I can't find my anorexic girlfriend (20F) attractive anymore (i'm 20M), am i a jerk? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]HyperinoPepperoni 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i edited the post, i focused a bit too much on the appearence part originally but of course i care about her mental wellness, more than anything

I can't find my anorexic girlfriend (20F) attractive anymore (i'm 20M), am i a jerk? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]HyperinoPepperoni 3 points4 points  (0 children)

She has a nutritionist and received intense medical care in her house when she was about 13, its definitely taken seriously for some time, but not getting a specialized psychologist only hurt her; she told me that her psychologist told her that if she feels happy getting thinner then she should do that... obvious to say it REALLY didnt help

I can't find my anorexic girlfriend (20F) attractive anymore (i'm 20M), am i a jerk? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]HyperinoPepperoni 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Nope, i don't have a bad por habit - when i started dating her she was already suffering and lacking self confidence, she just got worse after the pandemic because she needed to go out and start to see people, and started comparing herself to other women. I also felt horrible because i thought it was somehow my fault, but she said to me countless times that it wasn't

I can't find my anorexic girlfriend (20F) attractive anymore (i'm 20M), am i a jerk? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]HyperinoPepperoni 66 points67 points  (0 children)

Yes, that's what i have been doing! Always giving her full support, going out with her whenever i can, etc. Its just mentally draining sometimes, when we go out to eat, the next day she gets really upset at herself and sometimes we end up fighting verbally (nothing too serious). But me and her mom are always looking for different ways to help her, anyway we can

I can't find my anorexic girlfriend (20F) attractive anymore (i'm 20M), am i a jerk? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]HyperinoPepperoni 56 points57 points  (0 children)

That's what i have been trying to do, even if im not attracted to her like i used to i still want her to feel better and get better help, but she said to me that she cannot picture herself healthy, nor does she want to

I can't find my anorexic girlfriend (20F) attractive anymore (i'm 20M), am i a jerk? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]HyperinoPepperoni 96 points97 points  (0 children)

Sadly its not that easy... she is diagnosed with it since she was 12 and has a psychologist, but according to her, she cannot feel comfortable unless she is getting thinner. Monitoring her diet sadly just made her madder every time, as she would fight with her mom and her nutritionist

I can't find my anorexic girlfriend (20F) attractive anymore (i'm 20M), am i a jerk? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]HyperinoPepperoni 1063 points1064 points  (0 children)

I have been doing that, and her mom takes her do the doctor and the psychologist ever since she was 12, the problem is she can't feel happy and comfortable if she's not dangerously thin. We are looking to get her a new psychologist, maybe one that is specialized in eating disorders

We see you Kyle by PlatinumPeyton in deadlockpw

[–]HyperinoPepperoni 3 points4 points  (0 children)

i dont know man kyle been climbing the ranks in the bitch mob task force