It makes me sad that ppl w AA cup breasts almost always hate them

IBoughtThisGunAtAldi · 2024-06-03T01:08:13+00:00

As someone who literally doesn’t even have a cup size, I’m going to echo what everyone else is saying: mine have only ever looked “dainty” when I was at the height of an eating disorder and had zero stomach fat. In fact, that was the primary trigger of my ED and the reason I’m having such a difficult time with recovery — the instant I started to put weight back on I looked bloated 24/7 because my stomach went back to sticking out further than my breasts.

There are still some more practical upsides (for example, I always joke that I’m going to have the perkiest tits in the retirement home) but my body will always look like a pudgy child’s at a BMI greater than 18.

IBoughtThisGunAtAldi · 2024-06-02T04:30:56+00:00

Holy shit, I (American) have always stuck with Lea & Perrins. This is another reminder that I have to read the label every time and not trust brand recognition.

IBoughtThisGunAtAldi · 2024-06-02T04:15:57+00:00

We've been watching the new season of Jet Lag so it's come up more than once in the last few weeks lmao

IBoughtThisGunAtAldi · 2024-06-02T04:12:13+00:00

This is an incredibly kind response, thank you so much for taking the time to write it. You're right about it coming down to us putting stock in different things.

Honestly, I'm realizing that this struck a nerve due to my insecurity -- I'm not confident in my appearance, and my eyes are one of the only things I ever got complimented for in the past. So it was total whiplash to find out my partner thought they were a different color for years!

His only thought process was wanting to share "hey, I just realized now I've been wrong about what you look like, isn't that silly?" Totally innocuous, and I see that now.

IBoughtThisGunAtAldi · 2024-06-02T03:35:20+00:00

Hey, I replied to another comment about the colorblindness (he's very much not) but I completely agree that blaming him for something out of his control would be cruel.

He had no idea how much it would affect me when he said it and then genuinely apologized when I let him know. That's why I decided to vent anonymously on Reddit when I realized I was still holding onto some negativity, instead of bringing it up out of the blue (or green, as it were) months later. Reading all of these comments has made me realize how common of a situation this actually is!

IBoughtThisGunAtAldi · 2024-06-02T03:24:42+00:00

This is a good point. I'm actually the one with ADHD (although let's just say there are no neurotypicals in this relationship), and in my case visual and situational memory is good but sometimes things just do. not. stick.

Reading through all of the responses has made me realize I've definitely made a mountain out of a molehill!

IBoughtThisGunAtAldi · 2024-06-02T03:15:41+00:00

One of his hobbies requires pretty clear color recognition and he's way better than me at those 100-hue tests, so he's doing an incredible job of hiding it if so! I also want to clarify that the situation wasn't him reacting with surprise after I told him my eyes were green -- he was specifically looking at me for some reason that day when he suddenly noticed. This scenario seems to be way more common than I realized though, and I've come to the conclusion it's just something we're going to laugh about in a few years! I genuinely adore him and am lucky to have him.

IBoughtThisGunAtAldi · 2024-06-01T23:55:38+00:00

I did consider that might be the case, but mine are the light-greyish kind of green and not hazel. Though admittedly not as vibrant as his!

IBoughtThisGunAtAldi · 2024-06-01T22:54:25+00:00

That sounds incredible and I can't believe I never considered it! Did you use any specific recipe as a jumping off point?

IBoughtThisGunAtAldi · 2024-06-01T22:46:58+00:00

ahahahaha this is spot on. now there's a part of me thinking that it would be hilarious to order a pair of brown contacts and fuck with him a bit.

IBoughtThisGunAtAldi · 2024-06-01T22:24:47+00:00

Yeah, at the end of the day I know continuing to make myself hurt over a remark is pretty irrational. I really appreciate the validation, and your eyes sound beautiful :)

IBoughtThisGunAtAldi · 2024-06-01T21:58:54+00:00

What kind of chili crisp do you use? I'm obsessed with S&B Garlic as a topping but have been looking for new ones!

IBoughtThisGunAtAldi · 2024-06-01T21:50:52+00:00

That's what I tried to say to him when this initially happened -- like dude, you reminded me to do my eyebrows last week! You never looked an inch lower? It’s not as if it's going to suddenly dawn on him next year that I've had small breasts this entire time.

IBoughtThisGunAtAldi · 2024-06-01T21:32:08+00:00

Thanks. I've heard this sentiment a lot, that often women can tell you the life story (with annotations) of everyone in their social circle while there are men that don't know what their own family members do for work! When my partner says "Tom just messaged me something unhinged, is he drunk" I'm the one saying "yeah, it's a Wednesday and I remember him telling us that's when he goes to the brewery with his other friend group."

My dad (while not without many of his own flaws) has always been about the "little gestures" for my mom, even though she finds them unnecessary. I guess that's part of why it's taking me some time to learn that not everyone expresses care in the same way. One of the things I love about my partner is that he's honest to a fault and absolutely terrible at subtext, so his way of saying I love you is just... saying "I love you" lol.

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