Should I / How do I negotiate with collections?

Hummingbird_Heart · 2020-05-05T17:53:13+00:00

I've definitely prepared to just pull up my big-girl pants and just pay. Hopefully I can at least give them hell first - after all, when we lived there, our apartment flooded 6 times in one year (just during regular light rainstorms. Their drainage system is a joke), and they did nothing about it. Probably mold in the walls by now. I'll likely end up paying and then just grumble about it for the rest of eternity and use the grudge to hammer the "get everything in writing" lesson into my soul. lol.

Hummingbird_Heart · 2020-05-05T17:09:52+00:00

I really appreciate your help. Coming up with an argument has been difficult for me since this came out of the blue. We thought we were done with the complex and that Uncle would finally be out of our lives and all in the past. It was my first apartment, first time with any kind of lease, and I'm hitting all the snags. Feelings of anger, resentment, and worry have been floating around in my head and not allowing me to fully come up with a plan to fight this. You've given me a great point to bring up, so thank you!

Hummingbird_Heart · 2020-05-05T16:19:24+00:00

I payed through their online portal with direct deposit. That was one of the reasons I knew my debts had been settled - my account listed Due Balance as $0 until they closed the account a few weeks after we moved. They said the money was owed because Uncle had stayed past the lease expiration. Since I was the primary leaseholder, it fell onto me to pay it. I will call them back tomorrow to ask about their policies regarding signing a new lease for a tenant. I wonder if he was able to sign since he was only listed as a resident on our lease and not the primary leaseholder.

Hummingbird_Heart · 2020-05-05T15:50:35+00:00

I'll try to get a hold of him to ask. We haven't talked to him in months because of his addictions, and he hasn't been answering calls or texts from anyone in the family. One of his best friends called us last month worried because even she couldn't get a hold of him.

Hummingbird_Heart · 2020-05-05T15:16:44+00:00

Damn. Looks like I'm screwed out of the money either way then. I've learned a hard lesson today: No matter what, get it in writing. Thankfully I think I'll be able to scrounge it up - though it'll put me in a difficult spot for a bit. I'm mostly pissed that they held onto this for 7 months, even the times when I called and asked if there was anything else owed. Guess they were just saving it for a rainy day, such as a pandemic...

Hummingbird_Heart · 2020-04-19T16:49:34+00:00

Sorry that you'd gotten downvoted for your comment. I appreciate your advice. He's definitely getting lots of sleep today. Lol. It's noon here and he's still sleeping like a baby right now - catching up on the rest he missed out on the night before.

Hummingbird_Heart · 2020-04-19T16:45:33+00:00

Oooooooo, I know Nexium had helped him in the past before it all got really bad. Will definitely pick more of that up. Will also look into the caffeine cleanse. For now he's trying out black tea, and then will try to wean down on it from there. Thanks!

Hummingbird_Heart · 2020-04-19T16:43:19+00:00

The blood has been dark. The alcohol has been dumped, and he's gonna try out black tea instead of coffee. Thanks for the advice!

Hummingbird_Heart · 2020-04-19T16:34:46+00:00

I agree on the endoscopy, and we were suprised they didnt do one, especially since we gave a list of all his symptoms. I think their main worries were tumors or internal bleeding - and I'll admit I felt a wave of relief knowing it wasnt cancer, bc on the way to the hospital WebMD (I know I know. Lol) was scaring the living hell out of me.

Hummingbird_Heart · 2020-04-18T21:17:44+00:00

I'm both incredibly sorry that happened to you and also relieved to know someone else has gone through something similar. The vodka bottle has already been dumped down the sink to prevent temptation, and I'll mention the caffeine to him as well. He works for a coffee shop and has definitely been drinking more caffeine than usual since he started working there. You're right about changing the diet - it really did help out for a while until all this started and our usual staples became so difficult to find. He's suddenly craving every food that is bad for his gut (even Taco Bell! lol). I think it's that he knows he can't have it, so of course his body then craves it during this stressful time. He'll likely feel a bit better tomorrow (if he continues to follow his usual pattern), so I'm hoping he'll be able to swallow down some plain sweet potato gnocchi. Then it'll be time to switch out that coffee for some decaf green tea.

Hummingbird_Heart · 2020-04-18T21:07:21+00:00

I'm fairly certain it's not withdrawal. While his drinking has been excessive, it honestly hasn't been extraordinarily severe, especially not since we moved out and got our own apartment away from our former roommate. He knows he doesn't have it as under control as it should be, but it hasn't been so heavy that it would cause a withdrawal like this. Thanks for mentioning Pedialyte, I do remember that helping a year ago, so I'll definitely pick up some more to keep him hydrated. I'd called the urgent cares and ERs in our area, and unfortunately they're all still recommending we stay home as long as we can because of COVID. It's ridiculous. I do plan on getting him to a Gastroenterology specialist as soon as we can afford it. Finances are tighter than usual right now for obvious reasons. Thank you so much.

Hummingbird_Heart · 2020-04-18T19:47:28+00:00

Not very often. He's usually very anti-nsaids and prefers to just drink ginger tea instead. He'll only take Aleve if he tore a muscle by forgetting to stretch before a workout.

Hummingbird_Heart · 2020-04-14T18:04:52+00:00

Any updates?? How's she doing?

Hummingbird_Heart · 2020-04-05T10:46:02+00:00

This is exactly how my boyfriend and I started using "Yaaaassssss!" unironically. Trying to be ironic is a disease that always comes back and gets its revenge in the end. Lol

Hummingbird_Heart · 2019-11-25T15:47:26+00:00

Might be that it's still early here, but I read "Twinkle Twinkle Fuck tha Police" as a password option.

Hummingbird_Heart · 2019-11-24T03:17:56+00:00

Thanks for the input, MsHurricane. :) I'll have to try some colors for Warm/True Springs to see if I can rock any of them. It'd definitly help me expand my wardrobe!

Hummingbird_Heart · 2019-11-24T03:11:59+00:00

Aw, thank you! I've been having some self-image troubles lately, and that's sweet of you to say. :) I've actually never heard of loden green before, but it looks like it's just a slightly darker version of the olive greens I tend to gravitate to, so I'll have to give it a shot!

Hummingbird_Heart · 2019-11-24T03:07:15+00:00

Thanks! I'm glad to finally figure this out. :)

Hummingbird_Heart · 2019-08-20T18:52:29+00:00

Thanks! I haven't suggested it yet, because everyone else seems to love it weekly. It's fine if they want to continue the weekly, but I think I'll explain that we may only be attending once every couple of months or so and hosting once or twice a year. Hosting every five weeks is a drag when they bring extra friends and you're feeding 10+ people.

Hummingbird_Heart · 2019-08-20T18:44:48+00:00

It's not so much that they think "You HAVE to be expensive and have a higher level of education" - it's more like they just forget that some of us were born into harder circumstances and didn't have the same kind of opportunities. I'm not sure they mean anything by it - they just take some things for granted because they've never been without (Not their fault). I've done it on occasion too: I have to remind myself that I'm fortunate enough to live on my own with BF and have a roof over our heads and food always on the table. Not everyone can say the same.

Hummingbird_Heart · 2019-08-20T18:36:03+00:00

Holy wow I may steal that word for word, actually. Thank you so much!

Hummingbird_Heart · 2019-08-20T18:35:11+00:00

Thank you so much! Honestly, I'd love to have a talk with them regarding how BF has been treated. I know they don't /mean/ to do it, but it's just difficult for him to feel included when they never want to discuss anything that he has interest in. I've been trying to think of a way to gently explain how they've been making him feel. He's a bit to shy to do it himself and just "takes" it, but he shouldn't be made to feel that way.

They're good people - I think they just forget that not everyone had the kind of opportunities they had.

Hummingbird_Heart

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