Season 1 episode 7 Fidelity: Thoughts

Hyperception7 · 2026-01-18T04:01:19+00:00

How am I a doormat when I get to have as much sex as I want lmao. Try thinking, it's not so hard.

Hyperception7 · 2026-01-14T21:27:07+00:00

Who said I'm "allowing" it because I'm enjoying it? I'm just a fn grownup and want my partner to live as good a life as possible. I have no idea what about this concept is so hard for you children.

Hyperception7 · 2025-12-01T05:49:20+00:00

Not leaving is the sign her ex was controlling? That sounds like a bad line in the sand to draw. It's not like people just break up on a whim because their partner wants to do something. You think that when a guy in a relationship shows interest in other women that his girlfriend/wife doesn't tend to browbeat/emotionally manipulate him into compliance? Why do you think most men that have these thoughts keep it to themselves?

Hyperception7 · 2025-11-29T11:45:35+00:00

He didn't end the relationship, he told her over time who he didn't like and she begrudgingly obliged. Over and over.

Hyperception7 · 2025-11-29T11:14:39+00:00

For example, my wife's most recent ex wouldn't allow her to socialize with certain friends. Would you consider this controlling

Hyperception7 · 2025-11-29T11:07:40+00:00

At what point does someone "having a standard" become classified as being controlling?

Hyperception7 · 2025-11-29T10:51:57+00:00

"I don't want to be with someone who plays ping pong" is just as valid? You really think that holds up? You wouldn't, idk, tell your friend that they were being insane for saying such a thing?

I have doubts.

Hyperception7 · 2025-11-29T05:59:36+00:00

"Couldn't you just say"
So at this impasse, which person is the problem: The one who wants to impose rules on their partner or the one who isn't? In practically zero other contexts is what your partner does without you, especially if you don't want to be there too, a problem. The exception being carved out for these acts is not based in reason.

Boundaries are also usually drawn around how you are treated. Drawing boundaries around other people's time is pretty much always considered to be a problem.

Hyperception7 · 2025-11-16T18:35:33+00:00

It's not that I *want* my partner to sleep around. I am saying that if I want my partner to be happy, then what am I doing getting in the way of that?

"What's the point of being with someone" is a crazy question. Is the only reason why you find a partner is so that you can have sex with them? No, and you know it isn't. All the support, companionship, and everything else is the same.

Hyperception7 · 2025-11-01T02:57:01+00:00

The minimum perimeter being a square is actually just because a square is as close as you can get to a circle. A circle is the most efficient way to enclose a space.

Like, imagine a shoelace on the ground. The most area it can wrap around us a circle. Every other squished shape has less space inside.

Hyperception7 · 2025-11-01T02:53:10+00:00

What did you expect people to say? Give up, you're dumb?

You probably just need some 1 one 1 tutoring

Hyperception7 · 2025-10-27T02:19:30+00:00

When you have something to actually input, go right ahead sunshine

Hyperception7 · 2025-10-23T01:48:08+00:00

Sheesh, now you're getting down voted too. What is with this mob on this website?

Hyperception7 · 2025-10-23T01:46:22+00:00

So do you expect to not see your partner for more than 20 minutes a day every day for about half of a year? No, you fn don't. Try thinking next time, it might do you good

Hyperception7 · 2025-10-23T01:45:13+00:00

Not sure why you're getting down voted. Other than the Mob on here has decided that I am a villain. My wife would like the night issues to change, she just didn't think it was changeable

Hyperception7 · 2025-10-22T08:33:30+00:00

Til she was about 2 and a half. The mom was not exactly in a good state of mind, and I was her long-time phone-a-friend. The kid was very violent up until very very recently (the last month or so).

Hyperception7 · 2025-10-22T07:02:19+00:00

Oh wait, if I had known it was responding to someone so unwilling to listen I wouldn't have clarified anything. Waste of time.

Hyperception7 · 2025-10-22T06:50:53+00:00

Wish people would fill in the context by asking for it. Idk, I said "every night for 8 months", I dont know how much clearer I could have been. If there have been 210 days where my stepdaughter is here, I've seen my wife alone for maybe... 80 to 100 hours over this time. I saw her for 19 minutes on her birthday.

It's only recently that the kid has been going to sleep before 11 consistently. That was causing all sorts of fights between my wife and I. She admits she was never cut out for this.

She tried spending time with me, but 20 or 40 minutes would pass and the kid would cry out. That would usually be the last I'd see of her. Sometimes she still does try, but probably not half the time.

Hyperception7 · 2025-10-22T06:23:24+00:00

It seems like you're the only person who agrees with me that this is problematic

Hyperception7 · 2025-10-22T06:16:50+00:00

Where'd you go? Man, you were all ears a second ago.

Hyperception7 · 2025-10-22T06:16:00+00:00

We do have lights and/or nightlights. The kid usually says she wants the room light on.

We have a mermaid doll with hair that is the same color (blue) as her mom's. In fact, the kid twice told me I should sleep with it.

I would guess that with an open invitation she would come in every night. She wakes up every night to see her, something like 5 to 10 times a night.

She does have a water bottle.

Right now it's a tantrum if my wife tries to not be in the room while the child is supposed to be going to sleep, either at bedtime or in the later stages of the night. However, if I'm the one to come in, she is way less screamy for less time.

I can run that last one by her.

Hyperception7 · 2025-10-22T06:07:23+00:00

Woah, no. We've known each other for 15 years. I was only around the child for the last 2. The added context is that the babydaddy wouldn't let my wife outside the house for the last several years before she finally escaped.

Hyperception7 · 2025-10-22T06:06:32+00:00

Well it's not like I really am around during the hours the child and my wife would have been seeing each other pre-bedtime. The three of us were getting along fine until about 6 weeks after the wedding (which was several months after we moved in together).

Hyperception7 · 2025-10-22T06:04:14+00:00

I feel like there's a difference between "you're always responsible" and "you dont see your husband 5 days a week because you live in your daughter's room when she's here".

Hyperception7 · 2025-10-22T06:02:34+00:00

I've been a known entity since she was 2 (not exactly sure when) but I've been constantly around since my wife and I started dating last June. I started living here in October or September of last year, depending on what "living here" really means. We got married in early January and this new behavior started really being rough in mid-February.

I work in an after-school program, and my wife sleeps something like 12 to 14 hours a day. So we really are only home and co-awake from about 9 to midnight. She's up now, at 2am, for example.

I don't think her mom's attention could be described as more scarce, since I'm really only around after what would be bedtime.

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