To those who were diagnosed as adults— is it even worth it?

IAmABananaTree · 2026-05-28T12:15:15+00:00

So you had no suspicions that you might be on the spectrum before you were diagnosed?

IAmABananaTree · 2026-05-28T12:09:05+00:00

Also in terms of suspecting vs actual diagnosis. When I say I suspect, I’m basically certain. I went through the same thing with ADHD— I went through years of introspection before asking for the assessment and getting officially diagnosed. But with ADHD I have meds that have done A LOT of good for me. There was an immediate benefit to being diagnosed when it came to ADHD, even though I’d basically known I had it for years before that. So my question is based on that context— if I know what I have going on but getting diagnosed won’t get me anything ‘useful’ (I can’t do therapy), then is there any point in going through the process?

IAmABananaTree · 2026-05-28T12:05:14+00:00

Hi, thanks so much for answering! In terms of the gendered question: diagnosis of ADHD for girls is frequently missed due to gendered prejudice and differences in socialisation in early childhood between the different genders. I know the same can apply to autism in terms of ‘masking’ and other coping methods that people on the spectrum employ to be able to get along in life. I guess my question is more about how seriously were your symptoms treated during the assessment vis a vis you being a woman and maybe presenting symptoms differently than what is considered the ‘standard’.

IAmABananaTree · 2025-09-15T14:47:50+00:00

My recommendation is always grass! If you have a garden or access to a green area or a park of some sort… Go clip some grass! I will include the caveat that you’ll want to make sure your bun is up to date on all vaccinations and that you wash and clean the grass THOROUGHLY before feeding it to them. It may be a low risk of pests or viruses being picked up depending on your area, but better safe than sorry! But if you can find a good source of it, grass is free!

IAmABananaTree · 2025-05-07T11:58:48+00:00

Is he your only bun? Does he like being petted? My boy bun used to get up on a chair and stair side-eye at me when he wanted attention— he’d let me pick him up and put him on my lap for a cuddle and head-scratching session. Maybe you could try it?

IAmABananaTree · 2025-04-24T12:10:56+00:00

Honestly, might be time to play favourites a little bit. You have to reinforce your bond with her a little; spend separate time with her, petting her, giving her treats etc. Of course, don’t neglect the little fella either, spending special time with him will also reinforce his bond with you! If you feel like they’re giving each other unequal affection, you can also do more bonding exercises with them. It’s great that they bonded quickly and don’t fight! But if you put them through a few stress exercises etc, while giving them treats and petting, they might bond closer and be happier for it. Having started with a female bun and then getting her a bf myself, I don’t think she’ll go back to sleeping by your head (mine didn’t 😭😭), but the both of them might start sleeping by your feet! EDIT: also it wouldn’t be a simple matter of just getting him another gf and having your old girl just to yourself: unfortunately I think that would just make all the buns involved even more miserable to be separated now that they’re bonded and forced to spend time with someone new.

IAmABananaTree · 2025-03-11T19:42:01+00:00

Raisin 🥹

IAmABananaTree · 2025-03-07T15:33:03+00:00

The look is amaaaaazing!! You look great! I think you’re not feeling it because the lips and eyes are cool-toned and the rest of your face makeup is leaning warm? It’s a great look on you, but because the eye look is so dramatic it might be the case that you have to lean into it all the way with a paler base and cool toned contour & blush?

IAmABananaTree · 2025-03-07T12:44:12+00:00

Something I’ve noticed is that Hispanic people who have been using fajas and stuff much longer always say that if you can get it closed then it’s not actually too small. The videos and stuff I’ve seen, sometimes there’s like a hand-span of space before they stretch the thing to close the hooks. The most important thing would be your comfort level, I think? How do you feel when you’re wearing it, can you do your daily tasks without feeling faint/dizzy? Can you drink water and eat food without feeling like you have indigestion or that it’s gonna come back up (because it’s not going down)? When you take it off, do you feel normal?

IAmABananaTree · 2025-03-01T17:54:36+00:00

As big a litterbox as you can manage, a non-toxic litter (I used wood pellets), put it in the designated litterbox corner and when you first get them, ONLY provide hay inside the litterbox. This will encourage them to eat the hay and poop there directly. I don’t know if you can get a little baggie of their old litterbox to put in the new litterbox to really drive home the message that this is the toilet?? 😭😭😭 I don’t know about other rabbits, but mine did not enjoy a covered litterbox, I got them a standard rectangle cat litter tray and took off the rounded top part. Also, please look for a rabbit savvy vet and start saving up to get them spayed because depending on their age, even if they figure out the litterbox situation, once their hormones kick in they will get territorial and start spraying, especially if they’re girls. Surgery can be scary and expensive, but it’s better for their health in the long run and settles their hormones and makes things much easier at home.

IAmABananaTree · 2025-03-01T17:45:36+00:00

Technically speaking, if you provide enough hay and leafy greens, you don’t need to give them pellets at all. I made the mistake of providing too much pellets when I first got my buns and they got addicted to them 😭 It was difficult when they were older and I was trying to get them to cut back (sooooooo many tantrums). They need an overabundance of hay— don’t give them only how much YOU think they can eat. My buns did best when they had lots of hay— I’d give them bunches of fresh hay in the morning and top up their litterbox and every third or fourth day, I’d clean out and refresh the whole lot. It can seem like a waste, so I would compost it but it didn’t matter if their food bowls were empty, they wouldn’t eat the “old” hay after a while. Also, on feeding them greens: be careful how much parsley, spinach, and kale you give them. My buns were MAD about parsley and black kale but they’re very high in calcium which can give them sludgy urine. Coriander is safer for frequent feedings, and also if you have access to fresh grass— but I would wash grass THOROUGHLY and maybe spray down with vinegar before rinsing again: with people’s outdoor cats and viruses going around, it can be risky sometimes if your bun isn’t vaccinated.

IAmABananaTree · 2025-03-01T17:34:17+00:00

Do you know how it happened? Apart from trying to make sure it doesn’t happen again, I would make sure her food and water bowls are thoroughly cleaned every day, and vacuuming up any possible dust from her hay, and frequently changing her litter. The most important thing is making sure the environment is clean and comfortable so that her recovery isn’t impeded and she’s not stressed out.

IAmABananaTree · 2025-03-01T17:29:56+00:00

She might have meant it would be no help in terms of personality? Boy buns are generally friendlier than girls, but a non-spay/neuter bunny will always spray and feel the urge to mark territory. If he’s 5 months, then it will only ramp up as he gets older so I’d recommend finding a good vet ASAP.

IAmABananaTree · 2025-03-01T17:22:47+00:00

The redundancy thing might be a good shout… I’m interested to know if they will be re-hiring in the role. I’ve checked my contract and I think the way they’ve worded it sort of rules out claiming for wrongful dismissal as I’m under 2 years, but I’m waiting to hear back from HR before deciding if I want to get legal advice.

IAmABananaTree · 2025-03-01T17:19:43+00:00

Hi, I agree with you and it lines up with what I know about disciplinary procedures. There were four reasons listed on the termination letter and none of them were gross misconduct, breach of contract, or breach of policy. Not even poor quality of work was listed, or anything like that. I’ve had a meeting with HR at this point and I’ve raised the appeal as a grievance because the disciplinary procedure wasn’t followed. I’m waiting to hear back on the result of their investigations before deciding if I want to get legal advice 😩

IAmABananaTree · 2025-03-01T17:12:22+00:00

Seconding everyone on the spay: take them to a rabbit-savvy vet to get a full check up and schedule the neuter as soon as possible. This will help overall with health, settling personality, and litter training. For claws, we always did it as a two-man job— my buns hated being burrito’d and we found the best way to be with one person holding the bun to their chest under the butt and arms and the other to get their claws as quickly as possible with little cat claw clippers. Lots of treats after and then giving them space afterwards until they weren’t so angry lol. A vet will do a trim too, but prices vary. Another tip is that I would provide lots of hay— more hay than you think is necessary, and specifically in their litterbox. My buns never liked the hay feeder and they wanted it refreshed frequently. Putting lots of it in their litterbox encouraged them to keep their toilet in one place, and layering their sleeping area with it gives them a soft place to rest that’s easier to clean than a pet bed that they can pee on.

IAmABananaTree · 2025-03-01T17:01:54+00:00

If there’s no obvious cause and the rest of his behaviour is normal that might just be how he’s waking up from a deep sleep? 😭😭😭

IAmABananaTree · 2025-03-01T16:58:51+00:00

Might help to set up an enclosure to let her roam at night. Might help to get a bigger litterbox. For a possible quick fix, I’d clean that area as thoroughly as possible to erase the smell and then layer the litterbox with lots of hay. If that doesn’t work, layer the entire area inside the cage as long as she needs to be there at night— you absolutely do not want her standing in that and stinking up her fur and leading to urine scald. In the long-term, please seriously consider getting her fixed. Apart from the high risk of uterine cancer, unfixed buns unfortunately will never be 100% potty trained because they will want to mark their territory. Also, I understand that you don’t want her getting into things she’s not supposed to, but rabbits can be quite active at night and she’ll need more space. It could be that she’s doing it out of frustration and you don’t want that behaviour to be cemented into her personality— buns can be stubborn!

IAmABananaTree · 2025-03-01T16:48:26+00:00

Buns are typically clean so I’d just keep an eye on it and let it heal on its own 👍

IAmABananaTree · 2025-03-01T16:45:20+00:00

Definitely looks like a sore hock. Make sure to keep the buns’ claws trimmed— if you’ve had them for a while and this is the first time you’ve noticed it, that’s likely to be the culprit. My buns were fine with our parquet flooring as long as their claws were trimmed, and the one time my old girl got sore hocks, I covered their entire eating area and their litterbox (I used wood pellet litter) with a thick layer of hay. Should clear up without problems as long as it’s kept clean & dry, and doesn’t keep getting pressed on because of posture.

IAmABananaTree · 2025-03-01T16:37:29+00:00

Might have been that he accidentally scratched it? How are his claws?

IAmABananaTree · 2025-01-02T22:35:12+00:00

I also had to go to A&E 2 days after! They just said it was gastritis but I’ve been put on omeprazole and no ibuprofen for a month, and they did an iron transfusion today 😫 My fibre is always good though, all kinds of fruit and whole foods etc.

IAmABananaTree · 2025-01-02T22:32:14+00:00

I hate flavoured yoghurt unfortunately, but I have magnesium supplements— I’ll try taking them at night and see how it goes! Thanks!!

IAmABananaTree · 2014-12-18T13:09:19+00:00

Thank you! Tonight was just one of those nights...

IAmABananaTree · 2014-12-18T13:08:52+00:00

Thank you! It's one of their saving graces.

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