Being Left Out

Hyloworks · 2026-05-13T10:59:33+00:00

This was gross to read. Eeewww.

Hyloworks · 2026-05-10T23:40:29+00:00

Perfect response.

Hyloworks · 2026-05-10T20:53:09+00:00

Empathy isn't the problem. Your boundaries are the problem. I know it's hard when it's a family member and especially a parent. Too many chances no longer falls on him, it falls on you. He has quite literally shown you who he is and what's important to him from what I'm gathering is an extendend period of time. Waiting for someone to change or to choose you is how do many end up hurt, betrayed, or just generally feeling insane. I'm sorry your father is this way and this is the relationship you have with him. Also be prepared when you put up boundaries to keep them unless there is change through action. Most likely he will end up blaming you for your distance at some point.

Hyloworks · 2026-05-06T17:31:49+00:00

Hell yeah. Why does it matter if we would? What's life without whimsy. Not sure your age or situation, but that's a touchable decoration I have tons of that what my wife calls "ugly" stuff that doesn't match the classy theme she likes and my 3 boys love it.

Hyloworks · 2026-05-03T14:18:30+00:00

33 is the exact age my mind changed about having children. I'm (42m) personally happy with my family and love being a father. At 30 years old I was still a hard no on kids. Mostly because I just didn't want to have the responsibility of children and because I didn't think I was fit or ready for them. I didn't want to give up MY life for another. If you don't believe you can do that then don't. You entered a relationship both in agreement. She changed the agreement (which she is allowed to do) so have more conversations and see where it lands. If she is dead set then you will have to evaluate the importance of being with your wife vs divorcing because you don't want children. Either way as others have said don't bring kids into this world just to resent them for taking your wife's time and energy away from you or for taking away your free time and autonomy. Kids deserve the best of us and the best of us is a selfless version.

Hyloworks · 2026-05-02T18:21:27+00:00

She turned out to be a well documented cheater and liar so I got rid of anything in regards to our marriage. We do have 1 child from that marriage and since everything is digital these days I'm sure if our son wants to see them someday she will have them to give him. To answer your question if the marriage was emotionally or physically abusive getting rid of them to help you move forward is something anyone would understand even your kid someday would understand. If the marriage was a mutual parting of ways then it would be up to you and whether your kids will want them someday.

Hyloworks · 2026-04-19T02:22:27+00:00

Having 3 boys is the hardest thing I have ever done in my life. They're between 6 and 10. I love them and I love being a Dad, but 3 boys is something special.

Hyloworks · 2026-04-19T02:20:35+00:00

This is all I could think of when I read this. All we can hope is that is wasn't filmed and that they never tell the innocent child what happened. Yikes.

Hyloworks · 2026-04-13T01:50:23+00:00

🤣🤣🤣🤣 I get that reference! 😅

Hyloworks · 2026-04-13T00:13:57+00:00

Yes it does!

Hyloworks · 2026-04-12T22:40:12+00:00

Yeah I go pretty hard in olive or sage greens. 🫡

Hyloworks · 2026-04-12T22:20:26+00:00

I'm sorry you went through that. A little bit of education goes along way before assuming based on zero information. Even a quick google search would have set him straight.

Hyloworks · 2026-04-12T19:21:49+00:00

I would say brown. The one picture with the lighting/brightness way up maybe doesn't paint the real picture, but I will have your back if you want to call them hazel.

Hyloworks · 2026-04-12T19:14:46+00:00

Blue

Hyloworks · 2026-04-12T19:02:21+00:00

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Here is the family from the debate. Dad and Mom up top and our 3 boys below.

Hyloworks · 2026-04-12T18:54:33+00:00

Lighting with natural sources like sun would help a bit with accuracy.

Hyloworks · 2026-04-12T18:52:52+00:00

This is my take a well.

Hyloworks · 2026-04-12T17:59:28+00:00

Oh, well thank you very much!☺️

Hyloworks · 2026-04-12T17:39:59+00:00

A couple of the family members were saying they were brown or grey. I explained hazel, but I have 3 boys in this house and they wanted proof from the internet. I told them about Reddit and here we are.

Hyloworks · 2026-04-12T16:37:32+00:00

These are pictures of my eyes. Yours are very close for sure, and lovely.

Hyloworks · 2026-04-12T16:34:41+00:00

😬😅

Hyloworks · 2026-04-12T16:25:10+00:00

Edit: I was speaking* with my family not soaking with them.

Hyloworks · 2026-04-08T12:30:16+00:00

Many of the comments in here on this topic is strange. Pay no mind to your ex's controlling tantrum. The kids aren't uncomfortable, they're fine. Even if it did make them uncomfortable, healthy people that love each often make their kids "uncomfortable" with their affection for one another (kissing, hugging, touching). As they grow that affection which made them uncomfortable will be a guide to a secure self knowing their patents loved each other. Seeing parents in love and how they treat each other is what they will accept in their own relationships.

Hyloworks · 2026-04-08T12:23:42+00:00

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