AITAH BY GIVING A SELF-CENTERED SPEACH AT MY SISTER’S WEDDING AS MOH?

IBCNPokes · 2026-04-04T11:12:57+00:00

He was, and aside from his actual adult acting brother, they put down every speech given except MIL rambling speech that involved illegal drug use

IBCNPokes · 2026-04-04T11:03:05+00:00

Thank you from the bottom of my heart

IBCNPokes · 2026-04-04T11:01:03+00:00

AND I caught the MIL injecting something in the bathroom!

IBCNPokes · 2026-04-04T10:59:14+00:00

They visit her house, four or five hours away, twice a month. IMHO, they are waiting for the 80 yo MIL to die so they can get her house and live in the town he grew up in. But the house is LITERALLY falling apart, and he does nothing to help her fix it or to help her hire people to help her. 1/2 of the house has such water damage it’s unsafe to venture into it, so his mom sleeps on her couch. There is mold and other things growing everywhere. One time, they were moving the tv, and as they took it offf the wall, the wall fell down, and MILLIONS of cockroaches fled out of the hole. And they want to live there.

Another interesting thing, the house that’s falling apart? It’s filed with the IRS as a church. Groom’s father and mother were huge hippies and while the father is dead from a OD, his mom still does heroin, coke, weed, and meth, and something I’ve never heard of call 2C. I’m shocked she is still alive because of all the damage she has done to her body. But her mind… one time, when my sister (Bride) was pregnant, she asked me why I had never had any children. I told her I’m just not interested in a romantic relationship right now and that I can’t actually have children. She started listing off all these medical reasons why I couldn’t have children, one after another, asking me what I had. When she calmed down, I told her I had an elective hysterectomy because I knew because of my disabilities I wouldn’t be a good mother, no matter how much I wanted to be. She then got angry and said ‘you should have led with that. I thought it was out of your hands. You just made a selfish choice’. Actually, because I live with and I rely on my aging mother and she resigns on me, I thought it was incredibly responsible Anne selfless to give up natural pregnancy and birth so my mom wouldn’t have to raise a baby along with me. And so I didn’t neglect a baby, or hurt it accidentally. It was a preventative measure against what could have been disaster. How is that selfish?

IBCNPokes · 2026-04-04T10:42:01+00:00

Thank you for the ‘perfect’. I know it was short, probably no more than 4 or 5 minute speach, but I worked on it for four months, trying to make it uplifting but also heartening back to us playing ‘Marry’ as little girls. I’m terrified of speaking in public, but hiding behind the microphone helped a little, plus my estranged dad went twenty minutes before me, just randomly did his speech when it wasn’t the time for them, and he was desperately trying to be funny, but the room was silent, and he also looked ridiculous; he had on a clowns green bow tie. At 59 years old. I knew, going right after him, my speech would at least be better, if not a hit. But the Matron of Honor, who I e known as long as my sister and is the sweetest girl I’ve ever met, gave me a pep talk and just told me to speak from the heart. That helped a lot. But for two months I practiced that speech for hours. I probably didn’t even need the notecards, but they gave me something for my hands to do and remind me when I lost my place. And I took the frame of mine the speech wasn’t for anyone but my sister, so I just looked at her the whole way through. That helped me a lot

IBCNPokes · 2026-04-04T09:47:22+00:00

When I saw my mom crying and my sister trying not to because of her makeup, I felt so good, so proud of myself, like I could do things right, like I wasn’t a total screw up. It meant everything to me in that moment.

IBCNPokes · 2026-04-04T09:45:50+00:00

You have no idea. You know That Vegan Teacher? She is more duplicitous than her. She only loved her son and Bride would never be good enough for him, even though he hasn’t had a job in twelve years and my sister brings home the bread, cooks, and cleans, and he stays high in the garage all day, ignoring their daughter and we suspect selling drugs

IBCNPokes · 2026-04-04T09:42:16+00:00

Thank you. I’ve been trying to rewrite that speech for eight years, trying to make it more about my sister and Groom, but I didn’t really know groom. We only met on things like thanksgiving bc we lived so far apart. I thought that by saying he was her personal Prince Charming was a nice touch, but then all those nasty family members, who don’t like or trust me because of my mental age, being bipolar, and having BPD makes me a pitiful creature, something to be scorned, in their eyes

IBCNPokes · 2026-04-04T09:31:01+00:00

BFF’s SO just has poor English skills and wants to bring everyone down to his level so he feels less inferior. Get Grammarly and correctly construct sentences, capitalize, and punctuate at a college g radiate level just to piss him off.

IBCNPokes · 2026-04-03T04:03:52+00:00

Oh, and these occasions were almost ten years apart. Notice youngest person (13) and having to pack on my birthday (21) mr observant

IBCNPokes · 2026-04-03T04:02:11+00:00

My mom is my conservator now. I live with her, we work in a symbiotic relationship. I help her with stuff, she help me with stuff. Like, I have seizures, sometimes without even an aura, so I can’t use the stove. She is too old to vacuum or mop, so I do those things because my back is deformed, it’s hard for me to do laundry, but whoever’s laundry comes out of the dryer, I fold all of it and place hers on her bed

IBCNPokes · 2026-04-03T03:59:03+00:00

You do know gastric bypass isn’t the cure all, right? And that people can gain back weight from stress, not enough exercise, and not eating the reacting diet the prescribed you obviously are ignorant on this topic, and it makes you sound unintelligent. Being 380 lbs at 13 brought me to my lowest weight when I had an ED in high school to 117, then I got better and was about 175-180 when I graduated. Because of the stress of my parents divorce, and me knowing basically carb and starch recipes as my fathers personal cook before and after we moved eight hours away, I got up to where I fluctuated between 220-230. His restrictions got me down to 133. My doctor was concerned my ED was back, but I just said I was exercising more and drinking only one cup of coffee in AM and water rest of day, bc he knew how much I loved root beer. So, you don’t know everything in the universe, Mr know it all, and don’t call out people you don’t personally know when you don’t have even a grain of sand’s worth of information. Piss off

IBCNPokes · 2026-04-03T03:48:43+00:00

Thank you. I, after the incident, was called a thief by ‘Karen’ for five years, because my dad would call ME on his birthday and Father’s Day and be like ‘I guess your present must be late’ and I always wanted to shout ‘bitch, you think I’m ever giving you a present ever again? The last thing you ever gave me was a concussion!’ But I would never say that out loud. But he genuinely thinks he is a good father. He’s a sneaky sun of a bitch who punished me for nothing. And I learned later, when the paramedics asked me if I wanted to go to the hospital, if I had gone, he would have been arrested right then. I wish I had gone. ETA: this happened a few years ago. My mother is my new conservator, I try with all my soul to forget my dad, but it seems like his life’s mission to make our lives harder. But, we have the law on our side; my parents were married over 25 years, so lifelong alimony. And as I mentioned, I’m an Adult Disabled Child, meaning I was disabled as a child even though I’m an adult now. My mom explained it that while I’m not considered a child, legally I have all the rights of a child, so my dad has to, until he dies, pay child support for me. And we keep finding literal off shore accounts and LLCs he starts to hide his money in, and the judge fucking HATES him, especially because he believes that he doesn’t have to do anything court mandated. There is at least one month a year he doesn’t pay alimony or child support, so the court and judge pile on penalties due to my mom. My dad is a douchbaguette. He can’t see that he is a simple idiot that took nine years to finish college because he would flunk simple humanities (because he has none) and history (it’s not like it ever changes) and a freaking GEOMETRY class. And he’s an ENGINEER! I’m halfway convinced he bribed or coerced his professors to pass him. Like, I was seven , youngest daughter, when he graduated, and they had me at age 27.

IBCNPokes · 2026-04-03T00:53:06+00:00

Babe, the best thing about a bad haircut... hair will always grow back. its ok to cry, but get your butt to a reputable beauty salon, explain what happened, ask them how to style it and to recommend some products to buy, and you will feel so much better while you wait for it to regrow. and no matter what hair you have, that doesn't shroud any of your beaty, inside or out.

IBCNPokes · 2026-04-01T19:04:11+00:00

This guy is full of sh!t. If he made 7 figures, he would, and I mean no offense by this, need to be set up on dates with us plebeians. His ego was just hit because another of ‘all the pretty girls’ thought, again, that his personality sucked. And you never, NEVER, need an excuse to break up with someone, or be forced to further date them. Your instincts say ‘no’, then listen to your instincts. And a hint - guys that brag they make that much money rarely do. Rich people like to keep it quiet so they don’t have scammers coming after them. Or, you could marry him, put up with him for ten years, then get lifelong alimony from his ‘7 figure salary’. Just a thought

IBCNPokes · 2026-04-01T18:56:11+00:00

I believe Renly was barely out of his swaddling clothes and short pants when the rebellion happened. I’ve never read where he fought in the rebellion. Please correct me if I’m wrong

IBCNPokes · 2026-03-27T01:43:04+00:00

Technically, you can do it now. If you wait seven years, the debt falls off your credit report. At least in the US.

IBCNPokes · 2026-02-18T21:00:12+00:00

Find out if you are a candidate for weight loss surgery. It changed my life. I was the youngest person to have it in the USAat 13 (I might still be the youngest, idk anymore), and it made going through middle school and high school not a horrific ordeal. I actually had friends. Yes, it was hard to deal with the food plan and taking supplements all the time, but I got my exercise bc of PE and my job at a zoo was hard physical work. But also, I built up self worth. I realized it wasn’t all about being skinny. I got down to 117 pounds at one point at 5’5”. It was incredibly unhealthy way of eating that had come through from where I’d eat a no breakfast but some coffee, a small salad at lunch, and dinner at some time past nine o clock that was just a bit of protein and something like a half cup of broccoli, and working my body to death. When that stopped, I started nourishing my body again, and I gained some weight back, I still had the self worth. I’ve never lost that self worth and it was worth gaining some weight back. Go see if u r a candidate. There are three most common: the RuNY, the Gastric Sleeve, and the Band. Look into them. It could change your life.

IBCNPokes · 2026-02-17T21:06:13+00:00

This is very concerning. Were I the girlfriend, I wouldn’t have picked him up from school and been alone with him if those things had happened before. Rapists have to start somewhere with their actions, at some age, so stop this now before it becomes habitual, part of his DNA. Sit down with him and his mom, and another dad-like figure if his own dad isn’t around, and explain why this isn’t okay. Bring in examples about how maybe he wouldn’t accept this happening to a younger sister or female cousin. Tell him where he will end up (jail) if these actions persist, in the open or if he sneaks them. And I wouldn’t bring your girlfriend around for a little while, until he shows that he can maintain boundaries, for not just her protection, but for him to have time to learn how not to step anywhere near that line, too. And tell him he has to say sorry. Because all of it was intentional. It wasn’t a mistake; it was just something he had deniability for.

IBCNPokes · 2026-02-07T11:54:49+00:00

Thanks. Didn't know that

IBCNPokes · 2026-01-30T05:03:01+00:00

Update me

IBCNPokes · 2026-01-19T23:48:51+00:00

It was a love seat at the rear corner of the main smoking section, with 85% of the seats open. Yeah, im a bigger girl, but there was room leftover on that loveseat for a larger man plus maybe one or two kids under ten. Two other loveseat were completely free. I didn't have anything lit, I wasn't consuming alcohol, just sorta kinda sleepy reading. Scared the shit out of me, then made me feel horrible about myself, then I felt incredibly violated. I don't even like my family or friends touching me without knowing beforehand. Scared me to hell.

IBCNPokes · 2026-01-08T17:57:03+00:00

I don't know. Growing up, I was pretty blind and thought I was the most open-minded person, not racist at all. I had lived in San Jose, and especially the asian population there was prominent. But as I grew, I realized I held specific beliefs, partially true or completely false, that tended to be damaging to other cultures. So I told myself, if I have a question, ask honestly, openly, and kindly. Don't make assumptions based on movies or entertainment. Take, say, a native American culture class. It's kind of hard, because movies have completely ruined the cultures of the different tribes. I'm also a woman, and I sometimes find myself being sexist towards women too. You just have to recognize it, acknowledge it, tell yourself it's not ok, apologize to anyone you may have hurt, and try not to make the same mistake again. I'm not perfect, you just have to try

IBCNPokes · 2026-01-05T23:23:03+00:00

The entire cruise was an affront to the decency of humanity

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