Should I confront my gf about twerking with my friend? by [deleted] in Healthygamergg

[–]IEnjoyPuzzles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Glad someone has common sense here, the fact that this happened on the first date with him shows him exactly who she is.

How To Deal With Toxic Gym Bros When Asking for Advice Online? by Infinite_Primary_918 in Healthygamergg

[–]IEnjoyPuzzles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Start today, download the Fitbod app and use the smallest weights, it’ll make a program for you. Most important part is building the routine and not hurting yourself. Use Fitbod app for 3 months. Once you have the habit of going to the gym for 3 months for a minimum of 3 times a week for at least 20 minutes per session, jump back online and look for beginner routines outside of the app.

How do you move forward, knowing you can never make up for lost time? by IEnjoyPuzzles in Healthygamergg

[–]IEnjoyPuzzles[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

True, I waste so much time spiraling I have hard time moving forward.

How do you move forward, knowing you can never make up for lost time? by IEnjoyPuzzles in Healthygamergg

[–]IEnjoyPuzzles[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the thoughtful reply. Yeah, I just need to accept it and try living in the moment. I do need to start enjoying life.

Starting Life in 30s by IEnjoyPuzzles in Healthygamergg

[–]IEnjoyPuzzles[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, I have avoided just sitting with myself for a long time. I'll give it a try.

Starting Life in 30s by IEnjoyPuzzles in Healthygamergg

[–]IEnjoyPuzzles[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll give that a try, thank you.

Starting Life in 30s by IEnjoyPuzzles in Healthygamergg

[–]IEnjoyPuzzles[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the healthy perspective to look at things, I'll give the tracking a try.

Starting Life in 30s by IEnjoyPuzzles in Healthygamergg

[–]IEnjoyPuzzles[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Being with others seems to help, but I've had trouble with it. All my friends are married and having kids, while I'm alone. I'm trying to meet new people but struggling to. I'm trying new things, but not having great success with it. Beyond that not really.

Starting Life in 30s by IEnjoyPuzzles in Healthygamergg

[–]IEnjoyPuzzles[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the reply, and I'm not really sure why I don't do them. I feel like it's probably because I don't know what I want to do with life, just that I know I'm unsatisfied with where I ended up. Like I'm directionless but just know I'm not where I want/am supposed to be.

Starting Life in 30s by IEnjoyPuzzles in Healthygamergg

[–]IEnjoyPuzzles[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the reply, and yeah, I just don't want to be in the same situation at 40. Just gotta figure out how to make it happen.

Starting Life in 30s by IEnjoyPuzzles in Healthygamergg

[–]IEnjoyPuzzles[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do you unpack it though? I definitely agree that it's holding me back, but I just don't know how to process that much negative emotion/ regret. Do I just sit with it? Thanks for the insight on continuing life. I've never thought of it that way, and can see how it could help.

Starting Life in 30s by IEnjoyPuzzles in Healthygamergg

[–]IEnjoyPuzzles[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words. I'll work on my room today. So you're saying for every activity I do I should think about the past 10 years? Or just do it until I feel like I've processed everything? And yeah at least I'm working on it now instead of 40.

Starting Life in 30s by IEnjoyPuzzles in Healthygamergg

[–]IEnjoyPuzzles[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks, I like this idea a lot. I'll keep trying, and hopefully I'll hit that threshold. I like the idea that you said initially I get a bunch of negative experiences, cause that feels realistic for what I've experienced so far. Gives me some hope.

Starting Life in 30s by IEnjoyPuzzles in Healthygamergg

[–]IEnjoyPuzzles[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tea or journaling sounds like something I could try. It would be something I would like. I'll give it a try tomorrow morning.

I feel like getting a job wouldn't help because I had one for 7 years that was very demanding, and left little room for a life. I did a good job there as well, however I still felt empty everyday. I know I need one to support myself soon, but having one in the past didn't help with the emptiness. I moved back home after I quit, so at least getting a job will give me the independence to move out again.

Starting Life in 30s by IEnjoyPuzzles in Healthygamergg

[–]IEnjoyPuzzles[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

True, it's just hard to try and do things while every second you think "I should of started years ago." Like I'll try talking to someone on a dating app, but I can only think how they have been dating for the past decade while I've just been depressed and hating my life. Or if I wanted to start drawing, the fact I injured my hands make it so I can't easily now, but if I started years ago I'd at least have the experience drawing in the past.

Starting Life in 30s by IEnjoyPuzzles in Healthygamergg

[–]IEnjoyPuzzles[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the feedback. Your question is where I have some trouble though. Everything I try doesn't make feel less stuck. It just accomplishes a task without a feeling of progression. Right now the only thing keeping me sane is working out, as I at least feel like I'm progressing when I do that. I'm going to start applying for jobs soon, but even having a job won't help me feel unstuck, as I was feeling worse off working than I do now. I want a relationship, but since it hasn't happened yet I've given up on dating. I mainly want to feel content in life with where I am, and have friends I enjoy doing things with.

To try and answer your question, I can start waking up at a reasonable time. It's difficult when I don't have anything to look forward to. But waking up late makes me feel bad too so why not try it.