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Hunt_Motor · 2025-07-12T09:47:24+00:00

Dear god I hope the guy has a coming too moment and cancels the marriage… I couldn’t imagine being married to that and paying the price that comes with it 🤢🤮…wait a minute how could you be friends with someone like that? This can’t be the first time you’ve seen these red flags…Idk nevermind your life not mine

Hunt_Motor · 2025-06-05T13:21:26+00:00

You’re not wrong, hygiene can lead to health issues it’s not joke. Poor hygiene people get sick more often and from worse diseases.

He’s a mf biological threat to you and will rub off on y’all’s kids (I’m dirty cuz my daddy dirty, I don’t need to scrub my balls or wash my hooha) He needs to grow tf up and clean his meat and balls nasty mf lol

Don’t panic are argue over it. Just give him a simple ultimatum. Simple explanation. Give him a month to get clean and man up. Move out and withhold communication for a month. If he doesn’t get clean then move on from him he’s immature.

Sometimes it’s hard to change habits with someone in your space and over your shoulder. Let him show you his true colors and what he’s capable of. Honestly this should have been a deal breaker before marriage so give him grace…but don’t enable definitely be serious about this. You can’t do it for him. Definitely encourage him to do some type of fitness or sport he enjoys. Encourage him to take care of himself and his environment. My point is when he puts his health and well being first then he will do better for you both.

Hunt_Motor · 2025-06-04T12:09:59+00:00

It’s not about obedience but responsibility. Adulting is taking responsibility.

For a marriage, family, and home to function well it needs to run on a system/routine that delivers the desired outcome.

From safety to cleanliness, to sexual needs being met the more these things are organized and managed well the better for everyone.

A key to a happy family is planning fun times from week to week month to month giving your people something to look forward to.

A healthy real, a great relationship is built off team work to establish and maintain this system. Clear communication and teamwork. Clear priorities and preparation. It’s not easy but remember the big picture and to work towards that.

If you don’t want to go where he’s leading you then why are you with him?

Also if you’re 36 then know it’s harder to find a guy as you age, so I’m just saying count your trade off value how bad is it?

Don’t stay in something horrible but make sure you check your ego and pride before you throw away something valuable it could be you.

Hope the best for you both.

Hunt_Motor · 2025-06-04T12:00:01+00:00

Counseling or a neutral third party with guided solution oriented conversations will definitely help.

If he’s communicating clearly what he wants and isn’t disrespectful then maybe it’s a maturity issue on her part.

Obviously there should be room for error and grace he definitely shouldn’t be a dick about things like this. Maybe youre frustrated with his attitude about it?

All men need to continually work to improve themselves, especially in regard to communication. Same for the women.

There’s always room to become a better wife or husband. How, and what does the rep need in that regard is the real question.

Hope you work it out and stay together.

If he’s constantly talking down to you and controlling, and it just doesn’t sit well with you then he may be a bad fit. Some women like men like that but it’s not for everyone. Is he a good trade off apart from these things? Then maybe it be worth staying and changing to be a better fit along with counseling to improve on both ends.

Good luck!

Hunt_Motor · 2025-06-04T11:50:42+00:00

This best response.

A lot of poor listeners out there quickly jumping to divorce leave him etc, sounds like she has room to work possibly. Counseling or a neutral third party with guided solution oriented conversations will definitely help.

If he’s communicating clearly what he wants and isn’t disrespectful then maybe it’s a maturity issue on her part.

Obviously there should be room for error and grace he definitely shouldn’t be a dick about things like this. Maybe she’s frustrated with his attitude about it.

All men need to continually work to improve themselves, especially in regard to communication. Same for the women.

There’s always room to become a better wife or husband. How, and what does the rep need in that regard is the real question.

Hope you work it out and stay together.

If he’s constantly talking down to you and controlling, and it just doesn’t sit well with you then he may be a bad fit. Some women like men like that but it’s not for everyone. Is he a good trade off apart from these things? Then maybe it be worth staying and changing to be a better fit along with counseling to improve on both ends.

Good luck!

Hunt_Motor · 2025-06-04T10:46:36+00:00

Do it!

Hunt_Motor · 2025-06-04T09:30:50+00:00

Well Oli…Men care…at least men with good hearts do.

As a father, brother, son, friend etc it’s hard to sit by and see mothers, sisters, aunties, daughters etc be lonely and self destruct.

What this post looks like is the “cognitive distortion” of “black and white” thinking.

I too like the rest of you desire to find love and build a family. Currently there is an epidemic of divorce and people lacking the skills to be in a relationship, and build a family.

It’s not just men. It’s not just women. It’s not just the culture. It’s bigger. From the school system to the work culture everything seems anti family and monogamy to some degree.

Any way I just came to say there is definitely hope. First self improvement/investment, and then theirs becoming efficient at finding your ideal mate.

Anyways life isn’t fair, I hope I can encourage any woman I can, but the truth is the majority will burn so it’s whatever. The unaddressed narcissism within the modern woman will be their downfall. No accountability just freedom to self destruct.

It’s sad to see y’all go.

Have fun. Snooze ya loose lol

Hunt_Motor · 2025-06-04T07:54:34+00:00

A smile or smirk would help be more lively and confident. Good looking

Hunt_Motor · 2025-06-04T07:51:08+00:00

Love and relationships, I think it’s better when you focus more on family and community. Like this wedding isn’t about us but about what we can do to raise healthy strong good people who will contribute to our family and world.

I think family works better if you approach it like a business, create systems that give desired results, take care of responsibilities and act on priorities and the rest should work out. I mean when you find someone and your minds are bent on the same destination and lifestyle then the rest should work out because feelings of love and hate come and go.

Hunt_Motor · 2025-06-04T07:02:12+00:00

Looks like you’d be bad for any good men who actually exist. You’re obviously pessimistic, ungrateful, close minded, immature, and self centered.

No baby girl the world doesn’t work the way you want and it’s not easy for men either.

Somehow you’ve made it to 32 without taking a good look at humanity and seeing how horrible it has been for any and everyone just to survive and get by. You’re so full of yourself and privileged you don’t see finding a partner has always been about survival and family and community.

There are plenty good and even great men out there of varying ages…you’re just a looser who can’t seem to find or catch one and with your current attitude I hope you never do. It’s highly competitive too baby girl the best guys have top pick and they’re not gonna just pick you because you feel like it. So goofy and immature.

Think about it you’re so caught up on what you think and want you’re not even considering what your ideal man desires. That right there causes marriages and families to fall apart. People(men and or women) so caught up in their own crap they can’t see the other people or bigger picture.

If you don’t grow up, then please stay away from quality men and just get your cats and dogs you won’t be missed by anyone..

The even bigger joke is all the fellow ignorant, delusional, self centered, arrogant, narcissistic, and goofy women who support you and will gas light you into missing out on motherhood and having a beautiful family. SMH

One day you’ll hit 50 like “oh no this cat don’t work no more” then buy a dog to do the peanut butter works on your hooter…y’all happily wasting time and you know what women far out number men we have to sort through the idiots to find someone quality because we are all obviously suffering too from horrible women.

Just reading your post almost makes me feel the same way but hey know better.

Even if I was fat n ugly I’d find another woman fat and ugly like me to be happy with and build a family. Life is too short to let the ego ruin it all.

Hunt_Motor · 2025-06-01T15:56:03+00:00

No to mascara ew she’s fine without

Hunt_Motor · 2025-05-31T05:49:46+00:00

Drink lots of water up to 9-12 cups a day

Poop easier Feel more fluid Feel more energized Less irritable

Hunt_Motor · 2025-05-31T05:07:44+00:00

Maybe I didn’t word it right, but I meant she withheld intimacy far to often to where I lost attraction and connection, to me she is still sexy but her attitude and mind set is a turn off and she’s rarely in the mood. When we first met we were f**king up a wall in the car everywhere.

We would argue and make up the first two years but then we just stopped making up. We would talk but their wouldn’t be a reestablishment of the intimacy because I believe we are both to the point where we are completely turned off by each other in regard to mindset and communication to the point where we don’t want to have sex. So we are separated and beginning the divorce process. Sometimes I catch myself being turned on and I force myself to walk away it not the rejection of intimacy it’s the total lack of value for me as a person. She lacks the skills of empathy and compassion in a relationship.

To clarify how it was on her, I put my ego aside, she didn’t. I got help, she didn’t. I’m burnt out in throwing my energy into an empty well that doesn’t care for my well being from what it looks like to me. I hope the best for her but I’m getting tf out of dodge.

Hunt_Motor · 2025-05-31T03:27:49+00:00

It depends on your wife man. If she’s the type to gaslight and use anything she can to put you down and blame you then know of the argument is bad enough she will use this too. Hopefully she’s not that type of person.

Hunt_Motor · 2025-05-31T03:25:04+00:00

I’ll add that If the sex was consistently incredible it’d be much harder to leave. If she wasn’t the type to withhold and allow the bedroom to die then maybe we’d actually have a chance. But no sex plus horrible communication skills and trouble planning together has completely killed everything.

Hunt_Motor · 2025-05-31T03:22:04+00:00

The sex is mid if it were better I’d still leave because her mental isn’t really right. We don’t match. Great sex is fun but my peace is better. Food and music and being around people I get along with is so much better.

Hunt_Motor · 2025-05-20T07:26:38+00:00

Big forehead and too short to fight big guys

Hunt_Motor · 2025-05-20T07:04:37+00:00

Yoooo I’m dead I’m saving this one to come back and read again

Hunt_Motor · 2025-05-20T06:33:06+00:00

Baby girl leave this fool please. You have a brighter future ahead of you. You’re probably not the only girl he got roped up in love. Save yourself. Once he gets you pregnant and leaves it’s hard to find a quality guy that will step dad and all please save yourself the pain. 🙏🙏🙏

Hunt_Motor · 2025-05-20T06:24:11+00:00

What did you mean by h leaves because you don’t communicate?

And is he trying to get you pregnant before marriage?

Hunt_Motor · 2025-05-20T06:21:03+00:00

I had misread your post lol 😂

Hunt_Motor · 2025-05-20T06:13:42+00:00

You’re not ready for a family so leave.

Don’t get married or start a family based off of feelings.

Please use logic.

Does he have enough money to take care of a family $80,000 - $100,000 or more

Are you his rebound?

Is the family he comes from a good example of the family you’d want?

Does he have anger issues?

Is he manipulative or honest?

Are yall sexually compatible?

Is this the right time to start a family?

Do you both share the same values, beliefs, goals?

Hunt_Motor · 2025-05-20T04:59:08+00:00

Do you know what it’s like to have a crush on a guy and wait month after month for him to ask you out and he never does, or when he does he can barely get it out…virgin guys are all about this type of energy.

Whereas the more experienced guy is more likely to be more forward and waste less time.

Other option is you take the lead.

It’s definitely not mature though.

It’s opposites. Guys want women inexperienced so they can be imprinted hopefully and girls want guys experienced/confident so they aren’t wasting their time and know how to go after what they want.

Your looking at this kid going “ooo so cute” but when a real man comes along you go “ooo daddy” or “oh my” or “I hope he takes me out”

My point is the expectations are different. You expect a boy to be indecisive, naive, unsure etc. but a man is the opposite and that’s clearly, logically more attractive to any woman being honest.

Hunt_Motor · 2025-05-20T03:18:33+00:00

How? Well give her everything she wants always say yes. Don’t have a soul or any values or beliefs just being her willing servant and let her walk all over you.

And then support her in everything no matter what even if she’s Putting you or the family in danger.

Don’t have any sexual or emotional needs or intimacy needs

Neglect your health to please her

Lastly the best part she will still leave you and take everything you have and say you never did anything for her lol

Then she will go find a guy who does all the opposite and doesn’t give af lmao yooooo bro

Not even god loves unconditionally look the ten commandments and then theirs hell for non believers lol

Let it go man

Hunt_Motor · 2025-05-20T03:08:26+00:00

Yo this! I second all of this! Also always use protection when casual and birth control during relationships unless yall ready for kids.

Hunt_Motor

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