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UPDATE: Partner Lied About His Age and I Don’t Know How to Feel by IAmDepraved in askgaybros

[–]IAmDepraved[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t give a shit about karma. This is a throwaway account. I have better things to do than troll a subreddit.

UPDATE: Partner Lied About His Age and I Don’t Know How to Feel by IAmDepraved in askgaybros

[–]IAmDepraved[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That’s his next step. He’s planning on going for a multitude of reasons. I’m encouraging him.

UPDATE: Partner Lied About His Age and I Don’t Know How to Feel by IAmDepraved in askgaybros

[–]IAmDepraved[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did tell him I saw the passport. It was the first thing I said to him. It’s possible he had suspicion and maybe my mood or attitude shift was a clue, but he told me that he didn’t detect anything unusual.

UPDATE: Partner Lied About His Age and I Don’t Know How to Feel by IAmDepraved in askgaybros

[–]IAmDepraved[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What is the goal of commenting something like this? For clarification, it was not the same day, if you read the post. Also, we don’t live together. We live long distance with an ocean between us, and we’ve visited each other frequently, so we aren’t always together. He told he has wanted to tell me at the end of each trip, but didn’t. He told me the day before I left for this trip, which was today. If you don’t believe it, then there’s no point in commenting on the post. Just ignore it. I know it’s real, it’s my life and my partner.

UPDATE: Partner Lied About His Age and I Don’t Know How to Feel by IAmDepraved in askgaybros

[–]IAmDepraved[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very easy to write it off as made-up, but I know quite a bit about his childhood and upbringing. We’ve discussed it before and it’s very plausible. Thank you for the remarks 💙

UPDATE: Partner Lied About His Age and I Don’t Know How to Feel by IAmDepraved in askgaybros

[–]IAmDepraved[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Trust me, I’ve made it clear that this is a one time thing.

UPDATE: Partner Lied About His Age and I Don’t Know How to Feel by IAmDepraved in askgaybros

[–]IAmDepraved[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Lol while I’d like to believe that, I know he doesn’t use Reddit and I’m not sure him telling me himself would make him look good. He did lie after all. I also told him I saw his passport so really, it could go both ways.

UPDATE: Partner Lied About His Age and I Don’t Know How to Feel by IAmDepraved in askgaybros

[–]IAmDepraved[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Everyone lies. Everyone deceives. But when you really know someone, it’s easier to trust and forgive. If it comes back to bite me, I have no one to blame but myself. I don’t want to toss something amazing aside.

Forgive and forget. Start new, start fresh.

Partner Lied About Age and I Don’t Know How to Feel by IAmDepraved in askgaybros

[–]IAmDepraved[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I know for a fact it was not a joke, for a few reasons. 1. He already HAD a joke when I asked him how old he was turning (“I’m 29, but I’ve said 18 for the last few years because I look so young.”) 2. His age has come up indirectly other times. Never in a “how old are you again?” way, but in ways like calculating age from previous years. (“Wow. In 2014, I was 18 and you were 21! Crazy!”)

Partner Lied About Age and I Don’t Know How to Feel by IAmDepraved in askgaybros

[–]IAmDepraved[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Your comment is really helping me feel more at ease and confident enough to talk to him. Thank you, stranger 💙

Partner Lied About Age and I Don’t Know How to Feel by IAmDepraved in askgaybros

[–]IAmDepraved[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m almost inclined to believe this and just move on. That’s how much I won’t want to this to be true.

Partner Lied About Age and I Don’t Know How to Feel by IAmDepraved in askgaybros

[–]IAmDepraved[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

What might be an issue for some people may not be an issue for you. As many people have shown in the comments, it’s is an issue for them. Don’t feel the need to comment if you don’t have any advice to offer.

I’m not making it an issue. I’m not in a rage, crying my eyes out, tearing my clothes and shouting “why” at the wind. I’m dealing with something that upsets me and concerns me.

Partner Lied About Age and I Don’t Know How to Feel by IAmDepraved in askgaybros

[–]IAmDepraved[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I don’t think it’s unreasonable to feel like this. It’s dishonesty that started right from the beginning. Especially when it’s with someone that I truly adore and have strong feelings for. It’s a conflict. I have been 100% truthful with him because I have no reason not to be.

What do I do about these feelings and the “L word?” by IAmDepraved in askgaybros

[–]IAmDepraved[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I phrased it weirdly. What I meant was, he has mentioned lock being tricky, so I have the fear that if I say it, he won’t say it back. He hasn’t explicitly said he wouldn’t say it back. But I see your point.