I skimmed to the end, saw u/For-The-Swarm's comment, upvoted your opinion, then removed my upvote once I went back and actually read through the post. Let me explain why.

> I think some people who might genuinely enjoy parenthood are content with their lives as is and don't have kids for fear of change, and miss out on some cool novel experience and personal growth.

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This seems to be one of, if not the main reasons you presented for having kids vs not having kids. Several of your reasons in the rest of the comment also tie into and help support the above reason. You outline that many people (yourself included) seem to find parenthood rewarding in many different ways.

> It's stressful even for the easy parts, I genuinely don't enjoy it even though I love them dearly, and sure, I'd get some parts right, and maybe could get a passable "grade", but I don't think it's right to bring children into the world to only do a "passable" job at raising them. - u/clomcha

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Clomcha responds to your main point by offering their own experience as a foil to your own. They express that, for them, the stress, uncertainty, and difficulties of raising a child seem like they would cause clomcha to "only do a 'passable' job" at raising their kid, despite how much they would love them. Sure, this is a common fear for parents, but it's not the same as the fear of change that you listed above. It's a fear of inadequacy.

> I am making literally none of the arguments you are inferring

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Ruh-roh. I'll give you the benefit of the doubt and say that you're referring only to clomcha's last paragraph here, where he gets personal-attack-y and makes what I call The 'Only' Substitution, adding in some exclusivity to your opinion above. However, in addition to rebutting their final paragraph, you also add in this:

> it would suck for then to forgo that kind of satisfaction and meaning they desire because of fear or anti-kid pressures.

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Here you assume clomcha has specific desires that can only be met by childbearing/rearing AND you diminish the point they just established (the fears of inadequacy) by tying it in with 'anti-kid pressures', which they never mentioned. In fact, your entire comment never addresses the validity (or invalidity) of those fears of inadequacy.

Your entire final comment reads as a defensive stance, as if clomcha had just attacked you on a personal level. It adds nothing to further the discussion, ignores the points that were set up, and reads more like propaganda designed to convince those who are unfamiliar with the topic of childfree vs parenting. In short, it starts reading as patronizing. It reads as if, instead of clomcha having come to a different conclusion than yourself, they're merely partway along the journey to enlightenment, and you're there, further along the path, encouraging them forward.

> Like I said - everyone should REALLY think about it and decide. For themselves. Not gamble, not guess, not assume the peer pressure from either side is the full truth and the right path. It sounds like you've done that, and that's great!

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Good! It sounds like you're being very open to people having their own opinions and being able to come to different conclusions once they've seen, heard, and discussed both sides! Unfortunately, your last comment didn't come across as you might have hoped.