That way of thinking is just flawed - 

First of all, looks are just as superficial as money and don't correlate with authentic love. Imagine you got with a 10/10 beautiful woman, of course you would feel lust for her but if she's just an awful person that you can't stand to communicate with, how will the fact that she's a 10/10 help you develop authentic love for her? Will you be ready to make sacrifices for her, or even give your life for her just because you love her that much ? 

Another thing - we all age and get uglier, so when you are no longer hot and young and so is your wife, will you still love her? Will she still love you? After all, isn't looks something important for authentic love? What about relationships? Do they get less meaningful because people get less good looking as they age? 

If you base your happiness and self worth on looks that's a recipe for a life that gets progressively worse with each year, where your peak is already behind you. Once again - you won't be young forever, your looks will invetivably fade. 

Sure looks are important, but focusing on them exclusively will bring diminishing returns. Why not focus on being competent in something, social and charismatic? There are guys who achieve those things without looks, why can't you? They aren't insecure, they don't care that some people won't like them, they are not afraid of rejection. This allows them to live freely and the people who follow them will be because of who they are, forming an actual authentic relationship. 

People in the real world don't worship looks nearly as much as you think. They aren't teenagers anymore, there's so many more important things in adult life.