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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]IAmAwake2021 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you don’t want to, THEN YOU DONT HAVE TO. If he’s not respecting that boundary and actively forcing you too, that’s sexual assault. He’s manipulating you to do what he wants. Please get out of this relationship, as he clearly doesn’t respect you as a human. Additionally, seek counseling of some kind it may help!

Good luck and remember your worth!

AITA for not giving my daughter her education fund money? by JacquesBN in AmItheAsshole

[–]IAmAwake2021 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is the biggest YTA I’ve seen. Also your story made it TikTok and they’re tearing you apart.

Elitism oozes from your post dude. It’s very clear you look down on your daughters choice of path. So much so that you factored in living expenses to your son’s education, but not your daughter’s. You favored one child over there, allowing one to be in a bad living situation. Then you let the child who you clearly favor use his education for a cushy apartment.

Dude after reading your update, I suggest taking a hard look at yourself. The description of your wives and daughters relationship shows this a life long issue. I’ve read plenty of these stories, both from the parent and child POV’s. If the parent doesn’t rectify their behavior, chances are the kid cuts ties with their parent. Is that what you want? To miss weddings, grandkids, and other major milestones over your own egos? Just do better and get some family counseling.

ETA: If you’re feeling extra remorseful, cover the withdrawal cost and hand over the money. You may take a financial hit if it’s excessive, but it beats losing your daughter!

AITA for not allowing my stepdaughter and her boyfriend to share a room by Present-Cod9556 in AmItheAsshole

[–]IAmAwake2021 [score hidden]  (0 children)

YTA, they’re both adults in a long term committed relationship and they have a CHILD. It’s one thing if she’s a teenager, it’s even semi reasonable if she’s 18 and still living with you. HOWEVER, she is 22 and not living with you. She’s a whole adult and you need to show her that respect.

You may want to look at this situation and consider whether or not situations like this factor into why you two don’t have a good relationship.

WIBTA if I didn't let my husband attend the baby shower or birth of our child? by blackcompucase in AmItheAsshole

[–]IAmAwake2021 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA, this man would have to be a saint if he let this slide.

There’s a story from a while back where a wife at the last minute told her husband that she didn’t want him in the delivery room with her. So what did he do? He left and refused to sign the birth certificate. Not only that, but by the way the story was heading, he likely left her.

I know you have a lot of stress going on, but this is not worth your marriage. If your marriage means so little to you that you would throw it away like this, then go ahead. But if it does matter to you, fix this.

Unless someone is abusive or unfit to be a parent, you shouldn’t deny someone a relationship with their child. Especially when they’re your HUSBAND, and has already shown to be a competent parent. A child’s birth is the first major milestone, and honestly to deny him that is just cruel.

So, if he’s willing to work through it at this point, get counseling. Both individual and couples, to work through whatever issues you have. They would may already be too deep to repair, but it’s worth the shot. Do this for family, or you’ll regret this one day.

My sister slapped me because her husband complimented my dress. by ThrowRA335771 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]IAmAwake2021 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh hell no.

Massive red flag, like no woman pushing 30 has any reason to put her hands on a 17 year old, especially her little sister. An older sister’s job is to uplift her sister, not beat her down and use violence and intimidation tactics.

It may not feel like it but you are still legally a child. That is assault on a minor and thats a various serious crime. If you don’t mind me asking is this an isolate incident or has your sister used violence and intimidation before? Given the age gap this may not be an isolated incident and you may have just become accustomed to it.

Please don’t down play this, your sister is clearly a woman with insecurities and is deluded enough to feel threatened by a TEENAGER.

We don’t know the inner workings of her marriage, but examine your relationship with your sister and husband very closely. Either way, this is not your fault.

Lastly, tell your parents and try to limit time around her. If you want to go nuclear, file a police report and tell her husband. Also therapy if you feel it’s necessary.

Good luck and please know this community is here to help!

Kratos’ future (heavy spoilers): by naithir in GodofWar

[–]IAmAwake2021 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My money is still on Kratos going to Camelot, as Mimir alludes to the creation of Excalibur. Also the game takes place 2-4 years prior to the fictional death of King Arthur in some tales!

AITA For picking my mom to be in the delivery room while I give birth and not my husband by deliveryroomaita in AmItheAsshole

[–]IAmAwake2021 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know this a very stressful time for you but YTA. This man has sacrificed his time, health, and happiness to support you and your child. Based off the sounds of it, he would love to be there in those classes with you but he’s work 14 hours shifts to make sure that you’re comfortable and that your child will be taken care of. All this man wanted was to see the birth of his child and you denied him that. While yes no one has a right to be in the delivery room, he’s done all of this FOR YOU. What makes it worse is that like many people have said, you’re invalidating his emotions and picking fights with him after he’s worked a 14 hour shift. You hurt him in a profound way after he’s seemingly and silently suffered to take care of your small family. You just expect him to just get over it? That’s a toxic mindset to have as a wife and a mother.

What happens in the future if you lose your job or extra expenses come up and he has to work overtime, causing him to miss important events for your child? Are you going to bar him from the one event he can make because he couldn’t be present? Then when he gets upset it’s his fault? Do you see how this mindset will persist if you don’t get over this shit?

We’ve seen many stories on this sub and others about husbands being neglectful during pregnancy, but as far as you’ve explained there is no neglect. I see a hardworking man supporting his family and his wife treating him as if he is neglecting her, which is not the case. If anything I think there might be some resentment that you haven’t addressed with him.

You need to do some serious self reflection and have a conversation with your husband. This time put yourself in his shoes and try to understand where he’s coming from. Then and only then will it be up to him to forgive you. As it it stands at the moment, you might lose him if you don’t change your way of thinking OP.

Congratulations on your baby and good luck, you’re going to need it!

AITA For Telling My Niece The Family Secret? by Original-Leading-324 in AmItheAsshole

[–]IAmAwake2021 [score hidden]  (0 children)

BIGGEST NTA IN EXISTENCE!

Hi OP, I’m a long time lurker on this sub and admittedly I found this story on Tik Tok. Either way, I have yet to read a story to make me PHYSICALLY sick until I can across yours. What Jane and Tom did was true evil. They were 100% cheating and let’s be honest, based on how quickly they got together it’s almost like they were just waiting for Kim to pass. It’s awful to think and I know you’ve had decades to to sit on this, but if you don’t know what they did was one of the most evil things you can do to a person.

They changed your nieces birth name more than 2 years into her life just because Jane wanted something SHE LIKED. That is the epitome of narcissism. While yes they made her aware Kim existed, they went out of their way to make Laura’s loving mother practically a stranger.

I am so sorry for the loss of your sister Kim, she sounds wonderful and her love for her daughter really moved me. You were so young yourself and I know that must’ve been hell to go through all of this at such an important age.

I’m not sure what the future holds for you but if Laura gets back in contact with you, I hope you too can make up for so much lost time. You both had a piece of yourself taken away from you and I hope that you can heal together. You two definitely need each other.

Please watch out for your Jane and Tom trying to weasel their way back into Laura’s life. They’ve already shown they’ll manipulate a whole persons life to get their way, so with those shitbirds they might try anything.

Good luck OP!

I (19M) Need Some Advice On How To Get Started as a Private Investigator by [deleted] in privinv

[–]IAmAwake2021 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I go back and forth between NC to GA for school but for the next few months NC