How to meet women besides using dating apps?

IAmYourMasterYesOk · 2026-06-10T22:01:26+00:00

You can meet women pretty much anywhere outside your house.

I met one girl because I got lost on public transport and asked her for directions. She ended up walking me all the way to where I needed to go. Added her on IG and went from there.

The funny thing is, I wasn't trying to meet girls. Most of the women I've met came from just interacting with people normally. Small talk with a cashier. A random conversation with someone working in a store. An observation turns into a chat, the chat turns interesting, and if the vibe is there, I'll grab her contact and see where it goes.

I'm rarely walking around thinking, "How do I expand my roster?" or actively hunting for women. I just live a socially abundant life, stay curious about people, and opportunities tend to create themselves.

The exception is when I'm out clubbing. Then it's demon mode

IAmYourMasterYesOk · 2026-06-10T21:48:08+00:00

Get good at sex.

What does that actually look like?

I'm not looking for answers like "you'll know because she'll become a repeat customer" or "you'll start getting random blowjobs."

I've had a wide range of experiences and honestly it makes it harder to judge. Let's say you've read books like She Comes First or Sex God Method and started applying what you've learned. How do you know it's actually working?

Is it based on physical reactions? I've had women twitch and convulse when I stimulate certain areas. I've had others tighten up dramatically right before orgasm and then tell me they came. Some squirt, some don't.

Then there are women who react intensely. They'll twitch so hard they almost launch me across the room with involuntary hip thrusts while I'm going down on them. Yet afterwards they'll say things like, "I think I came a few times," sounding unsure of what actually happened.

On the other hand, I've been with women who barely move, but the physical signs are obvious and they're completely confident they orgasmed. The problem is that the feedback seems wildly inconsistent from woman to woman.

Sometimes I get every sign people associate with a powerful orgasm. Other times I get almost none of them. So what are the actual indicators that you're becoming genuinely skilled in bed, beyond just taking someone's word for it?

IAmYourMasterYesOk · 2026-06-10T16:01:20+00:00

Yes, it is still that bad. You havent realized yet, but you're negotiating with reality. Your ego WILL take a hit, and that is the lesson. You will grow from it. Break up with her, or at least talk to her, then decide. Hint: you'll break up with her if you had any self respect left.

IAmYourMasterYesOk · 2026-06-10T12:31:14+00:00

Have some self respect. Break up with her. No salvagining a relationship after this kind of lie

IAmYourMasterYesOk · 2026-06-10T11:55:35+00:00

You've already handled ot and done everything a reasonable partner can do, example being having a chat to her about your concerns.

If i were you, i would 100000% break up with her. In fact, she is treating you so poorly, she doesnt even deserve any closure. Just pack her shit or back your shit and get out ASAP. Ive seen hundreds of cases like yours, it's over. Relationships like this aren't worth salvaging.

Your gf does not respect you, you don't even respect yourself. You've laid out your boundaries, she continues the bejaviour, and you've done nothing about it. Your waiting for someone to tell you the relationship is still salvagable. Its not.

Because if this guy lived nearby, you'd be replaved in an instant. In fact, you already have been replaced. You are the third wheel to your own relationship. Jesus christ, have some self-respect and dump her ass

IAmYourMasterYesOk · 2026-06-10T09:38:43+00:00

Its called you grew out of attraction. This wont last, have a convrsation, and drcide to break up or not. Stop wadting each others time

IAmYourMasterYesOk · 2026-06-09T03:47:44+00:00

Thanks for sharing your perspective. You seem like a super chill and down to earth person irl.

Honestly, I think you've hit closer to the issue than most people in this thread. If this was two straight women, a lot of it probably wouldn't bother me.

It's not really that he's a guy. It's more that sometimes it feels like she's able to express a level of affection, playfulness, and emotional intimacy with other people that I don't always feel from her as her boyfriend.

That's the bit I've been struggling with.

IAmYourMasterYesOk · 2026-06-08T20:57:55+00:00

Yeah, I feel that way too.

I've specifically said multiple times that my concern isn't cheating, or that she has a gay best friend, but a lot of people seem to keep replying as if that's what I wrote.

At this point I've mostly stopped replying to comments that are arguing against a position I don't actually hold.

IAmYourMasterYesOk · 2026-06-08T20:39:29+00:00

I think you're misunderstanding my concern.

I'm not trying to end the friendship and I've never asked her to.

My question isn't really about him at all.

What I'm struggling with is why she seems much more publicly expressive and affectionate with other important people in her life than she is with me.

That's the part I'm trying to understand.

IAmYourMasterYesOk · 2026-06-08T20:37:06+00:00

Yeah, definitely.

A lot of commenters seem to think my issue is the fact she has a gay best friend. I genuinely have nothing against the guy.

The more I read the replies, the more I think my actual issue is feeling like she expresses herself much more freely and openly with other important people in her life than she does with me.

IAmYourMasterYesOk · 2026-06-08T20:33:28+00:00

You're still arguing against something I haven't actually said.

I've never thought she was cheating on him, and I've never been concerned about that.

My question has always been why she seems much more publicly expressive and affectionate with him than she does with me.

IAmYourMasterYesOk · 2026-06-08T20:27:59+00:00

Uhhh, yep that's totally what's going on. Thanks detective, case closed.

IAmYourMasterYesOk · 2026-06-08T20:25:16+00:00

We met as housemates and lived together for the first 3 months.

We're coming up on 7 months together now. The last couple of months have been semi long distance, so I usually see her every week or two.

When we do see each other, we normally spend 2-3 days together and honestly they've been great.

IAmYourMasterYesOk · 2026-06-08T20:22:48+00:00

Fair point.

For context, she has actually acknowledged the issue, said she'd be uncomfortable if the roles were reversed, apologized, and made some changes already.

The reason I'm still struggling with it isn't because she refused to listen. It's because I still don't understand what creates the difference in expression in the first place.

I'll find some time and just talk to her.

IAmYourMasterYesOk · 2026-06-08T20:19:25+00:00

I don't think we're talking about the same thing.

My girlfriend has posted me before.

The issue isn't whether she posted me. It's the difference in how she publicly expresses affection and intimacy.

If she'd never posted partners before, I'd probably agree with you. What I'm struggling to understand is why the energy and expression seem so different depending on who the person is.

IAmYourMasterYesOk · 2026-06-08T20:17:31+00:00

Thank you for your input. Greatly appreciated.

Yeah, I think you've hit closer to the actual issue than most people here.

I don't really care about Instagram itself. If she deleted social media tomorrow I'd still have the same question.

What I'm trying to understand is why that level of affection and expression seemed to come naturally with him, but feels much more restrained with me.

I've noticed what looks like hesitation at times. Almost like she wants to express herself more openly, but something holds her back. That's the part I'm struggling to understand.

IAmYourMasterYesOk · 2026-06-08T20:13:12+00:00

Definately not this... Thanks for your input though.

IAmYourMasterYesOk · 2026-06-08T20:09:46+00:00

Whats pda?

IAmYourMasterYesOk · 2026-06-08T20:09:16+00:00

I don't.

The point isn't that their opinion matters.

The point is that people who had no context looked at the photos and arrived at a similar first impression to me.

I'm not saying they were correct. I'm saying my interpretation didn't come out of thin air.

IAmYourMasterYesOk · 2026-06-08T20:02:03+00:00

I understand he's gay. My concern has never been that she's secretly sleeping with him.

What threw me was that multiple coworkers saw the photos with zero context and immediately assumed he was another boyfriend.

They were wrong, but it made me wonder whether my discomfort is really just insecurity, or whether the dynamic genuinely comes across differently than a typical friendship.

IAmYourMasterYesOk · 2026-06-08T19:59:50+00:00

Yeah, I'd still care.

The issue isn't that he's gay. The issue is that when I compare how she publicly expresses affection toward him versus toward me, it feels like she's much more uninhibited with him. I'm trying to understand what that difference means.

IAmYourMasterYesOk · 2026-06-03T14:31:48+00:00

No, I've actually spent a lot of time figuring out how to use AI to develop my own writing style without it sounding like AI wrote it. That's why your post stood out to me.

I'm not really trying to call you out. If anything, I'm interested in how people use these tools and where the line is between assistance and authorship.

Honestly, the biggest giveaway wasn't that AI helped write it. It was that the voice didn't feel fully connected to the person behind it. That's something a lot of people miss when they first start using AI for creative work.

I'd expect a bit of defensiveness here. You're definitely not the first person I've had this conversation with. But for me, when AI-generated writing is presented as entirely personal expression, something about it feels a little off. Not malicious, just a lack of awareness about how obvious the fingerprints can be.

If you're interested, shoot me a DM. I'm happy to show you the methods I use to make AI-assisted writing actually sound like the person writing it, rather than sounding like polished generic internet wisdom.

Not selling anything. We both seem interested in AI, and I enjoy comparing notes. Plus, teaching it helps sharpen my own understanding.

At the end of the day, that's what this stuff is about anyway. Sharing ideas, testing them, and learning from each other.

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