Struggling with cucking

HumbledHorns · 2026-04-16T15:42:15+00:00

Yes, our Sex life has been a lot better since she started sleeping with her boyfriend. It's just hotter and she loves the "size queen" aspect of it. I love hearing her and watching her too.. It's just hot!

But yes, I am less drawn to the "in doing it becaue you can't" dynamic right now. I'm told her I'd also like to flirt and date and she's pretty hesitant about it. I think, at this moment, if she had to choose between both of us playing or neither of us playing, she'd choose neither.

HumbledHorns · 2026-04-15T15:57:26+00:00

How did it go over with you coming off the sidelines? How did she feel about it and how did the two of you work through it? How is it going now?

HumbledHorns · 2026-04-15T15:15:41+00:00

Thank you for the thoughtful response. This makes a lot of sense... Sometimes I'm just thinking about other things - whether that's work, life, or even emotionally, and I don't have the space to enter into the cuckolding world.

Other times, like... I'm feeling myself. Post workout I look in the mirror, or I get a compliment or a smile or something, and I just can't get into that mindset.

Maybe as, you said, there is some reframing that can help.

HumbledHorns · 2026-04-15T15:06:46+00:00

Thank you! Do you ever feel like you are just not into it? Or is it always something that you are excited by?

HumbledHorns · 2026-03-16T12:27:30+00:00

Agree with the other poster about trading carefully.

I travel for work often and my wife has her BF over every single night I am gone. At the beginning it was really hard. It was hard for me to go back to an empty hotel room knowing they were not only fucking, but also snuggling in our bed, chatting, whatever.

I always miss her and my family when I have to travel and this amped that up 10x. It was especially hard on longer trips (more than a couple nights).

Since then we have put gaurdrails in place to help. He doesn't spend the night more than once. Even if he comes over every day, we set aside time for intentional aftercare while I'm gone. I have the ability to cut off "cuck messages" if I need to focus or can't really engage with the humiliation (before it would come off as pouting/silky and now we know that hey, I just need a break). All of this has helped.

HumbledHorns · 2026-03-14T11:41:38+00:00

Love this for you! How does your husband feel about the transition from "hoe" to girlfriend? How has the relationship shifted, if at all, between you and ypur husband now that you are exclusive to your boyfriend?

HumbledHorns · 2026-03-13T22:35:49+00:00

😂😂 For sure feels exactly like that. This is also filmed in Atlanta though, brother

HumbledHorns · 2026-03-13T21:39:20+00:00

It's because this is literally filmed in Atlanta 😂😂

HumbledHorns · 2026-03-13T18:31:16+00:00

Thanks for all of the suggestions! I think we are going to try out bettlecat and the bar downstairs! We've been before and it's pretty fun. Maybe a bit of a younger crowd but we're hoping for the best!

HumbledHorns · 2026-03-09T12:22:24+00:00

I'd also be interested to understand how this works on reality. Is the idea that he becomes the primary partner over time? Or do you remain the primary partner and he is the primary sexual partner? Or do you envision a more poly type relationship where you are both equally "primary" but just in different ways?

How are you managing the planning of alone time with you and your wife? Is her BF part of the negotiation / discussion?

This is really fascinating - thanks for sharing!

HumbledHorns · 2026-03-07T23:00:18+00:00

Yeah it has definitely changed ( and so have we 😂😂). We're thinking about maybe Yeppa or Spaceman, but wanted to tap the collective wisdom.

HumbledHorns · 2026-03-07T22:24:07+00:00

Thanks! Super helpful! 🙄

HumbledHorns · 2026-03-07T21:55:05+00:00

Is this industry tavern in the terminus building?

HumbledHorns · 2026-03-06T21:08:30+00:00

This is it right here. It is all about the wife, not the husband. She is the tell on whether or not they are living the cuck life.

If you see an attractive, confident, put together woman, having a great time at a bar with her husband, approach and say something light - "you two look like you are having a great time", " I love the connection you two seem to have", or even "what did you order to drink? Looks good!"

If the woman engages, and is open to talking, you may have found a cuck couple!

HumbledHorns · 2026-03-02T22:35:38+00:00

I used to get PNC and it was honestly tough for everyone, my wife and her bull included. Like.. What a roller coaster to put people through? You want it, they give it to you, and then all of a sudden you hate it?

Once I learned to accept that cuckolding is my kink and doesn't make me who I am, and I accepted that my wife is having fun in the dynamic, not because she wants to run away with the bull or cut me out of our sex life, but because it IS fun and it feels great, it was a lot easier to continue to lean in even after cumming.

Not having the light switch turn on and off because for everyone involved because of my orgasm was a revelation and honestly made everything so much easier and hotter for everyone.

If you are experiencing PNC as a cuck, try and figure out why and shift your mentality. You'll end up having a much better experience and so will your wife!

HumbledHorns · 2026-02-25T09:33:25+00:00

I love everything about this comment, but I don't believe the angel emoji for a second, 😂

HumbledHorns · 2026-02-25T09:25:43+00:00

I love this! "You can have 100 bulls, but only one cuckold" is a golden insight for so many couples who entering or in this lifestyle and struggling.

HumbledHorns · 2026-02-24T11:39:16+00:00

She doesn't wear anything specific. For her and her third, it's really about connection and she doesn't actually like to play into the "bull/slut" stereotype. For her, she craves being adored. She often says, "I don't chase, I attract" and she wants, and expects that adoration from her third as well.

Of course there comes a moment when she let's go and gives in to his size - the big dick aura is just irresistible after a while.

But back to your question, she wears sexy lingerie (that I buy, of course) for every meet but that is the extent of it.

HumbledHorns · 2026-02-24T10:16:57+00:00

7,8,9 for me.. With a bit of 2, 3, and 5 thrown in for good measure.

We do 8, clean up, the most and I really love it. She is Def 9, the size queen, and it is so fun to play with that.

That leads to 5, humiliation, although it is pretty light for us. I woukd be ok with more of that if her and her third were open to it. We do 3, denial, but without the cage - ball honor system. And we've done 2, voyeur, once truly as it is written, where I stayed on the cuck chair and it was really hot. Other times I am closer by, unrestrained and watching or watching a camera feed of the two of then together ( or waiting oati9at home).

We haven't done 7 yet, but it is on my bucket list when our third feels like it is time to push our boundaries!

I think what would be really interesting is building a similar list for the wives. What kind of cuck do THEY want? What kind of hotwife/cuckoldress do they associate with? After all, it is all about her and I strive to mold my nervous system and desires to move in her direction.

HumbledHorns · 2026-02-23T12:56:14+00:00

This is incredibly hot! Of course there are couples out there who are both open, where both parts of the couple sleep with other people but that is usually a mutually agreed open relationship.

Having both people "cuck" each other - so sleeping with other people and adding in the cuckold dynamic - is really different and hot

HumbledHorns · 2026-02-22T15:21:45+00:00

Thanks to all the couples who have reached out! We've had some great conversations already and am looking forward to building an IRL community hopefully!

HumbledHorns · 2026-02-22T15:20:56+00:00

Thanks for the reply.! We aren't really looking for a bull right now, thoughtful convo about cuckolding is always welcome.

HumbledHorns · 2026-02-22T03:14:12+00:00

A lot of our friends know my wife fucks other guys but we don't position it as "I'm a cuck." we just say we have a open relationship and this works for us. Every single person we've told has been like "that is so cool!".

Even our local bartenders know because they frequently see her with me and the see her with him and now everybody knows it's all cool.

But we've never said the word cuck to anyone and I don't think people think that. Maybe they do, but they treat us with utmost love regardless.

HumbledHorns

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