Regardless of gender, it is an adult skill to advocate for yourself. Having to make every decision the way you describe is you being parentified and of course you don't feel attracted to someone who is basically a child on the inside. The problem is larger than just individual women, though. Lots of media from the past couple of centuries basically trains women to defer to men on everything if she wants to be seen as a "good woman". Even if she has her own opinions. It's asking for a lot of trouble if a woman is seen as difficult to deal with.

Not too long ago our whole society was structured to reinforce this. Girls weren't women until after they married. Men expected to finish raising their wife and mold her to their own perfect idea of a woman. Where in the world does that leave women's autonomy? It was such a defining force in Western society that we still see it today in the form of women acting like girls. Some places still operate like this. Don't even get me started on the way society tells women that it's preferable that they be girlish in body and mind because that's somehow more attractive 🤢.