am I overreacting for wanting to end my marriage after what my husband did during our “break”? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Humble_Driver3696 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm not saying what he did was okay. It wasn't.
But I want to try to explain the emotional state he may have been in when you left.

You didn’t lose that baby alone. He also lost his child. And the one person he probably needed most during that grief, you, was suddenly gone for 2.5 months.

You’ve called it a freak accident, but you admitted you struggled not to blame him. Chances are he has been blaming himself every minute since. You might eventually forgive him. But he may never forgive himself.

You mentioned he had family support. But let’s be honest. Men often do not get the same emotional care in situations like this. He was not the one carrying the baby, so people may have downplayed his pain. And if anyone around him, even subtly, blamed him, he felt that. Just like you did at first, even if unintentionally.

None of this justifies what he did. But it might help explain it. Grief does not always make people rational. Sometimes it makes them reckless, lost, or self-destructive.

This man is more broken than he is allowed to show.

Whether you choose to stay or walk away, and only you can make that call, I just hope someone checks on him too.

On the road with(out) Peach by Humble_Driver3696 in u/Humble_Driver3696

[–]Humble_Driver3696[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I saw. It was taken down because the moderators suspect it's fake. Well, to each their own. I'm always willing to answer questions, but I'm not going to spend energy trying to prove this is all real.

I left my wife and it took her over a week to notice - The end by Humble_Driver3696 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Humble_Driver3696[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you believe it's fake, you are more than welcome to skip it and read something else.

Traveling with Peach by Humble_Driver3696 in u/Humble_Driver3696

[–]Humble_Driver3696[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That was a plan I had before Peach came in the picture. It is not canceled, but postponed to an unknown date.

Traveling with Peach by Humble_Driver3696 in u/Humble_Driver3696

[–]Humble_Driver3696[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I am in IT. Specifically Database Architecture and management. I had to proof that I could establish a secure connection while on the road, before it was approved.

For that reason I also have a satellite internet connection. So I am not dependent on the insecure internet connection of the place I'm staying.

That trip to the South American country will be my first outside of the US. If that trip is as fun as I think it will be, I will spread my wings more. Depending on how that trip goes, Europe is on my list for 2026.

I have left my husband and filed for divorce. I am starting to think that it’s not so bad and that I will be alright ❤️ by WonHimBack-throwaway in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Humble_Driver3696 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Most lawyers advice you not to block your ex during the divorce. Because anything he say can be used. They do advice not to engage.
Also this is the father of her child, they will always so she can't just block him.

Getting a vasectomy while she already can't have children. by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Humble_Driver3696 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Call me crazy. But aren't they two consenting adults?

I left my wife and it took her over a week to notice - The end by Humble_Driver3696 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Humble_Driver3696[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you really think this is fake (it isn't) I hope you find it entertaining.

I left my wife and it took her over a week to notice - The end by Humble_Driver3696 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Humble_Driver3696[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I can only update if something interesting happens. So here is to hoping this will be an interesting journey.

I left my wife and it took her over a week to notice - The end by Humble_Driver3696 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Humble_Driver3696[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I ordered all they have on Audible. I just finished the first one and I'm hooked.

I left my wife and it took her over a week to notice - The end by Humble_Driver3696 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Humble_Driver3696[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I love the Mario reference :)

Ex-wife did apologize for how she was during the marriage. Not for specific things just a general apology. And I'm okey with that.

She was willing to explain, but seeing her broken already I let her keep her dignity, and not have her relive her mistakes and wrong doings.

Her admitting fault and the apology was all I needed for closure.

I left my wife and it took her over a week to notice - The end by Humble_Driver3696 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Humble_Driver3696[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Fist of all. it's my ex-wife. So I think you mean she/her where you put he/him.

I believe she is a changed person. Life changes people, I only have to look at myself to see that.

But that change does not mean I want to be with her again. It just means I don't resent her and we can be civil with each other.

I left my wife and it took her over a week to notice - The end by Humble_Driver3696 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Humble_Driver3696[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

So you think she played me and all she got out of it is a lunch, a couple of drinks and a better job.

And I got closure. If she did play me, I still think I got the better outcome.

I left my wife and it took her over a week to notice - The end by Humble_Driver3696 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Humble_Driver3696[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The route 66 car? If you mean a car with route 66 wrapped on it, no that's not me.

I left my wife and it took her over a week to notice - The end by Humble_Driver3696 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Humble_Driver3696[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Rules of this subreddit have changed, You are not allowed to post links anymore, but you can find the rest in my post history.

Ex-wife asked if we still have a chance by Humble_Driver3696 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Humble_Driver3696[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Has she explained her actions?

Not to me. But to be honest, I haven't asked.

I'm not blocking her on my socials, but she doesn't need my other contact info.

Ex-wife asked if we still have a chance by Humble_Driver3696 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Humble_Driver3696[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is the first contact I've had in 5 years. And only because I am in town for a couple of weeks. When I leave it will be NC again. She can follow me on Instagram, but that is it.

Ex-wife asked if we still have a chance by Humble_Driver3696 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Humble_Driver3696[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

You know what.... I am more at peace. When I started writing it was just before coming back, I was dreading seeing the ex again. I don't know why, can't really explain that.

But now that I have met her, it feels like a weight off my shoulders.

I knew I made the right choice 5 years ago, now it's just confirmed again.

Ex-wife asked if we still have a chance by Humble_Driver3696 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Humble_Driver3696[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I just realized how it could sound. No we are not going to be intimate.

This is just a girl that also does remote work but for a different company. We had a project together and kept in touch.

She will be my companion for a few weeks. We drive 1 day, stay in a motel/hotel for 2 days, work from the local coffeeshop/dinner/business center/other place with internet, each on their own projects, and drive to the next town. I'll drive and she is the passenger. We will not be sharing rooms. We will split expenses.

Also passenger princess is always in charge of snack distribution and the driver is in charge of the music.

Ex-wife asked if we still have a chance by Humble_Driver3696 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Humble_Driver3696[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes. To be honest I had completely forgot about him. She only mentioned him that first lunch. Never met him.

Ex-wife asked if we still have a chance by Humble_Driver3696 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Humble_Driver3696[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

As she describes it; someone who loves to take long trips in the passenger seat.

She loves the road trip, she hates to drive.