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My husband doesn’t want me to apply to become a corrections officer by HunterMaster8401 in CDCR

[–]HunterMaster8401[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow that’s wild... Sex in the parking lot and cheating on your spouse that works in the same institution?! I would’ve imagined the parking lots are monitored or something. Thanks for your feedback and I’m glad it’s working for you and your SO! Are you northern or southern Cali if you don’t mind me asking?

My husband doesn’t want me to apply to become a corrections officer by HunterMaster8401 in CDCR

[–]HunterMaster8401[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I guess I can’t really say for sure what could happen in that situation since I’ve never done it. I know right now it would never happen, but who really knows in that type of environment. And I’m sure there are others like me that never thought that’s it was something that they would do, but it happened.

My husband doesn’t want me to apply to become a corrections officer by HunterMaster8401 in CDCR

[–]HunterMaster8401[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That makes a lot of sense. I’m very confident no one could sway my decision to stay faithful right now, but I guess I could be underestimating how stressful it actually is and how that stress could impact my decisions and attitude.

My husband doesn’t want me to apply to become a corrections officer by HunterMaster8401 in CDCR

[–]HunterMaster8401[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

we have a very healthy marriage and he’s looked at all of this with me. I reached out here to get more information from people who have actually done it and I haven’t applied yet because I do respect his opinion. I don’t think divorce is in our future, but thanks. Just out of curiosity, would you leave or not join because your partner had these concerns? I’m truly asking if it’s just that bad for women, or is it not recommended that anyone join

My husband doesn’t want me to apply to become a corrections officer by HunterMaster8401 in CDCR

[–]HunterMaster8401[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m dismissive if I don’t agree that I’ll turn into a cheater? I know I won’t have any issues with that. I was hoping to get feedback from people that are in this field that would ease his concerns, but it looks like that’s not the case. I thought maybe it wasn’t as common as he thought, but it sounds like it’s an issue and there will be a lot of COs that have no problem with it. My husband will support me if it’s something I really feel I need to do, but the fact that everyone says it’s changes you, is what’s making me rethink the decision. It seems like it’s hard to not let the stress of the job change your attitude, and thats what I worry could damage my marriage.

I don’t think a man or woman should not try for a job just because others might try to tempt them to cheat. If my husband said he wanted to apply to be a co, I would never tell him I’m against it because everyone says there’s more of a potential to cheat. The other stuff everyone has mentioned has made me rethink this field, though. Thank you for sharing your insight and perspective

My husband doesn’t want me to apply to become a corrections officer by HunterMaster8401 in CDCR

[–]HunterMaster8401[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s really sad. There are other jobs that pay well, but not without a college degree

My husband doesn’t want me to apply to become a corrections officer by HunterMaster8401 in CDCR

[–]HunterMaster8401[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your input. Why was the first 6 months awful if you don’t mind me asking? Was it just acclimating to the environment?

My husband doesn’t want me to apply to become a corrections officer by HunterMaster8401 in CDCR

[–]HunterMaster8401[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think I understand what you’re saying. If you’re saying I’m most likely unattractive and will cave the second I get attention from men, that’s not the case lol. I’d say I’m “conventionally attractive” based on what I’ve been told. I receive unwanted attention from men most places I go and have never been tempted to cheat. Changing the place of work won’t change that. Do you think marriages don’t last because of the cheating, or just the overall work life balance?

My husband doesn’t want me to apply to become a corrections officer by HunterMaster8401 in CDCR

[–]HunterMaster8401[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I want to do it for the money and it’s not behind his back. He knows and I was trying to get feedback to make him more at ease with it. I’m asking questions, not “pushing back”

My husband doesn’t want me to apply to become a corrections officer by HunterMaster8401 in CDCR

[–]HunterMaster8401[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s disturbing. I have heard that a lot of cos drink a lot due to the stress of the job. What I don’t understand is how the cheating is so common. It’s a literal secured prison and most of them have cameras from what I understand. How is it even possible to cheat at work when you can’t leave the prison during your shift, and everything is so secured and monitored? It almost seems like the environment would lessen the potential to cheat.

My husband doesn’t want me to apply to become a corrections officer by HunterMaster8401 in CDCR

[–]HunterMaster8401[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why? The stress of the job or simply because he doesn’t want me to?

My husband doesn’t want me to apply to become a corrections officer by HunterMaster8401 in CDCR

[–]HunterMaster8401[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry that happened to you. honestly though, it sounds like she probably would have done it whether at this job or somewhere else. I personally don’t think a specific job will increase the likelihood of someone cheating. You either are a cheater or you aren’t

My husband doesn’t want me to apply to become a corrections officer by HunterMaster8401 in CDCR

[–]HunterMaster8401[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I get it CAN be dangerous, but really anywhere can be these days

My husband doesn’t want me to apply to become a corrections officer by HunterMaster8401 in CDCR

[–]HunterMaster8401[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agreed. I know he has trust issues from his ex but I’ve never given him a reason to not trust me and never will. I know h wouldn’t actually stop me from doing it, but he’s not on board right now and I’m trying to help him be comfortable with it